My husband claims "not my culture" when it comes to helping with the cooking. I'd post in married forum but I am not even allowed despite my marital status in my account...but anyway:
In this era, it is hard for me to find the line in the grey area that is what is people's responsibilities, how serious and when we take them way too seriously, etc.
I have a 3 month old baby and people (even from his culture, minus they grew up here vs back in Taiwan) ask him "so you do some of the cooking?" "I guess you do a lot of cooking now?"
As if this is a normal thing to help a new mother. Except NOPE. My husband makes all kinds of excuses to avoid it.
My husband also is a save face type (just like in his "culture") and I even see him flat face lying to people from both church and not from church alike. I am always in this moral frustration to interject and correct him as if his memory is horrible because he makes himself sound like he does more than he ever does, or even pretends he totally agrees with someone's idea at small group. I told him they don't need his "affirmation" of their own thoughts, we are supposed to be REAL here.
He also called me useless for not packing his lunch box!
I am very dedicated to making the baby happy and want her to have good moral compass...but with him around, how can I? I have to do it in secret of what is and isn't a good man to marry. I feel at battle everyday of my life.
In this era, it is hard for me to find the line in the grey area that is what is people's responsibilities, how serious and when we take them way too seriously, etc.
I have a 3 month old baby and people (even from his culture, minus they grew up here vs back in Taiwan) ask him "so you do some of the cooking?" "I guess you do a lot of cooking now?"
As if this is a normal thing to help a new mother. Except NOPE. My husband makes all kinds of excuses to avoid it.
My husband also is a save face type (just like in his "culture") and I even see him flat face lying to people from both church and not from church alike. I am always in this moral frustration to interject and correct him as if his memory is horrible because he makes himself sound like he does more than he ever does, or even pretends he totally agrees with someone's idea at small group. I told him they don't need his "affirmation" of their own thoughts, we are supposed to be REAL here.
He also called me useless for not packing his lunch box!
I am very dedicated to making the baby happy and want her to have good moral compass...but with him around, how can I? I have to do it in secret of what is and isn't a good man to marry. I feel at battle everyday of my life.