What is the difference between being shallow and personal preference?

[exitstageright]

IMO Shallow is someone that sets the bar impossibly high in their standards, standards they themselves can't live up to (a hypocrite) expecting perfection they themselves can not offer.

Personal preference is something you would "prefer" but if the right person came along but didn't meet that "perfect list" youd be willing to bend (in matters that are on looks, not on morals or theology etc. those are issues one shouldnt bend.)

For example, you may prefer blondes, but the "almost perfect" woman for you is a brunette. A shallow person would say "Not blonde" and move on. While the personal preference would say, yeah Id prefer a blonde, but she is an awesome woman.... and has value even if she doesnt have blonde hair.

There is a saying,that goes like this. "Men prefer blondes. But , they marry brunettes".

 

[zxcv]

Your honesty is refreshing. And theres nothing wrong with wanting what you want, we need more honesty like this in the world.

Except for when it's very blunt honesty apparently.

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

Except for when it's very blunt honesty apparently.

My issue with your post is that, okay you want something, what are you doing to go get it? Making a thread and getting the same answers isn't gonna get you what you want. Improving your weaknesses that are preventing you from getting you what you want is the only way you will ever have the girl you want.