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Stan, the problem is that "immoral" doesn't just mean "undesirable" to most people. Immoral acts are thought to have a special quality that goes beyond merely descriptive terms such as "undesirable", or even "cruel" or "selfish" or "thoughtless". Most people who describe acts as immoral or wrong think that the act should not be committed. And to them, that means more than merely that they would prefer that it wasn't committed. They think there is a quality of the act itself that makes it not-to-be-committed.
Other value judgements are a little different. When I say something is beautiful, I will probably agree with you if you say, "You mean that you find it aesthetically pleasing?" I'll probably agree that its beauty is subjective: I find it beautiful, but other people might not, and there's nothing inherent in the object that makes it beautiful, that makes it to-be-found-attractive. Moral judgements are different because when people say that an act is wrong, they believe they are describing something about the act itself, some quality of the act that makes it not-to-be-done.
Many people think that moral judgements are in a special category. Words like "right", "wrong", "good", "bad", "moral" and "immoral" are, in these people's opinions, fundamentally different from words like "beautiful", "elegant", "disgusting", "hideous". They think that the former refer to objective qualities of acts and objects - the (not)-to-be-done or (not)-to-be-desired-ness of them - while the latter refer merely to one's opinions and feelings about things.
So, to summarise, most people accept that value judgements about things like beauty or ugliness are subjective, and when they describe something as beautiful or ugly, they are willing to concede that they're really just talking about their preferences. But in the case of moral judgements, most people make no such concession; they believe that they are describing the act itself, not their preferences about it.
I often find it actually makes a pretty big difference, whether someone believes in objective morality or not.
Ah, yes, I agree with you, of course, when they say something is wrong, it is actually still just their opinion, they just don't realise it, I think. Getting bogged down with it just leads to irritation I find, for both parties.
More stubborn?
I don't know what "morality", "ethics" are.
I don't know what "good", "right, "moral" are.
I don't know what "bad", "evi", "wrong", "immoral" are.
As far as I'm concerned, these words have no meaning.
No, I usually don´t have these problems, and the problem I have with "right/wrong/moral/immoral" are not that they are hard to measure subjective descriptive words.While we're at it, in terms of consistency, would some of you who have a problem with understanding "right/wrong/moral/immoral etc" have the same problem with words such as "beautiful/intelligent/ugly etc" and countless other hard to measure subjective descriptive words.
So what confusion do you think I could possibly run into if taking this for a statement of your subjective taste? What else do people usually mean when they say "beautiful"?For example, if I said "that lady is beautiful", I assume that wouldn't meet your satisfaction
Well, if we don´t know what the words used are supposed to mean it will be hard to understand each other, and there isn´t even ground for spotting agreements or disagreements.True, but I guess most of us like to give our opinion on matters, and we can explain our point of view when a disagreement occurs.
He is actually quite funny and entertaining.I might pick it up then, if only to find out how he managed to write a whole book on the subject without stating the obvious or being overly patronising.
Are you trying to trick me into a patronizing statement?I do agree good communication is important, I'm just not sure if misunderstandings happen regularly enough to get overly concerned, especially as when a misunderstanding does occur, it is normally rectified. Perhaps I'm being naive?
I´m not sure what it is with this "patronizing" thing. I don´t advocate patronizing. This is a perfect example: I have no idea what this term might mean in the context of this discussion. I don´t know whom you find patronizing, what you find patronizing, and why.I guess in our heads, we try to be concise and non patronising.
Well, the OP didn´t feel that he understood the use of the term sufficiently (and I feel the same), so substantiating your harsh criticism of the OP by saying "we think the listener will likely understand us" makes no sense. He said he didn´t understand and he asked for clarification (exactly that which you agree one should do in case of confusion). He didn´t say anything to the effect that we should go into great detail all the time.To save time, if we think the listener will likely understand us, we wont go into great detail to explain why we hold an opinion, it would get boring for everyone if we did it all the time.
So what confusion do you think I could possibly run into if taking this for a statement of your subjective taste? What else do people usually mean when they say "beautiful"?
I´m wondering the following: You have often posted dilemmas and hypotheticals here in E&M. Were they just intended to ask for our personal preferences and dislikes? Was an answer like "I don´t like it" all you expected and would you have found it doing justice to your scenario and question?
From what I can tell from my experiences and observations on the E&M forum these discussions are ruled by fundamental misunderstandings founded in unclear use of words.
I´m not sure what it is with this "patronizing" thing. I don´t advocate patronizing. This is a perfect example: I have no idea what this term might mean in the context of this discussion. I don´t know whom you find patronizing, what you find patronizing, and why.
Well, the OP didn´t feel that he understood the use of the term sufficiently (and I feel the same), so substantiating your harsh criticism of the OP by saying "we think the listener will likely understand us" makes no sense. He said he didn´t understand and he asked for clarification (exactly that which you agree one should do in case of confusion). He didn´t say anything to the effect that we should go into great detail all the time.
He wanted to go into detail in this particular question, and the lack of straightforward answers - and instead a lot of criticism for even asking this question - indicates that there is good reason for seeking clarification.
I tried to point out that my experiences don´t make a misunderstanding of the way you use "beautiful" in this sentence (i.e. as a merely subjective statement of taste) probable (exactly that which you describe as a sufficiently reasonable assumption of the sort that is necessary to even enable economic communication).Just as you might not understand the word wrong, I figured you might not understand the word beautiful.
Well, I don´t know about the OP, but I am not asking for the reasons the person thinks something is "wrong" (or at least this is not my first and prominent question), but for the meaning he uses the word in.The reason, there could be many reasons why a person thinks an object is beautiful, just as there could be many reasons why a person thinks an action is wrong.
Yes, a lot of people (including myself) who are interested in clear communication start pretty much every response to the question "is this moral/immoral" with the ever same explanation as to how they understand the question, or why they are not sure what the person asking wants to know when asking this question. This increased effort required to avoid the confusion that the use of a highly ambiguous term like "moral" typically results in suggests that the use of this term would better be replaced by terms that allow for the relevant distinctions that are necessary for successful communication.No, but then again, not many people, if any, make a habit of responding like that.
I think that the use of the word "wrong/right/immoral/moral" is the best and most frequent example.I'm not so certain about that, can you give me some examples?
There is no such "full understanding" of a word. The relevant meaning of a word for every practical purpose of communication is the meaning in which the person opposite uses this word.I get the impression that the very people who would ask such questions, are exactly the same people who actually have a very full understanding of such words. Perhaps I'm incorrect to think this or make assumptions about the OPs motives.
I think that the use of the word "wrong/right/immoral/moral" is the best and most frequent example.
A person (who thinks of morality as a god edicted conduct prescription that is not necessarily congruent with popular human ideas of how to behave) starts a thread asking "Is X wrong?" .
I (a person who uses "wrong" as "is not to my taste") anwers: "No."
Result: I haven´t answered the question as meant by the OP, and my response results in disinformation on her part. She naturally understands my response as "No, I think it does not violate god´s conduct prescripitions", while I actually didn´t intend to make any such statement.
I might (if being aware of the multiple meanings of "wrong", and willing to do the work that the OP actually should have done) try to be clearer in what I mean by answering: "No, I personally enjoy it."
Whilst my effort has helped avoiding a fatal misunderstanding, the OP still has no answer to the question she has asked - she still doesn´t know what I think god thinks about it, and a statement about my personal taste was about the least she was interested in.
There is no such "full understanding" of a word. The relevant meaning of a word for every practical purpose of communication is the meaning in which the person opposite uses this word.
Sure most people know there is or might be a difference. The problem is that people don´t know what the other persons is actually talking or asking about.Most people, in fact I'd wager that more than 99% of people are aware that there might be a difference between what God sees as wrong and what an individual would see as wrong, so I'm still not convinced that "the discussions in E&M are ruled by fundamental misunderstandings founded in unclear use of words".
We are talking about different things. I am not talking about the awareness that and how different people arrive at different meanings of the words, but which person actually uses the word in which meaning.Full understanding was the wrong way to describe it. I'd say a good conscious understanding of the way different people may arrive at the conclusion something is 'wrong' or 'immoral' or 'right' or 'moral' etc.
Not at all, imo. The way a persons uses these words is typically the result of her philosophical convictions, and without understanding these particular philosophy you can´t have a good idea what she actually means.The thing is, I am taking an ethics class and I'm confused with what ethics actually means. I wanted someone to clear that up for me by telling me the words' definitions. That's why I started this thread.
Today I asked my ethics teacher what the definition of good was. She said there wasn't one. Instead she listed off what some philosophers thought was good, and she began making statements like:
"life is good"
"happiness is good"
What I wanted to know was what the word "good" brought to the table. Because it seems to me that she was saying "good is another word for life" and "good was another word for happiness". She also said we approach good, but never arrive at it. I then asked if it was okay for me to deny the existence of good, and she said that I would then be a materialist. But I keep on thinking, why do we have lots of dicussions about a word without a definition?
Any thoughts? Am I crazy?
Sure most people know there is or might be a difference. The problem is that people don´t know what the other persons is actually talking or asking about.
Most people know that there are two fundamental meanings to the word "fan". If someone asks "What do you think of fans?"they nevertheless don´t know what the person is asking about.
We are talking about different things. I am not talking about the awareness that and how different people arrive at different meanings of the words, but which person actually uses the word in which meaning.
Well, I have them all the time, and I also find it intriguing that many people can´t or don´t want give the meaning in which they personally use these words - as yet another time evidenced by this thread.I can't say I have been having any problems with distinguishing which person uses the word in which meanings, which is why I tend to think the problem is overstated.
Like, when you (as in you, stan) started all those "what would be the good/ethical thing to do" dilemmas, I never knew in regards to which meaning of the words you wanted the question to be answered. IOW, I actually didn´t know what the question actually was.
Well, to each his own, but I personally don´t get much out of a discussion in which people use the same word for completely different ideas founded in completely different realities and possibly even lacking any common ground.Okay, the idea normally was, I ask a question, which may or may not spark some debate. I wasn't normally too concerned about exactly how people tackle or approach the question, which is why I think I normally left the questions open. If for example, one person thinks X is unethical because it says X is unethical in the bible, that is fine to respond like that, if another person thinks X is ethical because they believe the harm X does is negligible, that is equally fine for that person to respond like that. Then hopefully the opposing views will spark some sort of debate, and I can either join in and give my 2 cents, or if I wish, sit back and watch the fireworks![]()
Well, to each his own, but I personally don´t get much out of a discussion in which people use the same word for completely different ideas founded in completely different realities and possibly even lacking any common ground.
Maybe I´m just wired differently, but I also can´t seem to understand why someone asks a question just to spark some sort of debate without being concerned about an actual topic.
Like, the purpose of asking "What do you think of fans?" without being concerned whether the discussion will be about football fans or ventilators is not intelligible to me.
Another example came to mind. We are discussing "freewill" as an assumed (obscure) human condition. Enter someone who says "You seem to be a compatibilist", thereby changing the topic towards something that happens to be called "freewill" also, but is a completely different concept: an instrument to distinguish between certain societal situations. I find that frustrating. It may be a quirk on my part, but I find the attempt of being clear about the topic a prerequisite for fruitful conversation. If I want to know whether someone likes something, I don´t want to hear what he thinks the bible says. If I want to discuss what the bible says about something, I don´t want to hear whether the person opposite enjoys it.