What do you look for in a girl/guy?

[Lbiagm]

wolf it is a fellow christian and pro wrestler HBK Shawn Micheals.

 

[jeshohaia]

Well, if I were you (which I am not) I wouldnt go by my standards. Set your own. So far my standards have given me heart break. Dont know why. Here we go.

1- Of the Human species.
2- Breathes Oxygen
3- Loves the Lord
4- Green Eyes help (not a requirement)
5- I prefer Brunettes (dont know why I have)
6- Long Hair is a plus.
7- Loves the ocean and ocean type things.
8- Loves Animals
9- Vegetarian is a plus
10- Active
11- Great Smile
12- Sense of Humor/witty/sarcastic
13- Intelligent
14- Doesnt mind 100mph cruises down country roads
15- Ummm...risk taker (we are talking about cliff diving or the fore mentioned 100mph cruise down a country road).

I think I narrowed it down a bit. But is that the woman I married? Nope. *heads head with a dead makrel* I should have listened to God. Now I am at the mercy of the family law judge this friday. Well, our mistakes, the decsisions we make out side of Gods will affect our lives. I decided to go against God's will and I pay the price. But it is actually doing God's will that I married her so that I could bring me to this point in my spiritual walk (all though God hates divorce. I hate divorce from first hand knowledge. It is the destruction of the covenant between the couple and God.) God still gives us object lesons to humble us. I just pray Jenny (my wife) makes the correct choice to follow God. I cant force her.

But, I have optimism. My pastor spoke with her (he was also one of her high school teachers and is friends with her boss) and brought her to tears over the whole divorce thing telling her about how I changed and God's word and stuff. Maybe...this friday wont happen? Just pray. I hope it doesnt.


Phil

 

[TheTempleTeam]

Temple, I would advise you to take things really slow, especially if you want this relationship to work. Talking about marriage and kids can toy with emotions (even though that's not what you're intending, it's what happens and it's like giving part of yourself away emotionally, especially for girls) I think if you are to end up with this girl, who sounds incredible ideed, you need to sit down with her, the parents and talk about the limits and boundaries, because it's very important that you have God as the centre of your relationship (this will make sure it runs a little more smoothly, not to say your relationship will be perfect, you know? you'll still struggle)

I totally agree, like I said, I'm not rushing into anything. We'll pray about it together and see where we are led. It's not going to happen for a wee while yet, I don't see why we should rush into anything when we're such good friends. I'll have a wee chat with her about the wedding talk Think she just got a little bit excited, which made me happy, because she's been down recently and it was good to hear her positive and cheery But thanks for your sound advice God Bless.

 

[Lbiagm]

i like blondes.

 

[TravellingGrace]

I totally agree, like I said, I'm not rushing into anything. We'll pray about it together and see where we are led. It's not going to happen for a wee while yet, I don't see why we should rush into anything when we're such good friends. I'll have a wee chat with her about the wedding talk Think she just got a little bit excited, which made me happy, because she's been down recently and it was good to hear her positive and cheery But thanks for your sound advice God Bless.

ah good good, you're very welcome. I hope things go well for you!

 

[Lbiagm]

yea i echo cp's sentiments.

 

[*snoopy*]

1-has God in his life
2-funny
3-black hair is a bonus
4-has glasses (bonus)
5-tall
6-smart
6-bright brown eyes(bonus)
7-cute
8-good personality
9-likes me

 

[Lbiagm]

ok snoopy.

 

[lostintheconfusion]

I like guys who know what they believe in, follow their hearts, aren't afraid to make mistakes-or admit to them for that matter-, like to learn new things, have similarities and differences with me, talkative, have strong morals... i could go on and on about the 'perfect guy' for me, but the fact is that God is the only one who knows whats in store. No matter how much you dream about your perfect guy, God may have other plans for you to be with someone you'd never expect to see yourself with. God may put you with someone who can protect you from your deepest darkest fears; or he may put you with someone who needs your protection from those fears. And you never know when you're going to find this guy- sometimes guys are sent into your life bye God to teach you a lesson which could help further down the road. God works in MANY mysterious ways and you can't even begin to imagine what he's going to do in your life next...

sorry to kill the thread with a lecture... but its just what came from my brain to the keyboard...

 

[Lbiagm]

ok sounds good girlie.

 

[ChildofLight85]

LB, what does blonde have to do with ne thing? itz just a hair colour... srry, im a blonde... ive never been able to figure that out...

 

[Lbiagm]

i just like them child.

 

[led]

As much as I try to run from this subject I cannot. Like, I wish I could put it all out of my mind. Relationships. Marriage. I wish I could just accept that I am never to marry and be content with that. But, I realize that trying to convince myself of that is to believe in a lie because I cannot kill the part of me that is created to love.

I have high standards to who I want. Doesn't mean that I will find her though. Doesn't mean that I'll have the strength to wait.

What I want in a girl is a godly girl. One who God speaks to and has him to convict her instaed of always expecting me to show her what is right or wrong. I hate being the only one seeking God and setting the standard. I hate being the only one who wants to get to church early so that I will not miss a single worship song. What impresses me most is a girl who does things out of her comfort cause God speaks to her. Like, to give someone who is homeless her lunch because God put the guy in her path and tugged her heart to minister to him with an act of love. Someone like that. Who would be willing to change their plans and goals if God spoke to them.

Also, someone that understands 1 Cor 13. Who not only knows what love really is, but who can express it. And this is not a hypothetical wish. I have seen this quality before and I would take this quality even if there were a million shortcomings involved.

Those are just a couple of things that I look for. There are actually plenty more but those two are probably the only musts. Other things I would like to find someone who is fearless, who thinks outside of the box giving God no limits, someone who is very smart, who can laugh with me, who is simple, who doesn't try to shape themself after me but who knows who they are and what they like and want, someone who accepts people without judgement or criticism, who is positive, mature, grounded, who kids love, who challenges me, who cuddles on rainy days, who can beat me at taboo sometimes (but not all the time cause that would suck), who is agressive, who expects to be treated like a lady, who would make me feel appreciated, who can be spoiled without acting spoiled... someone who I could wake up everyday and thank God for such a best friend as her. Someone who really, really loves me.

I can deal with shortcomings. I look at myself and see a work in progress. Like it says in Philippians, God will complete the work he starts in us. So, I am able to see past a girls faults cause I know that if she walks with God, he is refining her character.

The thing about marriage and finding the right person, in my eyes, is that it is the only 1 thing that I really really want but there is nothing I can do to get it. I mean, I can't jut go on the prowl cause people get hurt. And, the funny thing about people is that you don't really know who they are until time has passed. Basically, someone can look like they are exactly who I am looking for at first till the real them comes out.

This waiting game though, heh, it isn't a fun game. Not fun at all...

 

[hrodas]

ok, i keep searching for a girl, but not just any but the one the lord has for me...

i have been talking with God about this subject for several years now. i tried to make my will to be God's and ended heartbroken. i dont want that to happen again.
1. The girl has to have a heart full of Christ, a girl committed with the Lord and his word. (important)
2.-smart
3.-pretty (why not?)
4.-likes to practice sports (athletic)
simple right?

 

[Lbiagm]

yep trying Guys and girls.

 

[Jesus_Freak728]

Well, for me, here's my list:
1. he HAS to be Christian
2. good sense of humor
3. cute
4. charming
5. kind
6. sweet
7. cute smile and laugh( why not?)
8. brown hair and brown eyes!!! I don't know why. I just prefer guys like that.

 

[Lbiagm]

really jf.

 

[Lady Day]

Hi everyone,
I have thought a lot about this subject.
I think the ideal man would :
Be godly first and farmost, with that under his belt everything else can be worked on!
Be capable of loving another person for everything they are and are not.
(this is hard)

Respect another persons opinion whether or not it coincides with thier own.
(this is even harder)

Have the desire to share a life with another person, not just a religion or a bed.
(this is the hardest)

Lastly, to be conscious of how infinitely small we are in comparison with the rest of the universe, how relative we are to the great vastness that surrounds us, and the great blessing that is ours to express love toward one another. If you think about it, Jesus nailed it... love one another.
He didn't say be mushy, or be a cheese cakes, but to love oneanother. Fantastic. I hope every single one of you finds the person who understands the Lord enough to do these things!

 

[Lbiagm]

amen Lady Day.

 

[Jesus_Freak728]

really jf.

Did I say something wrong?