What are some things/traits you value in someone you're looking to date?

[MehGuy]

Here are my statistics.......

I stand corrected. You defatededed me.

 

[James of Arc]

You're a racist towards alcoholics.. my SJW friends will hear about this..

I stand corrected. You defatededed me.

Lol, no not defeated just schooled.

 

[Jonaitis]

For me after being around different people/ guys... I feel I've seen both good and bad examples and I'm grateful for the terrible examples because they make me appreciate goodmen even more.

For me..
* I love confidence- I think it'd so beautiful when a guy is sure of himself. Not in a cocky ,self absorbed way...but just trusts himself...

* I love kindness...guys that are considerate and slow to anger are amazing to me.

* Lastly, a guy that has his stuff together... A guy that's already "assembled" is very alluring.

What about you.

1. Christian.
2. Virtuous and godly.
3. Shares similar theological convictions.

These are the main ones.

 

[MehGuy]

A little bit crazy and a little bit lazy, i like women who can howl at the moon on Friday night but then set around on the couch in their underwear all day saturday doing nothin but hang with me.

A woman who can be coarse at times yet gentle and sweet the next.

These two sound kind of similar.. lol..

 

[sunshineforJesus]

I'd like a guy who is funny,Godly,and kind hearted.

 

[sea5763]

Here are my statistics.......

I watched the video earlier today. I was glad that even the pastor thinks that the virtuous woman described in proverbs is pretty much impossible to live up to. I know I can’t live up to that. I’ve heard other people say that wanting a man that has a job is shallow but he said that women should be picky and expect a man to have a job.

 

[timewerx]

I’ve heard other people say that wanting a man that has a job is shallow but he said that women should be picky and expect a man to have a job.

Yep, a man needs to have a job....Unless he'll be taking care of the kids full time.

What might be shallow is that a man's salary must be high. There's a not-so-funny-maybe-serious meme for women telling: A man is not a financial plan!

If a woman is looking to have a high income earner husband so she doesn't have to work and could hang out with friends all day long is making a big mistake....

Should the marriage get into the trouble, husband cheats for example and starts to beat the the wife. Worse still, there's pre-nup... The wife can't just file for a divorce.... She doesn't have a job, doesn't have her own house to go home too. Or the Husband could file for a divorce and same bad outcome for her.

Put it in another way. If a high income husband is the financial plan, this limits your choice of men.... There's really not much choice, either to blindly take chances (the man is going to be nice til old age) or work hard at getting a sustainable career - more freedom to choose your partner and if they turn bad, you can easily leave them.

 

[MehGuy]

Yep, a man needs to have a job....Unless he'll be taking care of the kids full time.

What might be shallow is that a man's salary must be high. There's a not-so-funny-maybe-serious meme for women telling: A man is not a financial plan!

If a woman is looking to have a high income earner husband so she doesn't have to work and could hang out with friends all day long is making a big mistake....

Should the marriage get into the trouble, husband cheats for example and starts to beat the the wife. Worse still, there's pre-nup... The wife can't just file for a divorce.... She doesn't have a job, doesn't have her own house to go home too. Or the Husband could file for a divorce and same bad outcome for her.

Put it in another way. If a high income husband is the financial plan, this limits your choice of men.... There's really not much choice, either to blindly take chances (the man is going to be nice til old age) or work hard at getting a sustainable career - more freedom to choose your partner and if they turn bad, you can easily leave them.

Since there are only a limited amount of higher earning men, I hope the women who want these kind of men have something special about themselves to give in return. Men have a sense of hierarchy when it comes to choosing their partners as well. It's not only a woman thing, nor does it become sexist and patriarchal when men do it.

 

[timewerx]

Since there are only a limited amount of higher earning men, I hope the women who want these kind of men have something special about themselves to give in return. Men have a sense of hierarchy when it comes to choosing their partners as well. It's not only a woman thing, nor does it become sexist and patriarchal when men do it.

The woman doesn't have to be really special or unique. Highly educated and high earning men would simply want someone with similar enough interests, takes great care of their bodies, and classy / elegant on top of that.

But everything comes at a price. If looking for someone with very few negatives (wonder woman in the flesh - the fictional wonder woman character, not Gal Gadot!) is pushing the odds towards 1 in a million chance.

 

[MehGuy]

The woman doesn't have to be really special or unique. Highly educated and high earning men would simply want someone with similar enough interests, takes great care of their bodies, and classy / elegant on top of that.

But everything comes at a price. If looking for someone with very few negatives (wonder woman in the flesh - the fictional wonder woman character, not Gal Gadot!) is pushing the odds towards 1 in a million chance.

She has to be young and pretty. Which explains a lot of the complications these kinds of couples face later in life..

A high income man isn't just going to pick up any woman off the street.. even if she has a "good personality" or whatever. It works both ways. It's not like men do not have a genetic care about the quality of their potential future children. Despite what feminists want to think.

 

[timewerx]

She has to be young and pretty. Which explains a lot of the complications these kinds of couples face later in life..

Unfortunately, and this is why it's important for a woman to have a career herself.

If things go wrong, she'll have something to fall back to and it basically, it helps preserve balance of power in a marriage. Just speaking realistically here. Men who have tendencies to abuse and senses you depend on him entirely might be encouraged to become abusive in the relationship.

This planet is unfortunately still a "man's world". Still discriminates women. It's a man's collective behavior to make a woman dependent on the man. The only way to change the status quo is not to depend on the man to fulfill your dreams in life! Got to do it yourself!

 

[MehGuy]

Unfortunately, and this is why it's important for a woman to have a career herself.

If things go wrong, she'll have something to fall back to and it basically, it helps preserve balance of power in a marriage. Just speaking realistically here. Men who have tendencies to abuse and senses you depend on him entirely might be encouraged to become abusive in the relationship.

This planet is unfortunately still a "man's world". Still discriminates women. It's a man's collective behavior to make a woman dependent on the man. The only way to change the status quo is not to depend on the man to fulfill your dreams in life! Got to do it yourself!

I live in the first world, I think we're more progressive with this issue. I do not know what's going on in your part of the world, lol.

I just do not like the idea that men are somehow bad if they lose their love and attraction for their wives as they age. Yet if a man loses his nice paying job everyone has to be sympathetic towards the woman who loses her interest in him. Dating and love should be equally horrific for both couples, not just men.

 

[timewerx]

I live in the first world, I think we're more progressive with this issue. I do not know what's going on in your part of the world, lol.

Women here aggressively pursue their own careers but if they marry a high income guy, they often quit their jobs and you'll find them living their life like it's one big vacation. They quit working even if they don't have kids yet.

 

[MehGuy]

Women here aggressively pursue their own careers but if they marry a high income guy, they often quit their jobs and you'll find them living their life like it's one big vacation. They quit working even if they don't have kids yet.

So men are pressuring women to give up their careers in order for them to have a carefree life in order to control and abuse them? If those same women find themselves dumped 10 years later when the guy finally wants a fresher younger model, she has no one to blame but herself. At least encourage the woman to have some foresight here.. lol.

 

[timewerx]

So men are pressuring women to give up their careers in order for them to have a carefree life in order to control and abuse them? If those same women find themselves dumped 10 years later when the guy finally wants a fresher younger model, she has no one to blame but herself. At least encourage the woman to have some foresight here.. lol.

Sometimes, it's the wife who volunteers to quit her job (even without any kids on the way).

It's really simple, no more stressing over the job, no more getting up early in the morning... But everything comes at a price in this world.

 

[MehGuy]

Sometimes, it's the wife who volunteers to quit her job (even without any kids on the way).

It's really simple, no more stressing over the job, no more getting up early in the morning... But everything comes at a price in this world.

Oh, I believe that.. I'm just not seeing the part where the woman is a victim and the man is an abuser.

Women cannot help wanting a provider and men cannot help wanting a youthful and pretty woman. One party loses their obligation and you shouldn't blame the other for wanting to discontune the marriage.

 

[Kayann246]

God fearing
Leadership
Consistent
humble
funny
honest
caring

 

[timewerx]

Oh, I believe that.. I'm just not seeing the part where the woman is a victim and the man is an abuser.

Women cannot help wanting a provider and men cannot help wanting a youthful and pretty woman. One party loses their obligation and you shouldn't blame the other for wanting to discontune the marriage.

I'm just saying IF the husband becomes abusive. Doesn't always happen. But a man who has a tendency to abuse might become one if there is huge imbalance of power (for example, the wife has no job to sustain herself). He would see the situation totally in his favor since the wife would not leave him nor file a report since she depends entirely on him.

The "Proverbs 31 wife" although not very realistic (the perfect wife). Shows a woman with a thriving business or means to provide for herself and her family. A woman with authority (through character, wisdom, and ability to secure resources.

The woman depending entirely on the man and the man making tons of money is the desired situation in a strongly Patriarchal society. But that is not the Christian way (at least the Christianity I know).

A man committing adultery is common enough especially the high earning ones (realistically speaking, the temptation is very high for them) so the woman needs to always have a backup plan for this especially if pre nups are involved.

 

[MehGuy]

Oh nvm, I don't even know what I'm arguing about in this thread.. lol.

 

[James of Arc]

What i think is kind of humorous is back before the womans lib movement the woman was expected to go to collage and get their bachelors then get a partime secretary job until they found a husband to take care of them and then they stay home and raise kids and make house.

Which is really what we need today because that would mean the woman would have hi self-esteem and the knowledge and discipline to help pillar their husband but in reality i just like simple country girls who know how to have fun and be a strong partner.