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What is this type of experience called?

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The following is my real life experience. I'd really like to know what this type of experience is called from a christian point of view. I'm a newbie Christian, this event took place 20 years ago.

We were planning to get married, and had brought our wedding forward because my mum was terminally ill. We changed the venue from a garden wedding to a church, not for religious reasons but simply because mum would be able to be wheeled into the church. Mum was a physically beautiful woman and all my life I wanted to look as beautiful as she did on her wedding day, she was mesmerizing.

Tragically, mum passed away 2 weeks before our wedding. I was absolutely and totally devastated but somehow found the strength to complete our wedding plans and be happy on our day.

Our wedding cars and my Dad arrived to take me to the church and as I stood outside ready to pile into the car there was a woman standing on the other side of the road outside her car looking at me. Nothing surprising, I was in a Wedding gown and had two gorgeous Jaguars outside my home. But she started to walk over to me and my father to say something. To be honest I was a little annoyed as I was already late, so Dad said hello to her as I fussed around getting more and more anxious. Then she came to me and said that she just had to tell me that I looked like a lady she used to know when she was 18, 35 years ago. I asked who that was and she replied with my mother's maiden name. Dead silence from both my Dad and me...we were stunned. Dad replied to the lady that the woman she was talking about was my mother and she had recently passed away. It was then the lady's turn to be stunned. She looked really confused and bewildered at this point.

After a little more chatting Dad and the lady realized that they knew each other, they all used to socialize together before they were married. Then she turned to Dad and asked which suburb she was in because she didn't remember how she got here. WHAT??? She didn't know where she was?? We lived in a deadend suburb, it wasnt a thoroughfare to another place, it was a suburb that didn't lead to anywhere but the river at the bottom of the hill. Dad gave her directions to the main road and she was gone as quickly as she appeared.

I've always attributed this to a higher "energy" at play. Do you think this was the work of God? I'm not asking for an affirmation, just your christian opinion. Surely things like this have happened to other Christians. How does the church explain these events?
 
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Yes I have had that type of thing happen, not as dramatic as yours though.

A lot of them have been with churches. Like going to a church for the first time in years and meeting a family that lived at the end of my street. They were the ones who gave me a lift to church for quite a while.

God knew what you needed at the time. Did it feel comforting in a way?
 
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It did give me a lot of comfort, but both Dad and I were left emotionally moved and confused.

There is a sequel to this story, 4 years earlier my friend was getting married, I was running late for the wedding ceremony, so the church was reasonable full. As I entered at the back of the church and walked down the aisle to find a seat, I saw a man in the front row, I only saw the back of his head as he was looking at the pulpit. But, his head seemed to glow, it was the first thing I saw as I walked in. I couldn't take my eyes off him and as I sat down next to my friend I asked who the man was. When I eventually met him I was mesmerized.

To cut a long story short, he went home and told his friends that he had met the woman he was going to marry.

24 years later we are still happily married.
 
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I had only broken up with my ex-fiancee 3 days before my nursing prac in another city. I was a mess even though I had done the breaking up. Another nursing student took me under her wing and we became friends. She was nothing like other friends I had before; she was confident, loud, party-goer- my complete opposite in fact.

Well the 'wallflower' on the rebound was dragged out on the town to meet Jas' boyfriend (and mates) who wanted a couple of female partners to take to the end-of-year army party. Yup, the formerly prudish catholic all girl schoolgirl was going to have to deal with real men this time.

Apparently hubby was the one looking at ME in the nightclub. He was very surprised when he was told by his mate that I was one of 'the girls' to meet. I am ashamed to say I don't really remember that much because I was trying to freeze everyone out. Somehow he managed to get past all my defenses. Perhaps the strong silent type after the other extreme was irresistible?

Hubby is so completely my opposite except for the introverted personality. I stir him by saying that he must balance me out, complete me etc. He hates soppy talk.

My marriage is the only one that has lasted in my family. That is one out of four. I married an exceptionally strong, patient man from an extremely stable loving family. Christian women have whinged about their husbands and by the sounds of things his character is much more of a 'christian' man than many christian men. How he has managed to cope with all my skeletons in the closet and still be as stable.... the only thing that I would change (other than liking Rugby League too much and being too logical/organised) is for him to be a christian.

That desire for him to become christian is only a fairly recent one. My ex was a fake one and I was repulsed by all christian men. Typing a certain email to this pastor who does online radio shows was very cathartic. Hearing him go through it for the sake of other young christian women was very healing - I suppose this is the type of experience you mean as well?

. How to Spot a Fake Godly Man - SermonAudio.com
 
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This was indeed the work of God.

The very hairs on your head are all numbered. Two birds are sold for a penny, yet not one falls to the ground apart from the will of our Holy Father.
The Father knows where we sit and where we rise; he perceives our thoughts from afar. The Father forms the hearts of all people and considers everything we do.

What this means however is between yourself and God. God loves you dearly.
 
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