What makes a guy tuck?

[98cwitr]

What is all over that page?

I am not ruler over my wife, she and I make house rules together. That way we are both happy and in agreement.

 

[mkgal1]

What is all over that page?

I am not ruler over my wife, she and I make house rules together. That way we are both happy and in agreement.

I know....right? It really gives way to allow for abuse in the name of God ("I was just coming between you, honey, and all that "bad" out there! I'm protecting you and our family.").

Making household standards *together* is the only way I can see that it's truly two becoming one. Otherwise it's one trampling the other.....causing them to feel only a shell of who they used to be. I don't see anything that mirrors the nature of God in that (but I can see how some can--especially if they grew up with a domineering parent).

 

[98cwitr]

Not being able to be yourself in a marriage would build resentment really fast for me...and that goes for my wife too. I want her to be herself, because if she isn't, then she's not the girl I married.

We're way off topic I've tucked before in a joking fashion. Doing out of some other motivation, well...is weird.

 

[Teslafied]

Well I know he's controlling I guess I've allowed him to be to avoid his blow ups and because I love him.

 

[98cwitr]

Well I know he's controlling I guess I've allowed him to be to avoid his blow ups and because I love him.

Sweetheart...that aint love...it's codependency.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codependency

Usually is instilled from childhood trauma. I suffered from it until about 22 when I researched the topic for myself and educated myself on how my upbringing promoted unhealthy relationships. It was profound for me.

Do these symptoms fit you and/or your husband?

Commonly cited symptoms of codependency are:[1]

• intense and unstable interpersonal relationships,
• inability to tolerate being alone, accompanied by frantic efforts to avoid being alone,
• chronic feelings of boredom and emptiness,
• subordinating one's own needs to those of the person with whom one is involved,
• overwhelming desire for acceptance and affection,
• external referencing,
• dishonesty and denial, and
• low self-worth

 

[Teslafied]

Sweetheart...that aint love...it's codependency.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codependency

Usually is instilled from childhood trauma. I suffered from it until about 22 when I researched the topic for myself and educated myself on how my upbringing promoted unhealthy relationships. It was profound for me.

Do these symptoms fit you and/or your husband?

Lol we both have a lot of those.

 

[Dave-W]

There seems to be a growing trend in modern conservative Christianity (and maybe that's due to social media?) that promotes the idea that the husband is responsible for what "goes into" the home (what you're describing: reading material; television; music..etc),

That was common when I was a kid back in 1960 ......

 

[98cwitr]

Lol we both have a lot of those.

I would definitely start seeking a Christian therapist to start dealing with those issues....now.