what do i do?!?!?!

[peggysue17]

i have a friend who is a goth and isnt a christian. he smokes and is bi. ive known him for a long time. he had a crush on me in kindergarden and has one on me now. i like him, but he dosent go to church so i have been inviting him to come to mine he lives across the road from my church and walks up there all the time he just wont come in. i know it is hard to stop smoking and that it will take a while to stop being bi but i am SOOO worried about him! ive been praying but what do i do in the meantime?!?!

 

[Warrior Poet]

Well you can keep being his friend for starters. Dont preach to him about how "bad" his lifestyle and choices are. You cant change him so dont think you can, self change comes from inside its the only way, God can play a huge role in that but its a journey he must take, and a door he must unlock. I would say that getting him to stop smoking is something you CAN do, the approach you tak will be vital, agian I would refrain from preaching just love him. At the same time be careful cause bad company can corrupt good morals if you allow it to....I would however like to think that works the other way around too....good company can corrupt bad "morals"......You and him still have a great deal to grow, let the journey you take be yours and he will see it....walk the walk before you talk the talk with him. Gaurd yourself being a good friend doesnt mean you agree with everything he does or that you turn the other cheek just cause.

Warrior Poet

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Jesus loves him as much as anybody.
I'm willing to bet if he took some time to read about Jesus he would come to realize that Jesus is the answer.

 

[Jinn_Ku]

Approach all things in love.

 

[seangoh]

I would tell you not to push yourself too much and don't feel that you're responsible for changing him because that would only make you miserable if you can't. Instead, just take it in your stride and do what you can naturally. Be nice and friendly to him and try to point him back to Jesus if you have the chance. But make this all natural to you coz this would not only help him but help you control your raging feelings. Do i make sense?

 

[mamaneenie]

Be careful with this guy if he has a crush on you. Don't get him to go to church for the wrong reasons (if he is doing it to impress you) pray for him and just be a friend.

 

[Lyle]

This sounds as one of those deals that you need to keep your arm out and keep him at a distance. Don't use the opition pf a relasionship to get him away from being bi, many people do that and it comes back to scorch them. Like Solomon says; "Can a man take fire to his chest and not be burned?" i owuld warn you strongly against that avenue....

The way he lives doesn't just show that he's a sinner, but it's a condition of the heart. Like if the Ph in the water that runs through copper pipe is high, it will eat through the pipes. Yes the holes in the pipes is the problem, but the high PH is to blame and is the main problem when it all comes down.. Smoking and being bi, ect. are just sypmtoms to a picture of his heart.... You yourself cannot change a heart, only God can.. You can talk till you're blue in the face, but only God opens his eyes (in the spiritual sense) to see.. Keep praying, and try to reach him at his point of need. Show him a good Christian and not just beat him with the gospel... Even if it means being tuff on him, give him an example of Christ to follow

 

[pmarquette]

Might check out threads on www.oncecatholic.org ;
many people seek other churches , different ways , because of a
hurt , offense , bad experience , type of life style .... [ I post there some times
as " sceva , scewa " ].

Some similar posts there to what you are up against ...
have you spoken to pastor , parents , christian friends ?

Many people there are offended .... if only the church would change "...... " ,
then I could continue my life style and return ...

Our most effective weapons are love , mercy , compassion , our christian walk ,
to demonstrate the Jesus in us before them , to love them where they are at
and intercede for them ...

that the lord of the harvest will send forth laborer's , witnesses , and angelic
minister's to them ...

 

[peggysue17]

i apreciate your advice, but theres somthin else he comes in the church but he just goes to the piano and sits there and plays it (which hes REALLY good at) the room is white. our youth house,called the E.M.U. educational mobile unit, is a pumkin orange and mac& cheese yellow. he says hes xanthrophobic(i think thats right) its the fear of the color yellow. well i dont beleive him theres been a lot of hints that its just an excuse. besides white is as bright as u can get. anyways he only come in the e.m.u. to see me, i keep tryin to get him to come in while we have class but he still refuses to come in. if you have any thing to say please let me know!!! God Bless!