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Differing opinions for sure-but I think we aren't dealing w/your own situation either Ink-you mentioned a drug addiction, breaking into the house, etc...a little more serious.
I consider my siblings closer then just say a cousin for example-if they were young, acting out irresponsibly in SOME ways but overall were just kids growing up (albeit doing stupid things) it would not stop me from helping them out and particularly pushing for school-IMO sometimes that itself can get the ball rolling.
I know some will advice against her having them-that's just simply a matter of how people relate/deal with/handle familial relationships...and actually I might add is a very US cultural thing to "get them out at 18"...and not necessarily the best way to go about it-IMO as a culture there we fail a bit....
So in my book-kicking an 18yr old out (who works full time) for smoking out is an overreaction and unecessarily harsh and not something I would ever do. I'm not a doormat-but I'm not one to kick out my siblings/children/etc...for toking or even drinking at that age when kids are discovering a lot in life. NOW ...if it became very destructive, out of control...other measures can be taken. I'm not quite sure what the girls situation is though.
I consider my siblings closer then just say a cousin for example-if they were young, acting out irresponsibly in SOME ways but overall were just kids growing up (albeit doing stupid things) it would not stop me from helping them out and particularly pushing for school-IMO sometimes that itself can get the ball rolling.
I know some will advice against her having them-that's just simply a matter of how people relate/deal with/handle familial relationships...and actually I might add is a very US cultural thing to "get them out at 18"...and not necessarily the best way to go about it-IMO as a culture there we fail a bit....
So in my book-kicking an 18yr old out (who works full time) for smoking out is an overreaction and unecessarily harsh and not something I would ever do. I'm not a doormat-but I'm not one to kick out my siblings/children/etc...for toking or even drinking at that age when kids are discovering a lot in life. NOW ...if it became very destructive, out of control...other measures can be taken. I'm not quite sure what the girls situation is though.
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