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What do you hate about being single?
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scraparcs
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Least romantic answer ever: the lack of a second income. I could really use a second income.
PS: Hugs aren't bad either, but I could really use a second income.
PS: Hugs aren't bad either, but I could really use a second income.
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mina
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I think lack of sex and the emotional , physical , spiritual intimacy that comes with that within a healthy marriage is a valid reason to not like singleness. Unless of course you know you are called to celibacy; but most people are not. So there you have it.
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canehdianhotstuff
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First of all I wasnt aware you had to be married to have sex...second of all, ya this thread has guttered.
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canehdianhotstuff
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Then that depends on the definitions of marriage...God never said you had to be legally married...only commited to stay with eachother within the Church.
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I'll admit, maybe I went a bit far with some of my jokes. Just the way I get at times when I don't realize it. If someone did get offended I apologize for taking my joking around a bit too far.
Yet, talking about sex, I don't see as guttering the thread. We're all mature adults. Saying how much we miss having sex shouldn't be like "tisk tisk" type of discussion.
Just my opinion tho
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canehdianhotstuff
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white dove
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I don't hate anything about it at the moment. I'm meant to be single right now and I embrace that. I'm trying to further develop myself before putting myself into another relationship with someone who has the potential for long-term commitment; although if the right man came by and we both felt strongly compelled to begin something, I wouldn't hesitate. But, we'd prayerfully commence. 
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AceHero
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There is plenty that I hate about being single:
1. No hugging, kissing, or cuddling. I've never experienced that at all.
2. No one to do things withwhether it's going shopping or just running a boring errand. Going grocery shopping after graduating from college is going to be pretty lonely. As is coming back to an empty apartment. (Compare this to a loud, rowdy dorm hallway that's always full of excitement.)
3. A lot of people have mentioned sex (in the realm of marriage, of course). However, I think just waking up next to someone you've dedicated your life to would be pretty amazing. Cuddling must be incredible.
Oh, and I love this quote.
1. No hugging, kissing, or cuddling. I've never experienced that at all.
2. No one to do things withwhether it's going shopping or just running a boring errand. Going grocery shopping after graduating from college is going to be pretty lonely. As is coming back to an empty apartment. (Compare this to a loud, rowdy dorm hallway that's always full of excitement.)
3. A lot of people have mentioned sex (in the realm of marriage, of course). However, I think just waking up next to someone you've dedicated your life to would be pretty amazing. Cuddling must be incredible.
Oh, and I love this quote.
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I may sound like a pathetic loser for saying this, but I have to get this off my chest. Today, in retail as a cashier, the most beautiful girl and Christian I ever knew (a friend from high school) said hello and talked to me. I've always had a crush on her, so I started shaking, getting red, and sweating. I'm trying to pray and take deep breaths, but apparently my mind and body were two seperate things.
No matter how much I try and pray to get over her, I can't stop thinking about her, even though she's in a relationship. How am I supposed to have a girlfriend if I always get nervous? What I hate about being single, I suppose, is this endless cycle. I feel depressed and lonely and yet I feel helpless at my nervousness when it comes to initiating a relationship. Being at 23 years old, I feel like my time is running out as I never even had a first kiss yet, which makes me afraid of what others think about me.
But anyway, that's my rant. I suppose there are a lot of things to be thankful for considering how many people don't live to see their 23rd birthday and are fighting overseas.
But, I've been learning to try to be content in all circumstances and to focus more on God and I did thought I was making great progress in trying to grow in confidence, but this event just embarrassed me and made me realize how feeble I really am.
No matter how much I try and pray to get over her, I can't stop thinking about her, even though she's in a relationship. How am I supposed to have a girlfriend if I always get nervous? What I hate about being single, I suppose, is this endless cycle. I feel depressed and lonely and yet I feel helpless at my nervousness when it comes to initiating a relationship. Being at 23 years old, I feel like my time is running out as I never even had a first kiss yet, which makes me afraid of what others think about me.
But anyway, that's my rant. I suppose there are a lot of things to be thankful for considering how many people don't live to see their 23rd birthday and are fighting overseas.
But, I've been learning to try to be content in all circumstances and to focus more on God and I did thought I was making great progress in trying to grow in confidence, but this event just embarrassed me and made me realize how feeble I really am.
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I know what you mean. You feel lonely and desperately want someone to be with, but when it comes down to making it happen you feel really nervous, even scared. Maybe it's inexperience, or maybe it's just that you're not ready for a relationship like you think (I mean "you" in general). I feel this way a lot as well.
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For the most part I enjoy being single, but the most obvious part I hate about it is being lonely. And of course, being human and all, I definitely miss the physical aspects of being in a relationship, though I'd say the overall sense of loneliness is worse (it would be very nice to have someone to experience life with). Otherwise I'm quite content with being single, I'd rather be single than stuck in a bad relationship. And if I knew for sure I was meant to be single, I'd gladly become a monastic.
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Mina, you've stated it right on for me at this point. You know, for me personally, it took a long time to get to the place where I'm at. Yes, it's lonely at times, but I thank God I am no longer of the mindset that having someone in the picture is an absolute. (meaning "spouse")
It may be a difficult journey at times, but I'm proud of where I am right now. We appreciate all the good intended encouragement, people, but sometimes it's just not that simple.
Ink: "Dude, the "I do's" are the green light, and my foot's on the accelerator lol. "<---your'e reading my thoughts.
I really don't know that I can say, for myself, that there is anything I "hate" about this phase at the moment. I may not think there are hundreds of awesome things about it, but nothing I hate either.
Just me though. Lots better than where I was in the past. *hands up in quiet gratefulness*
It may be a difficult journey at times, but I'm proud of where I am right now. We appreciate all the good intended encouragement, people, but sometimes it's just not that simple.
Ink: "Dude, the "I do's" are the green light, and my foot's on the accelerator lol. "<---your'e reading my thoughts.
I really don't know that I can say, for myself, that there is anything I "hate" about this phase at the moment. I may not think there are hundreds of awesome things about it, but nothing I hate either.
Just me though. Lots better than where I was in the past. *hands up in quiet gratefulness*
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ahmunmun
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You guys scared me for a second. I thought you were comparing dating to not dating, so when the sex discussion kicked in, I was like, "What? You guys do that in a dating relationship?" Next time, it won't hurt to clarify that you're talking about sex within a marriage in the first post to save me from the worry. Several people did though after a few more posts so I'm not worried anymore.
To that person who said he wasn't aware that you needed to be married to have sex, I'm just wondering - are you a Christian? If not, I'll need to do some further explaining, but everyone else in this thread agrees that God's only will for sex is to be within a marriage.
To that person who said he wasn't aware that you needed to be married to have sex, I'm just wondering - are you a Christian? If not, I'll need to do some further explaining, but everyone else in this thread agrees that God's only will for sex is to be within a marriage.
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