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ebd
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Hi Tom...
Just wanted to ask a question to clarify something...do you mean that when you say that you are fond of your friend, that you actually mean that you have romantic feelings for her? Or do you just mean that you feel fond of her in a platonic sort of way? It sounds as if you are saying that you have romantic feelings for her, but I just wanted to be sure.
By the way, I was wondering, how did you know for sure it was a word from the Lord that these feelings were from Him? I hope that I'm not being offensive by asking this.
I've made a major mistake in the past thinking that the Lord wanted me to marry a certain guy...and I waited 6 years for him...and he went and married someone else! The circumstances didn't fit with what I thought that God was saying...and it pretty much turned out that I wasn't listening to God at all...even when the only thing I wanted to do was to do what He wanted. So...I learned the hard way that not every impression or leading is from God...and that I need to test those things so that I don't get fooled by the "Gibeonites" that turn up in my life.
Maybe the circumstances for you will change over time, and maybe this girl will one day be open to a relationship with you but, in the meantime, I think that it would be good to respect her wish to have some space. I've also been in the ironic position of having another guy tell me that God told him that we were supposed to be together...but the Lord didn't tell me that! When he kept pressing me for a relationship...it made me want to get away him more quickly because he wasn't respecting my boundaries.
Anyways, maybe other people in the forum will have other suggestions to make.
God bless you!
ebd
Just wanted to ask a question to clarify something...do you mean that when you say that you are fond of your friend, that you actually mean that you have romantic feelings for her? Or do you just mean that you feel fond of her in a platonic sort of way? It sounds as if you are saying that you have romantic feelings for her, but I just wanted to be sure.
By the way, I was wondering, how did you know for sure it was a word from the Lord that these feelings were from Him? I hope that I'm not being offensive by asking this.
I've made a major mistake in the past thinking that the Lord wanted me to marry a certain guy...and I waited 6 years for him...and he went and married someone else! The circumstances didn't fit with what I thought that God was saying...and it pretty much turned out that I wasn't listening to God at all...even when the only thing I wanted to do was to do what He wanted. So...I learned the hard way that not every impression or leading is from God...and that I need to test those things so that I don't get fooled by the "Gibeonites" that turn up in my life.
Maybe the circumstances for you will change over time, and maybe this girl will one day be open to a relationship with you but, in the meantime, I think that it would be good to respect her wish to have some space. I've also been in the ironic position of having another guy tell me that God told him that we were supposed to be together...but the Lord didn't tell me that! When he kept pressing me for a relationship...it made me want to get away him more quickly because he wasn't respecting my boundaries.
Anyways, maybe other people in the forum will have other suggestions to make.
God bless you!
ebd
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