Hi all. New here. Checking out the topics when I found this. Maybe you can help. God's being quiet on the matter. 
Ok. There's this girl, I'll call her Rose. We met 1.5 years ago at a New Years party. I'll start right out and tell you that she's mentally handicapped. Recently she told me her story and suffice it to say, it's not pretty. She wasn't always like this, only for the last 4 years. Despite this handicap, she's actually pretty smart, but not up to average. She doesn't talk too much, doesn't have any hobbies, well, the few hobbies she has I'm not interested in and can't relate to. She's pretty, but not attractive to me. She's very "clingy."
Oddly, though, the more she hangs around me at social settings and church, the more I begin to like her. I don't know why, but there's something there that I really care for. I'm searching myself now. Maybe it's a need to help, maybe a want to help the underdog (I've have a soft spot for underdog social rejects since middle school since I was one too but with a higher self-esteem.) I find myself thinking of her at odd times. Last week she got the upper hand on me and cornered me into a date with her (long story). I accepted and we went out and had a nice dinner and walk on the waterfront together. We both definately needed that (I don't go out on dates too often, and I don't t think she does either).
I've taken this to God many times in the past week but he's been silent on this. Do I persue this as a full romantic relationship or am I confusing a new friendship with the opposite gender? She obviously wants to be romantic but right now the feeling isn't mutual. Things I can't get past are her below-average IQ and... well, nothing in common. Also, I'm trying not to let it effect my decision, but my parents would definately not approve (they're looking after my welfare and success, after all).
Does God want to humble me, giving me something I need but do not want? Is he ignoring what I want in a girl? Perhaps God has something incredible planned for us. Should I give this a shot, like a "trial period"? To be honest, I'd rather avoid another heartbreak; I'm worried about investing too much in this only to break up later.
Any advice is appreciated. I'm a new Christian and have difficulty listening to God.
Ok. There's this girl, I'll call her Rose. We met 1.5 years ago at a New Years party. I'll start right out and tell you that she's mentally handicapped. Recently she told me her story and suffice it to say, it's not pretty. She wasn't always like this, only for the last 4 years. Despite this handicap, she's actually pretty smart, but not up to average. She doesn't talk too much, doesn't have any hobbies, well, the few hobbies she has I'm not interested in and can't relate to. She's pretty, but not attractive to me. She's very "clingy."
Oddly, though, the more she hangs around me at social settings and church, the more I begin to like her. I don't know why, but there's something there that I really care for. I'm searching myself now. Maybe it's a need to help, maybe a want to help the underdog (I've have a soft spot for underdog social rejects since middle school since I was one too but with a higher self-esteem.) I find myself thinking of her at odd times. Last week she got the upper hand on me and cornered me into a date with her (long story). I accepted and we went out and had a nice dinner and walk on the waterfront together. We both definately needed that (I don't go out on dates too often, and I don't t think she does either).
I've taken this to God many times in the past week but he's been silent on this. Do I persue this as a full romantic relationship or am I confusing a new friendship with the opposite gender? She obviously wants to be romantic but right now the feeling isn't mutual. Things I can't get past are her below-average IQ and... well, nothing in common. Also, I'm trying not to let it effect my decision, but my parents would definately not approve (they're looking after my welfare and success, after all).
Does God want to humble me, giving me something I need but do not want? Is he ignoring what I want in a girl? Perhaps God has something incredible planned for us. Should I give this a shot, like a "trial period"? To be honest, I'd rather avoid another heartbreak; I'm worried about investing too much in this only to break up later.
Any advice is appreciated. I'm a new Christian and have difficulty listening to God.
One thing that you're sure to learn as you become more mature in your faith is that these silences that you might think are from God don't mean that he's not listening to what you say to him. It's easy to think that sometimes when you are a mature Christian, but God's workings do not operate on our time schedules. His timing for each of us is perfect and will enable us to live our lives as he intends us to. 
