Waiting ? Any one been praying for a situation for along while ?

[SavedByGrace3]

When and if God decides to heal me it'll happen in His time.

When and if he wants you to marry, it'll happen. But sometimes what we want isn't in line with His will.

He can bless us in other ways and give us happiness outside of our desires, too.

I use the Hebrews 11 instruction regarding timing.
He said that faith is the evidence of things NOT seen, and that to please Him you have to believe that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him. Also Jesus said to believe when you pray that you have received what you ask for.

Altogether is says that you have a need, you ask and believe that you have received because to please Him you have to know He is a rewarder.
Hold fast to the belief that you have received, even when it does not appear. Remember that many of those heroes of the faith listed in Hebrews 11 never received what they believed for in their lifetime. But at all points they still believed that it was theirs. I have known many wonderful faithful saints who prayed for healing but had not received it in their body.

He told me without hesitation "It is your job to believe. I told you to believe you have received when you pray. It is my job to fulfil your prayer. YOU do your job (pray and hold fast to your faith) and I will do MY job in my time."

The general idea I got was "What happens is my business. Not yours. I take care of my business, you take care of yours."

 

[biblelesson]

I use the Hebrews 11 instruction regarding timing.
He said that faith is the evidence of things NOT seen, and that to please Him you have to believe that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him. Also Jesus said to believe when you pray that you have received what you ask for.

Altogether is says that you have a need, you ask and believe that you have received because to please Him you have to know He is a rewarder.
Hold fast to the belief that you have received, even when it does not appear. Remember that many of those heroes of the faith listed in Hebrews 11 never received what they believed for in their lifetime. But at all points they still believed that it was theirs. I have known many wonderful faithful saints who prayed for healing but had not received it in their body.

He told me without hesitation "It is your job to believe. I told you to believe you have received when you pray. It is my job to fulfil your prayer. YOU do your job (pray and hold fast to your faith) and I will do MY job in my time."

The general idea I got was "What happens is my business. Not yours. I take care of my business, you take care of yours."

Amen, and Amen again!

 

[PrincessofGod18]

I was in the same situation for many years. I was around 35 when I got married. But some advice, it is not always wise to just wait. It is a bit like traveling, you can pray all you want to get from point A to B, but unless you actually start walking, it is unlikely you will ever get there. It is the same with relationships, you have to take steps toward what you are wanting.

I have tried many steps, went to Israel trip with a big church group several years ago and then about a year ago I asked a guy to hang out with me he did, very nice guy but he had to move away and wasn't ready for marriage which I respected, still good friends. And then not long ago I tried talking to a guy in church and he didn't seem interested. So I have tried.

 

[PrincessofGod18]

Have you ever really let go of something you really wanted, and suddenly you received that thing you had been wanting?

Try and work on your doubt. Let go of any strong desires for a husband because they turn into feelings of disappointment. It’s the waiting and not receiving that causes these emotions when your faith is not strong in God.

Stop asking, or even begging God. That’s a sign of doubt. But turn your prayer around and start simply thanking God from now on for your husband, the husband He wants you to have.

God is the One Who ordained marriage! God established marriage to be a covenant bond between a man and woman, so don’t listen to people about troubled marriages. That doesn’t have to happen to you.

For example, my marriage is not so great, but my marriage has nothing to do with how God determines to bless you. So don’t listen to negative.

Just trust God to bring you who He wants in your life. Let go of doubt, worry, unbelief, disappointment, fear, etc. We are commanded to renew our minds, so take into your prayer praise and thanksgiving - thank Him for selecting your husband, thank Him for blessing you, thank Him for removing fear, thank Him for granting you great faith, thank Him for casting away your worry, thank Him for hearing the prayers of others for you, thank Him for causing you to trust Him, etc. praise His goodness, praise His majesty, praise His holiness, etc. praise Him with your whole heart.

Pray like this from now on. This is one way to turn around doubt! He will answer!

That doubt is because I am not sure if God wants me to get married or not, no one knows apart from God. If I pray like that which you say above that God will bring me a husband, then I might end up getting my hopes up because God will bring me someone and then might end up not to be ?

It's a difficult one to pray, you can't say he has a husband for me because it might not be His will for me, we just don't know, that's why I say if it's God's will. But then you can look it the other way that God can do anything. God's in control so if God wanted me to get married it will happen if not then there's a reason which I don't know maybe until I get to heaven.

 

[Twin_niwT]

Hi all,

For about 10 or 12 years now, I have been waiting and praying for my future husband, has anyone been in the same situation ?
And did you get to a situation where you pray, then trust God, and then doubt comes in and restart all over again to appoint it gets so tired.

I do have some people at church praying for me.

But surely God can see how this is effecting me and why is he making me wait ?

Anyone been in this situation ?

God the Father doesn't fulfill the cravings of your natural mind/flesh. You're seeking something that belongs to the "beast of the field" for procreation purposes. It's below a Sheep to desire these things. You're still operating from the natural mind, not Spirit. Marriage and child bearing are curses and bondage. It is not from God the Father who is Spirit and is only concerned with Spirit. Choose one or the other because the world can do without unsatisfied "Christians" who complain endlessly about how God doesn't give them enough worldly delights, money or answered prayers. Even with that said, God's Grace allows these things, but they are not preferred by Him.

 

[DragonFox91]

Yes, same issue as OP. More than 10-12 years tho.

Also, it's not as simple as 'just pick someone' & 'stop waiting on God'......\

I use the Hebrews 11 instruction regarding timing.
He said that faith is the evidence of things NOT seen, and that to please Him you have to believe that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him. Also Jesus said to believe when you pray that you have received what you ask for.

Altogether is says that you have a need, you ask and believe that you have received because to please Him you have to know He is a rewarder.
Hold fast to the belief that you have received, even when it does not appear. Remember that many of those heroes of the faith listed in Hebrews 11 never received what they believed for in their lifetime. But at all points they still believed that it was theirs. I have known many wonderful faithful saints who prayed for healing but had not received it in their body.

He told me without hesitation "It is your job to believe. I told you to believe you have received when you pray. It is my job to fulfil your prayer. YOU do your job (pray and hold fast to your faith) and I will do MY job in my time."

The general idea I got was "What happens is my business. Not yours. I take care of my business, you take care of yours."

Aren't all those verses referring to salvation tho?

God the Father doesn't fulfill the cravings of your natural mind/flesh. You're seeking something that belongs to the "beast of the field" for procreation purposes. It's below a Sheep to desire these things. You're still operating from the natural mind, not Spirit. Marriage and child bearing are curses and bondage. It is not from God the Father who is Spirit and is only concerned with Spirit. Choose one or the other because the world can do without unsatisfied "Christians" who complain endlessly about how God doesn't give them enough worldly delights, money or answered prayers. Even with that said, God's Grace allows these things, but they are not preferred by Him.

No, marriage is a good thing. Goes back to Adam & Eve before the Fall. It's not is Gnosticsm. Paul & Jesus both affirmed marriage is good.

 

[Twin_niwT]

Yes, same issue as OP. More than 10-12 years tho.

Also, it's not as simple as 'just pick someone' & 'stop waiting on God'......\


Aren't all those verses referring to salvation tho?



No, marriage is a good thing. Goes back to Adam & Eve before the Fall. It's not is Gnosticsm. Paul & Jesus both affirmed marriage is good.

Eve was Adam's helper. There is nothing commanding people to engage in marriages and have kids. It's an earthly activity and its main purpose is to prevent men and woman from fornicating in the flesh. Your desire should be for Christ, alone. If you are not solely interested in heavenly things, then by all means get married, but it is not preferred by God.

 

[biblelesson]

That doubt is because I am not sure if God wants me to get married or not, no one knows apart from God. If I pray like that which you say above that God will bring me a husband, then I might end up getting my hopes up because God will bring me someone and then might end up not to be ?

It's a difficult one to pray, you can't say he has a husband for me because it might not be His will for me, we just don't know, that's why I say if it's God's will. But then you can look it the other way that God can do anything. God's in control so if God wanted me to get married it will happen if not then there's a reason which I don't know maybe until I get to heaven.

There is no respect of persons with God, Romans 2:11 KJV. What He promises for one He promises for all. It is already God’s will that there be marriage between a man and woman, starting in Genesis.

God put the responsibility on us to believe! He has nothing to do with our lack of faith or our misunderstanding about His word. Sure, the Holy Spirit helps with an increased faith, but each individual must exercise it.

When we trust God for something, He answers us.

If you say it might not be His will, it’s you operating with no faith because that’s not biblical. It’s is a bad indoctrination that’s been around for centuries in the church.

We are told to renew our minds, Romans 12:2 KJV

We must read the epistles of Paul and the other Apostles (from Romans to Jude) and pray for understand for where we fit in the New Testament! Because all of our promises have already been given in Christ Jesus. God does not give us blessings outside of Christ and His work on the Cross.

 

[Benjamin Müller]

@PrincessofGod18 , I'm not sure, I could be the one with the problem, but I feel defensive over certain individuals who seem to insist you not having a husband is a lack of faith on your part or a lack of looking. Or to want a husband makes you less of a Christian because it's 'worldly'.

The Lord commanded to be fruitful and multiply; there is nothing sinful or against the spirit to have a husband and a family. By doing so, you are giving birth to more Christians who will form the family of God in the Spirit. Marriage and family is honorable because we as humans get to part-take and assist God in extending His family.

If having a husband and a family is your heart's desire I do hope that God gives it to you according to His will and in His time.

But to the people who are making accusations of faithlessness: Every person has a separate relationship with God, and God gives us what we need not always what we want. Of course, He can give us the things we want but that's up to His own discretion whether or not He does.

For example: when it comes to healing, people assume that James 5:13-15 is that the sick person will be cured, but it doesn't say that. It says that the sick person will be saved or preserved and raised up. That doesn't mean the disease will be cured, but that the effects of the disease can go into remission. The sick person won't die and they will be 'raised up', they won't be on a sick bed. They can get up, live and cope.

Paul had a prayer denied. 2 Corinthians 12:8-10

Moses wanted to entire the Promised Land and was denied.

David prayed that his son wouldn't die; but God did not answer him.

While I hope PrincessofGod18 receives what she wants, you cannot, with certainty, claim that she will have it. There are biblical examples of denied prayers. The Lord's Prayer is Thy will be done, not our will be done.

 

[RevealedTruths]

Eve was Adam's helper. There is nothing commanding people to engage in marriages and have kids. It's an earthly activity and its main purpose is to prevent men and woman from fornicating in the flesh. Your desire should be for Christ, alone. If you are not solely interested in heavenly things, then by all means get married, but it is not preferred by God.

It's way more deeper than that. The relationship between man and woman is the direct image of man's relationship with God. Humans were created to be made in God's image and mirror God's love as male and female, not as sexless disembodied ghosts temporarily placed in physical bodies.

 

[biblelesson]

Eve was Adam's helper. There is nothing commanding people to engage in marriages and have kids. It's an earthly activity and its main purpose is to prevent men and woman from fornicating in the flesh. Your desire should be for Christ, alone. If you are not solely interested in heavenly things, then by all means get married, but it is not preferred by God.

Be fruitful and multiply. How would the world have multiplied if there were no marriages?

The Bible does not say your desire should be to Christ alone; God designed the marriage covenant which is a heavenly thing being rightfully under a marriage covenant between believers, which represents the covenant we are under in Christ.

It’s people who don’t understand scripture and continue to violate the covenant.

 

[Twin_niwT]

It's way more deeper than that. The relationship between man and woman is the direct image of man's relationship with God. Humans were created to be made in God's image and mirror God's love as male and female, not as sexless disembodied ghosts temporarily placed in physical bodies.

You said: "It's way more deeper than that. The relationship between man and woman is the direct image of man's relationship with God."
The beings that were made in God's image in the first account of creation are not us, unless we have God's Spirit. We are only made in God's image when we are born again of God's Spirit. The beings God the father created were spirit. Our bodies are carbon. How can a carbon body be made in God's image, who is Spirit? Our bodies suffer, get sick and die, this is NOT God the Father's image!

You said: "Humans were created to be made in God's image and mirror God's love as male and female.."
How is that working out? I guess He failed. Divorce rate, femicide, abuse, infidelity..etc, I guess God failed because that isn't God's image!
God the Father's (Christ's Father) creation was perfect. He was so pleased with His creation that He rested and enjoyed it. There was/is no SIN, evil or imperfections, all is well with God the Father's creation. Our current world was not created by Christ's Father, it was created by Father god. This is why a serpent was able to enter the story line. This absolutely would never happen in God the Father's Creation because there is no darkness in Him, only light, at all times, forever and ever!

You said: "....not as sexless disembodied ghosts temporarily placed in physical bodies."
That's exactly what people are. You nailed it. With out these evil spirits, people would be in a vegetative state and without brain activity. Have you ever observed a person in shock? They stop responding to external stimuli because they have literally had the "hell scared out of them". Intense suffering temporarily causes evil spirits to leave ones body.

Fixation on getting married and finding a husband means a person is possessed by an evil spirit of marriage lust. It's not from God. It's a lust of the flesh and its purpose is to help one obtain Ego pleasures/Boosts.. This is why people can seem "so in love" one day and divorce the next. Where did the love go? Why are people so unstable? Because the evil spirits they attract are unstable. A person will agree with the devil as long as they are receiving some sort of pleasure or gain. It could be anything from sexual pleasure, money, status, financial stability, most of the time it's about realizing an image. They think/behave this way because they have the Devil's intellect.

 

[RevealedTruths]

You said: "It's way more deeper than that. The relationship between man and woman is the direct image of man's relationship with God."
The beings that were made in God's image in the first account of creation are not us, unless we have God's Spirit. We are only made in God's image when we are born again of God's Spirit. The beings God the father created were spirit. Our bodies are carbon. How can a carbon body be made in God's image, who is Spirit? Our bodies suffer, get sick and die, this is NOT God the Father's image!

You said: "Humans were created to be made in God's image and mirror God's love as male and female.."
How is that working out? I guess He failed. Divorce rate, femicide, abuse, infidelity..etc, I guess God failed because that isn't God's image!
God the Father's (Christ's Father) creation was perfect. He was so pleased with His creation that He rested and enjoyed it. There was/is no SIN, evil or imperfections, all is well with God the Father's creation. Our current world was not created by Christ's Father, it was created by Father god. This is why a serpent was able to enter the story line. This absolutely would never happen in God the Father's Creation because there is no darkness in Him, only light, at all times, forever and ever!

You said: "....not as sexless disembodied ghosts temporarily placed in physical bodies."
That's exactly what people are. You nailed it. With out these evil spirits, people would be in a vegetative state and without brain activity. Have you ever observed a person in shock? They stop responding to external stimuli because they have literally had the "hell scared out of them". Intense suffering temporarily causes evil spirits to leave ones body.

Fixation on getting married and finding a husband means a person is possessed by an evil spirit of marriage lust. It's not from God. It's a lust of the flesh and its purpose is to help one obtain Ego pleasures/Boosts.. This is why people can seem "so in love" one day and divorce the next. Where did the love go? Why are people so unstable? Because the evil spirits they attract are unstable. A person will agree with the devil as long as they are receiving some sort of pleasure or gain. It could be anything from sexual pleasure, money, status, financial stability, most of the time it's about realizing an image. They think/behave this way because they have the Devil's intellect.

Saying that desiring a wife is being possessed with a spirit of lust is literally the same as saying God's desire for us is just His inability to live indepentently.

 

[biblelesson]

@PrincessofGod18 , I'm not sure, I could be the one with the problem, but I feel defensive over certain individuals who seem to insist you not having a husband is a lack of faith on your part or a lack of looking. Or to want a husband makes you less of a Christian because it's 'worldly'.

The Lord commanded to be fruitful and multiply; there is nothing sinful or against the spirit to have a husband and a family. By doing so, you are giving birth to more Christians who will form the family of God in the Spirit. Marriage and family is honorable because we as humans get to part-take and assist God in extending His family.

If having a husband and a family is your heart's desire I do hope that God gives it to you according to His will and in His time.

But to the people who are making accusations of faithlessness: Every person has a separate relationship with God, and God gives us what we need not always what we want. Of course, He can give us the things we want but that's up to His own discretion whether or not He does.

For example: when it comes to healing, people assume that James 5:13-15 is that the sick person will be cured, but it doesn't say that. It says that the sick person will be saved or preserved and raised up. That doesn't mean the disease will be cured, but that the effects of the disease can go into remission. The sick person won't die and they will be 'raised up', they won't be on a sick bed. They can get up, live and cope.

Paul had a prayer denied. 2 Corinthians 12:8-10

Moses wanted to entire the Promised Land and was denied.

David prayed that his son wouldn't die; but God did not answer him.

While I hope PrincessofGod18 receives what she wants, you cannot, with certainty, claim that she will have it. There are biblical examples of denied prayers. The Lord's Prayer is Thy will be done, not our will be done.

We are no longer under the Old Testament. We are under the New Testament where we are told that if we have confidence in God, we have what we ask for:
1 John 5:14-15 KJV,
14 And this is the confidence that we have in him, that, if we ask any thing according to his will, he heareth us:

15 And if we know that he hear us, whatsoever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we desired of him.

So in the above scripture, what’s according to his will? Verse 15 has the answer, “if we know that he hear us.” So what is this? Faith.

Each time Jesus healed someone, he asked “do you believe.” When the disciple’s couldn’t cast out a demon, what did Jesus say? “Oh ye of little faith.” So to believe is God’s will; to have faith is God’s will. Why? Hebrews 11:6 KJV, “But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.”

So if we ask for 10 to 12 years for something and have not receive, we need to start looking at our faith. I should not believe a person who gives me their personal opinion. I should believe God, and He said we should operate in faith. To continue to ask people for their opinion over and over again instead of working on our unbelief is an unwillingness to do the work of faith!

 

[Twin_niwT]

Saying that desiring a wife is being possessed with a spirit of lust is literally the same as saying God's desire for us is just His inability to live indepentently.

What I really said: "Fixation on getting married and finding a husband means a person is possessed by an evil spirit of marriage lust."

An evil spirit of lust is a different spirit, although the two usually go hand in hand, and that is why God's Grace allows marriage. He doesn't want you to fornicate, not in Spirit (with the Devil), nor in the flesh.

 

[Benjamin Müller]

So is God evil for created a sex drive in humans?

@Twin_niwT - Suffice to say, you're wrong. Yes people can be overcome with a spirit of lust, but wanting a husband and a family is not sin. Nor is it steeped in lust. It's a biological drive God instilled in humans, so that we would procreate and expand His kingdom. You treat it as though God just wanted to throw stumbling blocks in front of everyone and make life difficult in every degree possible. You need to re-evaluate, and give grace to the poster instead of coming in with a spirit of judgment. Are you going to shame women for menstruating too? A normal biological process which only happens because the woman isn't pregnant.

Just do yourself a favor and stop posting in this thread.

 

[Twin_niwT]

So is God evil for created a sex drive in humans?

@Twin_niwT - Suffice to say, you're wrong. Yes people can be overcome with a spirit of lust, but wanting a husband and a family is not sin. Nor is it steeped in lust. It's a biological drive God instilled in humans, so that we would procreate and expand His kingdom. You treat it as though God just wanted to throw stumbling blocks in front of everyone and make life difficult in every degree possible. You need to re-evaluate, and give grace to the poster instead of coming in with a spirit of judgment. Are you going to shame women for menstruating too? A normal biological process which only happens because the woman isn't pregnant.

Just do yourself a favor and stop posting in this thread.

So is God evil for created a sex drive in humans?

@Twin_niwT - Suffice to say, you're wrong. Yes people can be overcome with a spirit of lust, but wanting a husband and a family is not sin. Nor is it steeped in lust. It's a biological drive God instilled in humans, so that we would procreate and expand His kingdom. You treat it as though God just wanted to throw stumbling blocks in front of everyone and make life difficult in every degree possible. You need to re-evaluate, and give grace to the poster instead of coming in with a spirit of judgment. Are you going to shame women for menstruating too? A normal biological process which only happens because the woman isn't pregnant.

Just do yourself a favor and stop posting in this thread.

You said: “Suffice to say, you're wrong. Yes people can be overcome with a spirit of lust, but wanting a husband and a family is not sin.”

I didn't say it was Sin to desire a family, I said that even though it is a lust of the flesh, God's Grace allows it because He doesn't want you to fornicate, but He doesn't prefer it. He would rather you stay single, lonely and miserable, solely focused on Him allllllll day long. How horrible of Him, right? The thought alone makes you angry enough to tell me to stop posting on an open thread that promotes Christian topics and discussion.

You said: “You need to re-evaluate, and give grace to the poster instead of coming in with a spirit of judgment.”

I am giving Grace, it's called Truth. She asked for Christian opinions and I gave her one.

You said: “So is God evil for created a sex drive in humans?”

That came from your own mind. I never even hinted towards that. An evil spirit of Lust comes from the Devil.

As Christians, we subdue the desires of the flesh because we have power over them. This is what it means to be a Christian. We don't Sin all day long and say “at least I'm saved by Grace, I don't have to worry about my behaviour”. This is not what Grace means. It means God equips us with a spirit body that overcomes the flesh VERY easily and consistently. We don't remain in the same Sin day after day, year after year, complaining how the “struggle is real”. Nope, not a chance. This wishywashyness is due to a Love of Sin, Satan and the World, more than a love of God. Being a sourpuss about it and placing the blame on those who are trying to help you isn't beneficial. Also, feel free to ignore/block me if my words offend you.

 

[RevealedTruths]

I didn't say it was Sin to desire a family, I said that even though it is a lust of the flesh, God's Grace allows it because He doesn't want you to fornicate, but He doesn't prefer it. He would rather you stay single, lonely and miserable, solely focused on Him allllllll day long. How horrible of Him, right? The thought alone makes you angry enough to tell me to stop posting on an open thread that promotes Christian topics and discussion.

Right, God would prefer man to stay single, lonely and miserable. Which is exaaaaaaaaactly why God said in Eden, before the fall, that it's not good for man to be alone and that He'll make him a helper and companion. God is our heavenly Father, not a slave master who just wants people to focus on Him and don't do anything else.

 

[Twin_niwT]

Right, God would prefer man to stay single, lonely and miserable. Which is exaaaaaaaaactly why God said in Eden, before the fall, that it's not good for man to be alone and that He'll make him a helper and companion. God is our heavenly Father, not a slave master who just wants people to focus on Him and don't do anything else.

It was sarcasm. The person I was replying to didn't like the idea of remaining single and solely focusing on God 24/7.

Father god was obviously wrong about "it is not good for man to be alone". Eve ruined his spiritual life and also the lives of future men who would marry her counterparts. She is fallen, domineering, unstable, and unfaithful. Man is much better off without women, but because of the very common spirit of lust, he risks being destroyed by fornication. It is better for men to marry for that reason alone. If he is spirit filled, he will subdue the desires of the flesh and resist the devil. His desire will be for God alone. Women won't interest him. Not all men are capable of this, those that aren't, SHOULD Marry a woman. But be forwarned, you will be hard pressed to find a true Sheep woman, you'll have to settle for the manipulator who wants you to fullfill HER dreams and desires. After that, she'll leave you with child support and a tent.

You said: "God is our heavenly Father, not a slave master who just wants people to focus on Him and don't do anything else."
There are so many things wrong with this statement ...please meditate on what you just said in light of the scriptures.

 

[DragonFox91]

I think we need to go back to the topic of the OP since it's her thread. OP, there
are a lot of singles in your boat out there with the exact same concerns. Don't fret! It'll be okay!

Sorry I somehow missed your comment.


As far as being single in this day and age, I look at the upcoming economic and political situation and realize that the next ten years or so, is going to be a tough time for raising kids. I remember reading Jeremiah 16 and it just spoke to me, and felt like a personal warning and a prophecy for our time.

I don't know how I knew that I was never suppose to marry. I think deep down I had known it for some time, but when I saw friends having kids and I was sad that I wasn't married yet with children, it was like I had to finally face the prospect of would I actually get married and I just knew that I wouldn't. I know some people would say 'never say never', but . . . I just knew. I grieved it for a little while but I have accepted it, because I believe God has something good in store for me.

Can you go into more detail what your desire was like before than? Did it come & go in cycles? Or was it pretty strong? Or was it never really something you thought about? Started early on? Only when you saw other people married?