We lost Dad

[thenewageriseth]

My dad was sick for a few months. We thought he would pull out of it.
But he passed away last Wednesday. He was wheezing and breathing heavily and just collapsed on the floor while Mom was trying to help him out. I heard his yells of pain and his breathing. We called 911, and then Mom, all hysterical, went to the hospital with him. Later we learned he had been "dead on arrival".
He's gonna be cremated.
My mood has been going up and down. One minute I'll feel calm, another minute I'll feel depressed.
And then sometimes I'll either feel like crying or feel STOIC, with no tears or feeling even..
Is this normal?

 

[Bamboo_Chicken]

(((Bo)))

I'm so sorry to hear you lost him Hun . In answer to your question though, there isn't really a 'normal'...everybody reacts to grief differently, but no way is wrong, ok? You'll be upset at times while you wont feel others, but you and your family will get through it together. I'll be sending hugs and prayers your way Hun .

 

[Criada]

So sorry to hear this, sweetie.
There really isn't a right or wrong way to grieve.... just, be gentle with yourself and let it take its course.
Praying for you and your family.

 

[JCFantasy23]

Oh, how terrible, I am very sorry for your loss. I am praying for you and your family. There is no right or wrong way with grief.

 

[Tenebrae]

sorry for your loss.


Be gentle on yourself, and as others have said, theres no set way to grieve, and people do grieve in different ways.

 

[ladyt28]

I call grieving the 'roller coaster in the dark' as one minute I'm ok, the next the floor disappears out from under me, sometimes I understand what makes the mood swing, other times I'm at a loss. Know what? It's all ok. The only advise I can give is please don't keep it all inside - private moments and pain are ok but it can eat away at you if you keep too much in. And God wasn't kidding about sending the Comforter - the Holy Spirit is within us there to give us strength when we need it most. God bless you!

 

[thenewageriseth]

Thanks, y'all.

 

[JesusFreak2008]

Bo,

My Condolences for your loss. As others have said, there is no right or wrong way to grieve. Grieving is a process that sometimes takes a while to go through. I recently lost my best friend Amanda Paige Panzini, who died in June 2008 from the aftermath of getting hit by a truck on her bike. She was only fifteen. I am still grieving as well as others are. We sometimes joke around and remember the good times we had with her, and this helps. I'll pray for you and your family.

*praying*

 

[Katya]

As the others have said, there is no right or wrong way when it comes to grieving. The important thing is that you allow yourself to grieve. When my father died 7 years ago, I never allowed myself to grieve. Someone had told me that I should put off my grieving as I needed to be there for my mother and my family. I was the oldest child living at home. My older brother had his own family to take care of. So I stupidly took this advice. It wasn't until a year later that I finally allowed myself to feel the loss of my father.

You will go thru all sorts of emotions, and that's ok. It's part of the process. Just know that you and your family are in my prayers.