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What do you look for in a girl/guy?

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First of all, there has to be Jesus within her. I can't even imagine getting together with a girl and not being able to share the most important and intimate part of my life: Christ. Secondly, I like a healthy dose of intelligence. Some girls are really sweet & pretty, but if there's no one behind the wheel, my desire to talk with them drops. She doesn't have to be an Einstein by any means, but there has to be something there. She has to be friendly (of course), and I'd rather her not be shy. She doesn't have to be "super-extrovert woman," but I don't want her to be that silent girl in the back of the room that never talks to anyone either.
 
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As is only proper for one of my first posts I'll raise a question that can potentially get my head kicked off. It's not specifically what I myself look for in a female, but I believe it's still on topic.

Anyway, to the point. To be perfectly honest w/ you all, for me to be interested in a girl there needs to be physical attraction. Now to a sizeable extent "physical attraction" is divorced from a girl's actual physical appearance as it is also dependent on other things such as her personality and heart, but, for me at least, it is always at least partially attached to her actual physical body. My questions for you all then are these:

1. Am I just a shallow, appearance-driven fool or does this conform with what most Christian guys feel?

2. If what I say is true for most Christian guys and is thus representative of the population, does this mean unnattractive girls (and to a more limited extent unnattractive guy in vice versa) are basically out of luck? Certainly to an extent beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but it is also very much ingrained in our society, culture, and (seemingly) hard genetic wiring and thus the vast majority of males will be viewing through the same looking glass.

Thanks and I hope this isn't off topic.
 
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El Guapo said:
If what I say is true for most Christian guys and is thus representative of the population, does this mean unnattractive girls (and to a more limited extent unnattractive guy in vice versa) are basically out of luck? Certainly to an extent beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but it is also very much ingrained in our society, culture, and (seemingly) hard genetic wiring and thus the vast majority of males will be viewing through the same looking glass.
i say there'd definitely hafta be some physical attraction involved.. i mean.. i dont wanna be spending the rest of my life with someone i can barely stand to look at. i think it'd be wrong to start liking a guy because of his physique [i sure wouldnt want a guy doing that to me] my thing is.. dont go out looking for a relationship. the best relationships basically come from ur own friends. that way, u kno what they are truly like.. therez no urge to impress or anything. u kno what the person's like as a friend, and when u start dating.. u get to kno him/her on a deeper level. another thing.. i can't discern whether or not my friends are "hot" or not.. because we're friends. and plus.. the hottest ppl on earth can be the ugliest if they hav the worst personality. okay, this is a stupid example.. but take for instance the movie Troy. orlando bloom is "such the hottie".. but his brother had the cool personality.. so it made him so much more attractive. looks can only go to a certain extent.

so yea.. i'd look for a good personality.. someone who clicks with me and can read me, fun to be around, knows when to be serious and when to be fun, treats me like a princess :) stands up for what he believes in, kind.. has a good heart, intelligent and willing to take on responsiblities.. but most importantly, a man of God. oh yea.. someone who is willing to risk hurting me for the sake of making me a better person.
 
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xxlittleliuxx said:
i say there'd definitely hafta be some physical attraction involved.. i mean.. i dont wanna be spending the rest of my life with someone i can barely stand to look at.

I second that conclusion. I don’t think we should obligate ourselves to completely neglect the aspect of physical beauty while considering a life mate. God designed beauty for a reason and, thankfully, beauty appears to be in the eye of the beholder (there are about as many preferences in physical beauty as there are people). The problem arises when people make physical beauty the all-in-all of what attracts them to a member of the opposite sex. This is a serious mistake – do you not think beauty fades with time? How many grandmothers do you think of as “hot” – do you not think the girl you like will one day be that age? A pretty package is nice, but there has to be something on the inside that carries more weight than a pretty wrapping.
 
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i look for a good friend that is loyal to God and also loyal to me. she has to be fun to be around and likes the outdoors. she also has to have a good sense of humor and be there for me when i am depressed and she has to be sweet to me and really careing and understanding
 
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That is who it is going to be ultimately, but I do have my pickey List.
So here goes nothing :p :
  • Christian-has a relationship with God//also that we could encourage each other to live a Godly life***
  • Likes to worship God***
  • Likes Me for who I am*
  • Funny, Can take in what he dishes out. (In a NOT mean way)
  • Isn't afraid to be himself.
  • Doesn't have to be cute by YOUR standards, But is cute to ME when I get to know him.
  • And the last physical aspect is:..That he is huggable! :hug:
Mostly the ones with stars by them. Although guitar is a plus! :yawn:
 
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A guy that is not just a Christian but is strong in his faith. A guy that truly loves the Lord. Someone that will pray consistantly in all things and before any major descions. A guy that is in the word of God each and every day and who knows and follows what it says. A guy that doesn't just follow God for status or to impress anyone, but because he loves the lord. Someone that realizes the importance of a ministry to others. A guy thatA guy that is stong but gentle too. Someone that loves children and is kind to even the least around him. Someone that is humble. Someone that will love me, and be kind to me, not just put up with me or spitefully use me.
 
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