What are some things/traits you value in someone you're looking to date?

[sea5763]

I'm just saying IF the husband becomes abusive. Doesn't always happen. But a man who has a tendency to abuse might become one if there is huge imbalance of power (for example, the wife has no job to sustain herself). He would see the situation totally in his favor since the wife would not leave him nor file a report since she depends entirely on him.

The "Proverbs 31 wife" although not very realistic (the perfect wife). Shows a woman with a thriving business or means to provide for herself and her family. A woman with authority (through character, wisdom, and ability to secure resources.

The woman depending entirely on the man and the man making tons of money is the desired situation in a strongly Patriarchal society. But that is not the Christian way (at least the Christianity I know).

A man committing adultery is common enough especially the high earning ones (realistically speaking, the temptation is very high for them) so the woman needs to always have a backup plan for this especially if pre nups are involved.

Yeah I've been trying to get through college in order to get a job so that if I ever do get married later I'm not completely dependent on some man I've never met before financially. I don't want to be dependent on others although I admit I have been my whole life. I didn't really think of it in terms of them cheating or becoming abusive but in terms of if they get in a car accident or something goes wrong.

 

[Gnarwhal]

It'd be nice to be with someone who's interests extend beyond vapid pleasures. Bonus points if she's a Giants fan, extra bonus points if she knows how to keep a score card.

Oh and you know, being moral and upright/virtuous would be great too.

I could probably list off several other things but I'm already bored with this...

 

[littleangelone]

when my Christian husband finds me these are the traits I value

he has to be gentle & caring

he has to overlook my disability

he has to be compasstionate


have a relationship with Jesus

 

[S.O.J.I.A.]

a follower of Christ who desires marriage and children and has these things as a part of their value system.