But HOW does Martin realize that the life he is living is wrong? Or maybe I should say, HOW does Martin realize that the life he is living is more than regrettable? Mere conscience (which, btw, is also by God's grace) may convict him too, or the Spirit may, but either way, that too is the work of God; yet Martin will rebel, even if he has a pretty good intellectual grasp, he will not understand the depth of his guilt. And if he thinks he repents, he doesn't realize he is too weak. It is only by the Spirit of God, that one's repentance is real, i.e, valid.
You have no way of bypassing this mountain: The natural man cannot please God, will not and cannot submit to God's law, has no true faith and does not comprehend spiritual things.
The depth of guilt, btw, is beyond even the intellectual grasp of the regenerate, but not beyond the grasp of the Spirit of God in the regenerate. To me, THAT, (the merit or ability of the Spirit of God alone to realize the Gospel), is the ultimate principle behind the Reformed doctrine of regeneration, and my notion of, indeed, that same salvific grace and salvific faith remaining and effecting all virtues of the Redeemed for the duration of the life of the Redeemed. We do so, because God does it in us.
It can appear to occur all of a lump. I don't even deny the order as it appears in the Scriptures that
@Jesus is YHWH presents. What I deny is that regeneration is not 'begun' or effected before conviction and repentance. The logical sequence need not be shown, by way of cause-and-effect, to come up with the time sequence those verses show. I think that the new life is the continuing of the new birth. To put it crassly, more Spirit control is not more-valid Spirit, but more of the Spirit.
BTW,
@Jesus is YHWH, the verses such as you show, and there are many more, that give an apparent time sequence, don't necessarily demonstrate even a time sequence. But it is nice, that you at least admit to the every-time need for rebirth. You just don't seem to understand what causes it. After all, it is an Arminian thing to say Calvinism teaches it is automatic, but now you teach an automatic Spirit involvement upon repentance/confession/acceptance.