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What do you see masturbating as? Sin? Sorry about all the topics you must have!

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If you think what you're doing is sin in your heart then it is sin to you!

The Law explains cases of sin to convict you in case you thought it was ok in your heart.

God made most of us sexual creatures. I think it is pointless to strongly argue something is a sin when it is never called one in the Bible. If you do it, make sure you're not breaking any laws or even commit mental adultery.

Earlier some people were arguing to me that porn was ok, but personally I'd stay as far away from that as possible! First off: you can't argue that all porn is not sinful, so you have to break it down on a case by case basis as your best argument. And I'd have to say(from personal experience) that most porn is not only sinful but can also act like a gateway drug to even more sinful porn.
 
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If you think what you're doing is sin in your heart then it is sin to you!

The Law explains cases of sin to convict you in case you thought it was ok in your heart.

God made most of us sexual creatures. I think it is pointless to strongly argue something is a sin when it is never called one in the Bible. If you do it, make sure you're not breaking any laws or even commit mental adultery.

Earlier some people were arguing to me that porn was ok, but personally I'd stay as far away from that as possible! First off: you can't argue that all porn is not sinful, so you have to break it down on a case by case basis as your best argument. And I'd have to say(from personal experience) that most porn is not only sinful but can also act like a gateway drug to even more sinful porn.


Hi, James!

Tell us, how is any porn NOT sinful?
 
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I'd say it is all sinful myself. I'm not about to play the literal devil's advocate here. Let someone else take up that case if they think they want to argue a lost cause.


Thank you for your reply. I was just wondering why you so safely worded your post thus:

JamesSager3 said:
you can't argue that all porn is not sinful, so you have to break it down on a case by case basis as your best argument. And I'd have to say(from personal experience) that most porn is not only sinful...

It seemed rather non-commital and so I was wondering if you wouldn't mind elaborating.
 
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Thank you for your reply. I was just wondering why you so safely worded your post thus:

It seemed rather non-commital and so I was wondering if you wouldn't mind elaborating.

I know there are different extremes of porn. I don't want to take up either side of the argument and say the lightest form of porn isn't right. Nor do I want to be led down a grey-scale argument.

Does that help? I'm trying to be brief as possible.
 
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I know there are different extremes of porn. I don't want to take up either side of the argument and say the lightest form of porn isn't right. Nor do I want to be led down a grey-scale argument.

Does that help? I'm trying to be brief as possible.


Well, it would be nice if a man of God would just bite the bullet and say, by its very nature and the actual word, "pornographic", that it is sinful, all of it, appealing to man's baseness.

I love it when Godly men stand up for righteousness and wholesomeness as they should.

 
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Well, it would be nice if a man of God would just bite the bullet and say, by its very nature and the actual word, "pornographic", that it is sinful, all of it, appealing to man's baseness.

I love it when Godly men stand up for righteousness and wholesomeness as they should.

All pornography is sinful.

Much love in Christ.
 
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With all the bickering going on you would think we were disscusing weather it was a sin or not to hold up a bank.

The reasons against it have been: filthy, unnecessary, does not uplift God in our body's, self-gratifying, lustful.

So far no one has displayed anything that would make these statements true. Also you could ascribe many other things with these reasons yet most people would laugh to think of them as sin. An example is coke. It does not work wonders on your body in fact it it destroys it from the inside out so therefore it cannot be praise to God through your body for it destroys your body and so on. Any of those reasons can be attributed to drinking coke but no one will ever probably label it as sin.

If I was to say that sex for males could easily be labeled as a necessity I'm sure someone would frown on that. But as it stands thats the highest reason why men marry. In fact it could easily be stated that without sex people would not marry. First before you marry though you must be sexually attracted to someone. You cannot easily( in fact Ill say impossible) do this without having sexual thoughts about someone which some people I believe have already stated that is lust and hence sin. This is something imbeded in our being from birth. So if that is in fact sin why would God create us in a way where we are bound for failure no matter what? So in conclusion with this I believe that thinking about someone sexually hence being attracted to them sexually is not sin but how God maid it and intended it. Without sexual attraction no one would marry.

Which brings me to my next point. Since sex for males is a necessity masturbation is the next best thing if you cannot easily find a good wife. For I would rather do the former than rush out and do the later and end up regretting it for the rest of my life because i rushed things.

Masturbation is addictive, but in a good way as I have just stated the reason. It is addictive because sex is addictive. It is hard to see that it can have any bad affects on an individual. In fact there are none. It can be psychologically uplifting which intern can have a positive physical affect.

I have felt guilty about many things even masturbation, but after prayer and research I have found out that my gut feeling may not have been leading me to the right conclusion. this also has been for other things. It is good to trust your gut feelings they can be helpful but sometimes they can misguide us. Trust your gut feelings but also question them.

Seek truth not signs.
 
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You know masturbation can have plenty of negative effects on an individual's marriage. I don't mean that one person thinks it's bad and the other person does it and they split up. I mean that masturbation has been shown to cause sexual performance problems for male in several ways, not to mention can cause guilt in a man when he finally realizes the true joy of sexual intercourse with his wife as it was designed by the Lord to be. You say no one has shown any proof, but have you negated all the Scriptural references I've made? No one has responded at all the any of the Scripture. All I am saying that instead of assuming and simply forming personal opinions based upon how you feel God's design works, why not actually use what we have been given? Show me how masturbation is Scripturally justified, as I have already shown how it is Scripturally condemned, which is yet to be refuted by any.

Much love in Christ.
 
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With all the bickering going on you would think we were disscusing weather it was a sin or not to hold up a bank.

The reasons against it have been: filthy, unnecessary, does not uplift God in our body's, self-gratifying, lustful.

So far no one has displayed anything that would make these statements true. Also you could ascribe many other things with these reasons yet most people would laugh to think of them as sin. An example is coke. It does not work wonders on your body in fact it it destroys it from the inside out so therefore it cannot be praise to God through your body for it destroys your body and so on. Any of those reasons can be attributed to drinking coke but no one will ever probably label it as sin.

If I was to say that sex for males could easily be labeled as a necessity I'm sure someone would frown on that. But as it stands thats the highest reason why men marry. In fact it could easily be stated that without sex people would not marry. First before you marry though you must be sexually attracted to someone. You cannot easily( in fact Ill say impossible) do this without having sexual thoughts about someone which some people I believe have already stated that is lust and hence sin. This is something imbeded in our being from birth. So if that is in fact sin why would God create us in a way where we are bound for failure no matter what? So in conclusion with this I believe that thinking about someone sexually hence being attracted to them sexually is not sin but how God maid it and intended it. Without sexual attraction no one would marry.

Which brings me to my next point. Since sex for males is a necessity masturbation is the next best thing if you cannot easily find a good wife. For I would rather do the former than rush out and do the later and end up regretting it for the rest of my life because i rushed things.

Masturbation is addictive, but in a good way as I have just stated the reason. It is addictive because sex is addictive. It is hard to see that it can have any bad affects on an individual. In fact there are none. It can be psychologically uplifting which intern can have a positive physical affect.

I have felt guilty about many things even masturbation, but after prayer and research I have found out that my gut feeling may not have been leading me to the right conclusion. this also has been for other things. It is good to trust your gut feelings they can be helpful but sometimes they can misguide us. Trust your gut feelings but also question them.

Seek truth not signs.


Baloney.

The hand is good for grasping a pencil. Write a book.

The man himself needs to be a good and honourable husband, remaining pure until marriage. All I am hearing in this thread is the lament of a weak man who can't keep his hands in his pockets for the lack of a good wife! Sheesh!

God help us all.
 
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You know masturbation can have plenty of negative effects on an individual's marriage. I don't mean that one person thinks it's bad and the other person does it and they split up. I mean that masturbation has been shown to cause sexual performance problems for male in several ways, not to mention can cause guilt in a man when he finally realizes the true joy of sexual intercourse with his wife as it was designed by the Lord to be. You say no one has shown any proof, but have you negated all the Scriptural references I've made? No one has responded at all the any of the Scripture. All I am saying that instead of assuming and simply forming personal opinions based upon how you feel God's design works, why not actually use what we have been given? Show me how masturbation is Scripturally justified, as I have already shown how it is Scripturally condemned, which is yet to be refuted by any.

Much love in Christ.
I did not negate your scriptural texts I read them. You stated that it was not uplifting in our body's to God but that is not scriptural evidence against masturbation. In all respect its about like using WWJD for an argument against hunting. Would Jesus shoot a small defenseless animal? It might get people to feel guilty but it proves in no way that hunting is a sin. As far as showing scripture for condoning the use masturbation there is none. Just like there is none for condemning it.
 
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Baloney.

The hand is good for grasping a pencil. Write a book.

The man himself needs to be a good and honourable husband, remaining pure until marriage. All I am hearing in this thread is the lament of a weak manb who can't keep his hands in his pockets for the lack of a good wife! Sheesh!

God help us all.
Then all men are weak. Thats why we need Jesus.
 
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You know masturbation can have plenty of negative effects on an individual's marriage. I don't mean that one person thinks it's bad and the other person does it and they split up. I mean that masturbation has been shown to cause sexual performance problems for male in several ways, not to mention can cause guilt in a man when he finally realizes the true joy of sexual intercourse with his wife as it was designed by the Lord to be. You say no one has shown any proof, but have you negated all the Scriptural references I've made? No one has responded at all the any of the Scripture. All I am saying that instead of assuming and simply forming personal opinions based upon how you feel God's design works, why not actually use what we have been given? Show me how masturbation is Scripturally justified, as I have already shown how it is Scripturally condemned, which is yet to be refuted by any.

Much love in Christ.
Oh and to the thing about it being damaging to sexual performance. Iv found out that it's about as likely as someone getting hairy palms from it. This has been mainly used as a scare tactic by people who don't support it. If this true %90 of men who regularly preform it would stop. It can however be damaging in a marriage if it takes the place of regular intercourse or if the person is suffering from low self-esteem by doing it.

Also Dr.Dobson condones its use. Dont know how many of you know who he but he runs "Focus on the Family" a Christian publishing company. Anyway just pointing that out.
 
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Baloney.

The hand is good for grasping a pencil. Write a book.

The man himself needs to be a good and honourable husband, remaining pure until marriage. All I am hearing in this thread is the lament of a weak manb who can't keep his hands in his pockets for the lack of a good wife! Sheesh!

God help us all.

I pray for you, floatingaxe. :prayer:
 
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My spiritual knowledge of the issue is that there is no spiritual significance in the issue. The Bible says nothing on this. It does not even involve the ethic of reciprocity.

The knowledge that does exist on this issue (barring religious beliefs to the contrary) clearly explains that masturbation is healthy in moderation, is entirely natural and normal, and is no more harmful (physically, mentally or emotionally) than any of hundreds of activities you take part in every day. In fact, not masturbating can be detrimental to normal functioning.

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Baloney.

The hand is good for grasping a pencil. Write a book.

The man himself needs to be a good and honourable husband, remaining pure until marriage. All I am hearing in this thread is the lament of a weak manb who can't keep his hands in his pockets for the lack of a good wife! Sheesh!

God help us all.
Hahaha, delicious.

Varik hands you a masterpiece of a summary and rebuttal and the most you deign to respond with is "the hand is good for grasping a pencil". You're not interested in getting to the bottom of this or coming up with anything resembling an epistemology on this issue. You just want to reinforce your beliefs, and then threaten everyone else by implying that those who don't agree with you aren't True Men of God (tm). Do you have any idea how it makes you look to claim that you are the arbiter of what makes someone a True Man of God (tm)?
 
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If all of those that condone the use of masturbation would please stop trying to pick a fight with FloatingAxe and respond to any of the Scripture I presented, I would greatly appreciate it. If the desire here is really to seek the truth of God's Word on the matter and not just flaunt personal opinions and exonerate personal behavior then let's go to God's Word already. I have set before all of you numerous Biblical passages, none of which have been addressed other than by a poor synopsis that was claimed to summise what Scripture was saying, but failed horribly to do so. Read all the verses and listen to what they teach. For those of you that are going on about "self-gratification" and tea and back-scratches pay attention to Galatians 5:16-21. I don't see how tea or back-scratching can be involved. You are right so far as stating that a claim that masturbation is self-gratifying makes it sinful is flawed and flat out incorrect. The problem is when you take pleasure in things listed as "against the Spirit." Which is obviously the Spirit that dwells within us and should be serving as our Helper and guide. Self-denial is not the goal that pleases the Lord, especially when most here are viewing self-denial as self-deprivation, self-degradation or self-punishment in areas such as necessities for survival (i.e. food) and torturing one's own body (obviously condemned by other verses I have shown about the importance of our physical bodies to the Lord). It is about living a transformed life in the Spirit, instead of a decrepit lifestyle in the flesh. When it comes to denying the desires of the flesh (self-denial in such a sense), OF COURSE THAT PLEASES THE LORD! It means we are living in response to His Holy Spirit, renewed and regenerated beings that we are. The feeble attempts to avoid the true issue need to stop if the goal of this forum is truly to help a brother in Christ with a question concerning what Scripture teaches about a certain act. None of us decide what is sinful. Sin exists because God exists. His standard of perfection set out by His attribute of Holiness makes sin an inevitable reprocussion (in our fallen state). So, if you want to help answer a brother's question stop determining with your own biases what you want to call sin or not and start determining with God's Word. This is not directed at any specific side of this argument or individual, but rather the entire forum. A brother asks for insight on sin and we give opinions? This should not be brothers and sisters. How can this be? Please, please, let us edify one another as Scripture calls for, not be stirrers up of dissension. If fellow brothers do not believe that the claims of Scripture make a case against masturbation, that is truly fine with me, but please just take the time to consider and consult God's Word, and respond to such verses as I have shown. I ask this simply to see from another brother what it is he sees Scripture to be saying. That's all I ask, not for agreement or anything else. I will leave this forum praising God for the ability to discuss the teachings of His Word with other brothers and sisters if I am the only one who leaves believing it's a sin or if I am shown through His Word and His Spirit that it is not and can leave here with such a claim as it is a "freedom in Christ" (Romans 14). So, in all this, let us not be divisive if we happen to be in discord. There need not be disunity because there is disagreement. Let us love and respect one another as brothers and sisters even if we do not see eye to eye on all matters. If we believe on Christ as our Savior, then we are His Church and His Body, there is no division in Him.

Ephesians 2:13-16
"But now in Christ Jesus you who formerly were far off have been brought near by the blood of Christ. For He Himself is our peace, who made both groups into one and broke down the barrier of the dividing wall, by abolishing in His flesh the emnity, which is the Law of commandements contained in ordinances, so that in Himself He might make the two into one new man, thus establishing peace, and might reconcile them both in one body to God through the cross, by having put to death the enmity."

Ephesians 4:14-25
As a result, we are no longer to be children, tossed here and there by waves and carried about by every wind of doctrine, by the trickery of men, by craftiness in deceitful scheming; but speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in all aspects into Him who is the head, even Christ, from whom the whole body, being fitted and held together by what every joint supplies, according to the proper working of each individual part, causes the growth of the body for the building up of itself in love. So this I say, and affirm together with the Lord, that you walk no longer just as the Gentiles also walk, in the futility of their mind, being darkened in their undersatnding, excluded from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them, because of the hardness of their heart; and they, having become callous, have give themselves over to sensuality for the practice of every kind of impurity with greediness. But you did not learn Christ in this way, if indeed you have heard Him and have been taught in Him, just as truth is in Jesus, that, in reference to your former manner of life, you lay aside the old self, which is being corrupted in accordance with the lusts of deceit, and that you be renewed in the spirit of your mind, and put on the new self, which in the likeness of God has been created in righteousness and holiness of the truth. Therefore, laying aside falsehood, speak truth each one of you with his neighbor, for we are members of one another."

Much love in Christ.
 
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If all of those that condone the use of masturbation would please stop trying to pick a fight with FloatingAxe and respond to any of the Scripture I presented, I would greatly appreciate it. If the desire here is really to seek the truth of God's Word on the matter and not just flaunt personal opinions and exonerate personal behavior then let's go to God's Word already. I have set before all of you numerous Biblical passages, none of which have been addressed other than by a poor synopsis that was claimed to summise what Scripture was saying, but failed horribly to do so. Read all the verses and listen to what they teach. For those of you that are going on about "self-gratification" and tea and back-scratches pay attention to Galatians 5:16-21. I don't see how tea or back-scratching can be involved. You are right so far as stating that a claim that masturbation is self-gratifying makes it sinful is flawed and flat out incorrect. The problem is when you take pleasure in things listed as "against the Spirit."
Masturbation isn't listed as "against the Spirit."

However, making rules like "eat not, touch not" IS mentioned, and it's very much contrary to the gospel and to life in the Spirit.
 
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