What do I do???

[soccerdad66]

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this, and I've been praying for you.

Ultimately, you need to be at peace with your decision, and make sure that Luke is protected. What's done is done, regardless if why.

I know your Mom bought them beer, and it probably wasn't right necessarily, and knew about her smoking pot, but it wasn't her actions that led to this, it was the girls actions. You can't hold a grudge against your mom, I mean, you turned out ok, right?

 

[ido]

( My other sister, Trisha... who is 20 and still lives at my parents house just called crying.
I guess my mom is now drinking at like 3 in the afternoon and smoking again. And its really stressing Trisha out, she doesnt want to go home, she doesnt know what to do, she is worried about the twins. And taking it like me, all on her shoulders. she just sat on the phone with me for like 20 minutes crying on her way to work because she doesnt know what to do.
She works hard, she has two jobs, and is a good kid. She doesnt need this stress put on her either. And my mom doesnt need the stress either... why are my parents doing this??? Why are they tearing our family apart? It all just comes back to me... I am the glue that has to keep us together... that is my role, it always has been.... but what do I do?

It sounds like you're the glue to a lot of dysfunction, tho. Maybe the best way to keep you all "together" is to enable your sisters to stand on their own and learn independence. In my experience with my parents - any dysfunction I experience with them gets less and less the more independent I am and the less I "need' or rely on them for anything (there are a couple of times in my adult life that I have had to call on them for help and while they give it - it always comes with a price).

If you can accept that you're parents are who they are and aren't going to change - and can love them anyway and forgive them for their mistakes then I think you've done the best thing you can do.

Teach your sisters to separate themselves from the drama and dysfunction like you seem to have done for the most part and you will be giving them the greatest gift you can, IMO.

 

[CoachR64]

I agree with FNG. This may be a blessing in disguise for your sisters, forcing them to learn to stand on their own and get their lives together. Being at home was doing nothing more than fostering their self destructive behavior.

Coach

 

[Inkachu]

Agreeing with FNG and Coach 110%. My own family has TONS of issues, problems, pain, dysfunction, etc. When you're in the middle of it, it affects you much more strongly than if you are out on your own and able to gain a more outside perspective. It wasn't until I got away and was living on my own (and even then, it took several years) that I was able to look back at my family and see things for what they were, and still love the people, and accept their flaws without letting them affect me anymore.