According to Calvinist's, God channels man's supposed free will wherever He desires. They say man is born total depraved and must follow the dictates of satan. Except for the foreordained ones for whom at some point He changes their hearts out-of-the-blue, and suddenly they can freely and willingly cooperate with God. Calvinist's preach that God receives glory from the destruction of the ones He left in the state of Total Depravity (a state in which they are unable to cooperate with God).
No, God is not like that - per 1 Timothy 2:4 and 2 Peter 3:9 God desires all to be saved.
Ah yes, total depravity. I'm sure somewhere in the scriptures it must say something about what mankind is like. Oh yes Romans 3:11 thru 18 "There is no one righteous, not even one; there is no one who understands; there is no one who seeks God. All have turned away, they have together become worthless; there is no one who does good, not even one. Their throats are open graves; their tongues practice deceit. The poison of vipers is on their lips. Their mouths are full of cursing and bitterness. Their feet are swift to shed blood; ruin and misery mark their ways, and the way of peace they do not know. There is no fear of God before their eyes.” But wait that was
just the Apostle Paul (who wrote almost half on the New Testament), so lets see what God the Son has to say and THAT should settle it. Matthew 15:19 "“For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies." Hmm, nuttin good there either? Nope, we are rotten to the core.
I feel sorry for your God, a God who is a slave to man's sinful free will. If our free will tells us to get saved, we get saved (of course satan will have something to say about that, like NO you are not!) And if our free will says "I love to sin more than righteousness" then we stay unregenerated. Eve used her free will in the Garden of Eden instead of following God's revealed will and we now reap the whirlwind of it. Death, wars, destruction, sin, murder, rape, adultery, abortion, lies, homosexuality, sexual perversions galore, lies, stealing and the list goes on and on. King Saul lost his kingdom because he followed his free will and not God's revealed will (1 Samuel 15:9.)
So you are worried about God's will in leaving some people in total depravity. We were all in total depravity at one point in our lives and then God "chose us in Christ before the foundation of the world" (Eph 1:4) God in His sovereignty decided to save some of us and He left the rest to their own devices and you are questioning Him for doing that? The clay has no right to question the Potter about what the Potter makes from the same lump of clay, either a thunder mug or a water pitcher. (See Romans 9:21.) Romans 9:22-23 "
What if God, wanting to show
His wrath and to make His power known, endured with much longsuffering the vessels of wrath prepared for destruction and that He might make known the riches of His glory on the vessels of mercy, which He had prepared beforehand for glory." Meaning? If God chooses to glorify Himself through letting people go their own way (free will) and letting them righteously receive His wrath
so as to make His power known, who can oppose Him? He might make known the riches of His glory on the vessels of mercy. As well, if God desires to be
more than fair with others, showing them His mercy, who can oppose Him? God is sovereign. We do not have the right to question His authority to do as He wishes with His creation.
1 Timothy 2:4 "[God] desires all men to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth." So we have two choices, since God desires ALL to be saved ALL will be saved, 100%! Hell will only be inhabited by satan and his demons. That means that Judas made it, even though Jesus said he didn't in John 17:12 “While I was with them in the world, I kept them in Your name. Those whom You gave Me I have kept; and none of them is lost
except the son of perdition, that the Scripture might be fulfilled." So ALL didn't make it. Millions die every day and go to a Christless grave. Neither of my parents were saved, neither was my older sister or brother, and I'm sure you know of people that were not saved when they died.
Two, it means the gospel must be presented to ALL without reservation, Jews and Gentiles, Kings and knaves, rich people and poor people, males and females, young and old, famous and not famous people, ALL must be presented with the gospel because Jesus is the ONLY way to heaven. The God of the Holy Scriptures is like that, sorry about yours.