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I do need to make some changes in my life, they gave me some numbers to mental health services. I have a low opinion of psychologists or whatever... but it would be nice to at least get some professional evaluation. I don't like the idea of depression medication, but anti-anxiety might be useful. Anxiety does seem to be one issue many different types of medications can heal. I don't really have any plans on seeing a shrink or anything... at least long term.

I need to get past what happened last night.
 
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I do need to make some changes in my life, they gave me some numbers to mental health services. I have a low opinion of psychologists or whatever... but it would be nice to at least get some professional evaluation. I don't like the idea of depression medication, but anti-anxiety might be useful. Anxiety does seem to be one issue many different types of medications can heal. I don't really have any plans on seeing a shrink or anything... at least long term.

I need to get past what happened last night.
What happened @MehGuy?
 
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I do need to make some changes in my life, they gave me some numbers to mental health services. I have a low opinion of psychologists or whatever... but it would be nice to at least get some professional evaluation. I don't like the idea of depression medication, but anti-anxiety might be useful. Anxiety does seem to be one issue many different types of medications can heal. I don't really have any plans on seeing a shrink or anything... at least long term.
My sympathies. Give it a whirl. I don't know if you drink or not, but while alcohol reduces anxiety initially, the background life anxiety builds (kind of like having a fake spiritual credit card with a high interest rate). I 'self medicated' for a long time until I found a different solution, primarily a spiritual one but I've been on some meds that have helped before. My advice is if something is bringing you to points where the police are being called, bring the Army, bring the Navy, bring the Airforce (get all the help you can from all fronts). With the exception of alcohol. You don't want to be in a blackout when the police are called.
 
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I do need to make some changes in my life, they gave me some numbers to mental health services. I have a low opinion of psychologists or whatever... but it would be nice to at least get some professional evaluation. I don't like the idea of depression medication, but anti-anxiety might be useful. Anxiety does seem to be one issue many different types of medications can heal. I don't really have any plans on seeing a shrink or anything... at least long term.

I need to get past what happened last night.
I hope you do consider the therapist route. Not that I have any experience. But a close friend of mine learned a lot from her encounters with a really good one, after going through an inpatient psych stay.
 
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Just saw Oppenheimer; great movie. Most showings were sold out in my area, get tickets in advance if you go to see it.
I saw it twice, July & August, and bought the book: “American Prometheus” by Bird and Sherwin, that it is largely based on. Great movie which seems pretty historically accurate with a great portrayal by Cillian Murphy ( whole cast is good). I started reading the book which is 591 pp. of biography & up to 721 printed pp. when notes, index etc. are included. I am a poor reader and plod along but the book seems really well written. Seeing the movie first, for some of us, seems like a good approach to reading the book on the genius Oppenheimer.
 
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Today is a sad day. Wish I was better able to connect with others. Hard to not blame myself for it.. even though.. not sure how much you can help who you are.

There have been some psychological musings that have been making me think lately. I think my lack of submissive attributes might play a major reason I never feel close to anyone. A submissive mindset is probably needed for intimacy. Not just romantic.. but platonic too.
 
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Today is a sad day. Wish I was better able to connect with others. Hard to not blame myself for it.. even though.. not sure how much you can help who you are.

There have been some psychological musings that have been making me think lately. I think my lack of submissive attributes might play a major reason I never feel close to anyone. A submissive mindset is probably needed for intimacy. Not just romantic.. but platonic too.
Sorry but I have to laugh at the sadist who's not good at connecting with others. Maybe you could try NOT BEATING THEM sometime. lol
 
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Sorry but I have to laugh at the sadist who's not good at connecting with others. Maybe you could try NOT BEATING THEM sometime. lol


That's a very crude form of sadism. One I guess I allude to in my sig, mainly because it's the only kind that's easily communicable.
 
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Having a meltdown and having the police called on me last night..

Came home today, and as I got out of my car everyone suddenly vanishes. Think it's time to move.
Why were the police called on you? You can tell me. It'll just be between you, me, and the internet.
 
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Why were the police called on you? You can tell me. It'll just be between you, me, and the internet.

I was screaming and swearing. I was worried that I might have disturbed the peace or something, but they seemed more concerned if I was suicidal or not. I wasn't violent to anyone or anything. Then I was afraid they were going to force me to go to psych ward, but all they did was hand me a resources card for therapists and whatnot.

It was a wakeup call though, that I need to be better at keeping my emotions in check.
 
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Maybe I'm just an out of touch old guy.. but from what I've seen of Tiktok content... I find that stuff really insufferable. Maybe there are some good tiktok content out there.. but honestly... I didn't know content could be so terrible.

These feelings.. make me a little sad.. because I always wanted to be the open-minded older guy.. not necessarily getting into younger stuff, but appreciating it for what it is and not judging.. but this first old guy test.. I've failed badly.. lol.
 
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but this first old guy test.. I've failed badly.. lol.
When it comes to social media sites, you need to remember the old saying about quantity over quality. Lots of quantity, little quality
 
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Maybe I'm just an out of touch old guy..
Becoming out of touch is one of the best things you can do. There's nothing to be gained and a lot to be lost by being in touch with a culture of garbage and insanity.
 
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Becoming out of touch is one of the best things you can do. There's nothing to be gained and a lot to be lost by being in touch with a culture of garbage and insanity.
Maybe more my issue is that I just want to make sure I'm judging something fairly to the best of my ability.

Which with Tiktok.. I guess deep down I know I'm not. Yet these judgy dismissive feelings are very powerful.
 
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Maybe more my issue is that I just want to make sure I'm judging something fairly to the best of my ability.

Which with Tiktok.. I guess deep down I know I'm not. Yet these judgy dismissive feelings are very powerful.
Well then judge it more fairly and see if you get a different result.
 
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Becoming out of touch is one of the best things you can do. There's nothing to be gained and a lot to be lost by being in touch with a culture of garbage and insanity.
One of the things you figure out by the time you reach 70 is that most of the things younger people think are important...simply aren't important. It's not that we can't keep up, is that we realize most of it is just irrelevant in the long run, and especially in the time we have left.
 
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