Waiting ? Any one been praying for a situation for along while ?

[PrincessofGod18]

Hi all,

For about 10 or 12 years now, I have been waiting and praying for my future husband, has anyone been in the same situation ?
And did you get to a situation where you pray, then trust God, and then doubt comes in and restart all over again to appoint it gets so tired.

I do have some people at church praying for me.

But surely God can see how this is effecting me and why is he making me wait ?

Anyone been in this situation ?

 

[Benjamin Müller]

20 Years on and still not healed of Crohn's, but, God has blessed me in other ways. Helped me cope during hard times. And I think these last twenty years have been beneficial for my spiritual growth.

When and if God decides to heal me it'll happen in His time.

When and if he wants you to marry, it'll happen. But sometimes what we want isn't in line with His will.

He can bless us in other ways and give us happiness outside of our desires, too.

 

[Gregory Thompson]

Finding a life partner is a biological impulse that is really strong during the earlier decades of human development, so you're not alone.

However, since it's a biological impulse, it can get in the way of our spiritual development.

Christian Advice: work on developing the spiritual person God revived when you were born again by the Holy Spirit, that's what's most important to God.

Also, sometimes things that seem impossible to find when you swim after them, come to you if you do something else instead.

 

[Sketcher]

20+ years waiting for a Christian wife, waiting and praying for the Spirit to provide certain healing, certain answers, and certain sanctification as well. God's going to do what he wants to do when he's wants to do it.

 

[turkle]

Philippians 4:11-12

11 I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. 12 I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want.​

 

[SavedByGrace3]

I just always though God let me choose who I would marry, where I would work, where I would live, etc.
Of course I prayed. Regarding most of these things, came to the conclusion He was saying. "You choose, I gave you free will, intelligence, and preferences. Make you way and I will bless it. I may warn you about a bad choice, but your life is yours."

 

[PrincessofGod18]

I just always though God let me choose who I would marry, where I would work, where I would live, etc.
Of course I prayed. Regarding most of these things, came to the conclusion He was saying. "You choose, I gave you free will, intelligence, and preferences. Make you way and I will bless it. I may warn you about a bad choice, but your life is yours."

I rather have God to help and direct me, I don't want to make the decision and then end up with a bad choice. Yes I know we have a free will choice but I think it's very important to let God guide and help us in situations, His the only one who can see the future.

 

[PrincessofGod18]

20 Years on and still not healed of Crohn's, but, God has blessed me in other ways. Helped me cope during hard times. And I think these last twenty years have been beneficial for my spiritual growth.

When and if God decides to heal me it'll happen in His time.

When and if he wants you to marry, it'll happen. But sometimes what we want isn't in line with His will.

He can bless us in other ways and give us happiness outside of our desires, too.

That's why I pray, if it's your will God.

 

[Benjamin Müller]

I rather have God to help and direct me, I don't want to make the decision and then end up with a bad choice. Yes I know we have a free will choice but I think it's very important to let God guide and help us in situations, His the only one who can see the future.

Which is a wise decision. I have high standards and won't lower them. Never lower your standards. Remember that you have a husband in Heaven, Jesus Christ, and He cares for his Bride. If you can't find a godly man on earth, just remember you have one in Heaven who is looking after you, and more-so than any earthly husband could.

That's why I pray, if it's your will God.

Can I ask how old you are?


To be perfectly honest, I think in this current age it might be better for some of us who are single to remain single and rely on God, instead of a spouse. I know, not all can accept this saying as Christ said or as Paul instructed.

I understand the desire though for a spouse and a best friend for life. I went through a grieving phase when I realized that God did not intend any of these things for me. It's like I just knew I would remain single. Sometimes I get sad, but I remember that everything will work out for me regardless of my martial state so long as I obey God.

 

[PrincessofGod18]

Which is a wise decision. I have high standards and won't lower them. Never lower your standards. Remember that you have a husband in Heaven, Jesus Christ, and He cares for his Bride. If you can't find a godly man on earth, just remember you have one in Heaven who is looking after you, and more-so than any earthly husband could.

Can I ask how old you are?


To be perfectly honest, I think in this current age it might be better for some of us who are single to remain single and rely on God, instead of a spouse. I know, not all can accept this saying as Christ said or as Paul instructed.

I understand the desire though for a spouse and a best friend for life. I went through a grieving phase when I realized that God did not intend any of these things for me. It's like I just knew I would remain single. Sometimes I get sad, but I remember that everything will work out for me regardless of my martial state so long as I obey God.

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Why do you think that people who are single to remain single in this day and ages ?

Can I ask, what made you realized that God did not intend you to get married, how did you know ?

 

[Blade]

Hi all,

For about 10 or 12 years now, I have been waiting and praying for my future husband, has anyone been in the same situation ?
And did you get to a situation where you pray, then trust God, and then doubt comes in and restart all over again to appoint it gets so tired.

I do have some people at church praying for me.

But surely God can see how this is effecting me and why is he making me wait ?

Anyone been in this situation ?

How to make this simple. If I had this desire I would tell the lord everything about how I feel and what I wanted needed and then I would be so happy knowing not wondering no doubt knowing He heard me and knowing its done and she is coming.

So doubt and have to start all over... there is a truth there but not. Well when doubt comes ooh that should give you such joy! Why? The enemy can not tell the truth so if the enemy is saying never going to happen.. that is a lie...he can only lie do you see? So just because that thought came does not mean you doubted. Like any sin we get thoughts all the time but its when we act on it take it run with it.. get up dust off..oops forgive me Father (if we ran with doubt) but haha He knows your heart. Its ok to say Father I get all these doubts its so hard... but I praise you for blah blah blah coming and I thank you for hearing me and answering my prayer..

So know he is what you asked for coming.. I would have to get out there some how .. could come to the door..wow praise God but the key is no matter what you see what you feel KNOW what you asked for is not maybe not might not GOD is testing you NOT God is making you wait. He will use it for His glory.. know He hears you....hmm its like this old song

"your desire is the confirmation the destination is there God wouldn't put it in your spirit if it was not going somewhere"

That is 100% true. That desire GOD put there and the enemy is trying to steal it because he knows ..hold on.. something is coming! I do not lie I don't say things to make you feel better. If I knew nothing I would say nothing. Just rejoice thank Him praise Him when doubt comes.. like fear comes and in the mist of fear....NO God has not given me the spirit of fear but of power love and a sound mind and I have the joy of the lord.

So when doubt comes.. speak faith no matter how you feel see or hear.. faith. Been hard tough.. rejoice.. its not over.. not even close.. know someone out there is also agreeing with you so when doubt comes.. someone else is standing strong so you never have to feel you have to start over... Peter and John after the man was healed said "that name faith in that name healed this man". God put that desire there.. HE answered it.. in JESUS name

 

[SavedByGrace3]

I rather have God to help and direct me, I don't want to make the decision and then end up with a bad choice. Yes I know we have a free will choice but I think it's very important to let God guide and help us in situations, His the only one who can see the future.

Maybe that is His answer. Do what makes you happy and gives you joy. I will help there.
Maybe that answer is right in front of you.

 

[biblelesson]

Hi all,

For about 10 or 12 years now, I have been waiting and praying for my future husband, has anyone been in the same situation ?
And did you get to a situation where you pray, then trust God, and then doubt comes in and restart all over again to appoint it gets so tired.

I do have some people at church praying for me.

But surely God can see how this is effecting me and why is he making me wait ?

Anyone been in this situation ?

To not have your prayer answered is not biblical. 1 John 5:14-15 KJV, taken from Mark 11:23-24 KJV.

God does see how this is effecting you, and see your doubt. The requirement is faith. So now how do you build up your faith?

Confess your unbelief! Then pray for increased faith! Mark 9:24 KJV.

There is another element of power missing, the Holy Spirit that work miracles in our lives, Galatians 3:5-7 KJV.

You will be faced with other people’s unbelief who don’t or won’t really believe God when He tell us we can have what we ask for if we believe. So you will have to choose to believe God or people. Don’t doubt the scriptures.

Pray: to be filled with the Holy Spirit. To be filled with the Power of the Holy Spirit. Ask for a miracle according to the Holy Spirit. Pray to have your doubt removed and replaced with faith. If you start to doubt, stop yourself, and ask God to remove it.

Pray: thank him for giving you your petition. Thank him for bringing you the person who He wants in your life. Thank Him that He Has already answered your petition, Mark 11:24 KJV.

Praise: Praise Him. Tell God How Magnificent He Is. Praise Him that He is the only God who deserve all praise. Glorify His name through your prayer.

Do not beg out of desperation anymore as if you don’t believe.

God loves you and He Has given us guidance on answered prayer!

Soon, very soon your prayer will be answered.

Don’t forget, it is by the Power of the Holy Spirit that your prayer will be answered, so humble your soul, and ask to be filled with the Spirit, you will experience God’s magnificent shekinah glory, and then all things will be possible!

 

[Benjamin Müller]

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Why do you think that people who are single to remain single in this day and ages ?

Can I ask, what made you realized that God did not intend you to get married, how did you know ?

Sorry I somehow missed your comment.


As far as being single in this day and age, I look at the upcoming economic and political situation and realize that the next ten years or so, is going to be a tough time for raising kids. I remember reading Jeremiah 16 and it just spoke to me, and felt like a personal warning and a prophecy for our time.

I don't know how I knew that I was never suppose to marry. I think deep down I had known it for some time, but when I saw friends having kids and I was sad that I wasn't married yet with children, it was like I had to finally face the prospect of would I actually get married and I just knew that I wouldn't. I know some people would say 'never say never', but . . . I just knew. I grieved it for a little while but I have accepted it, because I believe God has something good in store for me.

 

[Benjamin Müller]

To not have your prayer answered is not biblical. 1 John 5:14-15 KJV, taken from Mark 11:23-24 KJV.

And Christ prayed to God: "saying, “Father, if it is Your will, take this cup away from Me; nevertheless not My will, but Yours, be done.”

If it's not God's will, a prayer will not be answered. If God has something better in store for her, whether that be the right husband in 5 years or 10 years, or keeping her single then whatever He determines is what she will have. She could go and marry anyone, but she wouldn't be doing that with God's guidance. She has asked God to find her a husband, and if he hasn't found her a suitable partner, it's because He wants her happy, safe, and cared for. And the right guy isn't there. . .at least not yet.

Don't spin this into her not having enough faith. God will provide a husband for her, even if that's Jesus Christ in Heaven.

 

[biblelesson]

And Christ prayed to God: "saying, “Father, if it is Your will, take this cup away from Me; nevertheless not My will, but Yours, be done.”

If it's not God's will, a prayer will not be answered. If God has something better in store for her, whether that be the right husband in 5 years or 10 years, or keeping her single then whatever He determines is what she will have. She could go and marry anyone, but she wouldn't be doing that with God's guidance. She has asked God to find her a husband, and if he hasn't found her a suitable partner, it's because He wants her happy, safe, and cared for. And the right guy isn't there. . .at least not yet.

Don't spin this into her not having enough faith. God will provide a husband for her, even if that's Jesus Christ in Heaven.

We can’t use Jesus’s request and say it has the same meaning for answered prayers. Jesus’s was aware that it was God’s will that He would die for the sins of the world. That was already determined to be God’s will - to save mankind. Jesus was crying out to God based on His flesh, and the pain He would suffer, hoping there might be another way, but ultimately Jesus knew it was God’s will that He must die. Or else no one would be saved.

The scriptures we are to look at are those Jesus told His disciples, Mark 11:24 KJV, “Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.”

We also look at what we are told in the epistles, 1 John 5:14-15 KJV,
14 “And this is the confidence that we have in him, that, if we ask any thing according to his will, he heareth us:” 15 “And if we know that he hear us, whatsoever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we desired of him.”

If you notice 1 John 5:14 says if we ask according to His will. Then 1 John 5:15 says if we know he hears us, whatsoever we ask, we know that we have the petition we desire..

So what’s according to His will? If we know He hears us. Because we must be confident that God hears us - that’s His will, because it is God who designed faith. Faith is a principle. If we abide by the principle, we reap the benefits.

Faith is the substance hoped for, evidence of things unseen. Substance and evidence are things we have (but yet unseen) until God brings it about through answered prayer.

Another scripture spells it out further: 1 John 3:21-22,
21 “Beloved, if our heart condemn us not, then have we confidence toward God.” 22 “And whatsoever we ask, we receive of him, because we keep his commandments, and do those things that are pleasing in his sight.”

In the above verses, what’s God’s will? To have confidence in God. The scripture is saying when we have confidence in God, He is pleased because this is His command of us, to trust Him. And when we trust and believe Him with confidence in Him, we are keeping His commandment.

God’s will is what He Has told us His will is. Our prayers are not answered based on if God wants to do it. That’s not scriptural.

If we ask according to His will. And what is His will? To trust Him, and He will do it. Why? Because to believe Him is keeping His command.

People teach other people the opposite of what God says. I have heard people say, yea, but according to His will, as to say expect God to say no. But that is not what God said, and you will not find in the Bible where it says that.

All through the Bible we are commanded to trust God, and God will answer our prayers; He direct us and bless us.

Proverb 3:5-6 KJV, “Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.”

John 15:7 KJV, “If ye abide in me, and my words abide in you, ye shall ask what ye will, and it shall be done unto you.”

Matthew 7:7 KJV, “Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:”

There are hundreds of these scriptures in the Bible.

You are saying God says when we pray that “according to His will” means if He wants to do it. Can you give us those scriptures that says that because that’s not what the above scriptures are saying.

The Bible says we receive whatever we ask if we believe God, have confidence in God, trust in God, etc.

If we chose to believe these old sayings, with nothing to back it up, then we block our blessings.

But if we take God at His word and put away doubt, then we open up heaven for our blessings because God is pleased.

Each person have a choice!

 

[FutureAndAHope]

Hi all,

For about 10 or 12 years now, I have been waiting and praying for my future husband, has anyone been in the same situation ?
And did you get to a situation where you pray, then trust God, and then doubt comes in and restart all over again to appoint it gets so tired.

I do have some people at church praying for me.

But surely God can see how this is effecting me and why is he making me wait ?

Anyone been in this situation ?

I was in the same situation for many years. I was around 35 when I got married. But some advice, it is not always wise to just wait. It is a bit like traveling, you can pray all you want to get from point A to B, but unless you actually start walking, it is unlikely you will ever get there. It is the same with relationships, you have to take steps toward what you are wanting.

 

[Pavel Mosko]

Hi all,

For about 10 or 12 years now, I have been waiting and praying for my future husband, has anyone been in the same situation ?
And did you get to a situation where you pray, then trust God, and then doubt comes in and restart all over again to appoint it gets so tired.

I do have some people at church praying for me.

But surely God can see how this is effecting me and why is he making me wait ?

Anyone been in this situation ?

Yes that was the story of much of my life, as well as another bigger problem namely having long standing problems when it came to getting established in a good career or just getting good decent jobs middle class jobs beyond survival jobs (any job you that just pays the bills, but does not pay as much as you need to if you want to do something beyond survive as a single person with an extremely modest standard of living).


Some points
1) My best advice is to maybe watch some videos by some people like Rick Warren on this kind of topic and try to take the good advice to heart and practice it in your daily life.

2) Realize also that God does allow a certain amount of deprivation in your life for various reasons. Sometimes this is God ordained, because he wants to give you something better than the standard fair that everybody else gets sooner but it takes a lot of time.


3) Our own natural desires for companionship can become an idol etc. This actually is probably the biggest thing I have to remind myself on my longstanding career issue that often seems unfair to me, when I reflect on things like how hard I have worked and studied and applied myself. I find it especially hard that sometimes my relatives, like my father seems to secretly consider me an under achiever etc. and it really hard to not just go ballistic with the whole thing and be mad at God, especially when dealing with family during the holidays where this stuff can come up.

I think that sometimes Christians have to come to terms that maybe in this life we don't quite get the same stuff that other Christians and other folks get and we should learn to be content with the blessings we do have. At times however when our deprivations weigh on us we should remember specific promises of the Bible like the one below.

Matthew 19:12 King James Version​

12 For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.



The only thing worse than getting what you long and pine for, is eventually getting a spouse that eventually divorces you. That happened to me because I in some ways I might have been a little too needy on the issue when I was age 36 going on 37 and met the lady that would be my fiancée online back in 2004.

 

[Hannah66]

This is a desire of your heart and I hope and pray that you do find a Godly spouse - that God directs you to them!
Ask God to direct you to that person. Step out in faith - be bold with your prayers.

I was single for many years until God brought my husband along. Sadly, we are not together, but I am thankful for the beautiful years he blessed us with.

I will pray for you!

 

[biblelesson]

Hi all,

For about 10 or 12 years now, I have been waiting and praying for my future husband, has anyone been in the same situation ?
And did you get to a situation where you pray, then trust God, and then doubt comes in and restart all over again to appoint it gets so tired.

I do have some people at church praying for me.

But surely God can see how this is effecting me and why is he making me wait ?

Anyone been in this situation ?

Have you ever really let go of something you really wanted, and suddenly you received that thing you had been wanting?

Try and work on your doubt. Let go of any strong desires for a husband because they turn into feelings of disappointment. It’s the waiting and not receiving that causes these emotions when your faith is not strong in God.

Stop asking, or even begging God. That’s a sign of doubt. But turn your prayer around and start simply thanking God from now on for your husband, the husband He wants you to have.

God is the One Who ordained marriage! God established marriage to be a covenant bond between a man and woman, so don’t listen to people about troubled marriages. That doesn’t have to happen to you.

For example, my marriage is not so great, but my marriage has nothing to do with how God determines to bless you. So don’t listen to negative.

Just trust God to bring you who He wants in your life. Let go of doubt, worry, unbelief, disappointment, fear, etc. We are commanded to renew our minds, so take into your prayer praise and thanksgiving - thank Him for selecting your husband, thank Him for blessing you, thank Him for removing fear, thank Him for granting you great faith, thank Him for casting away your worry, thank Him for hearing the prayers of others for you, thank Him for causing you to trust Him, etc. praise His goodness, praise His majesty, praise His holiness, etc. praise Him with your whole heart.

Pray like this from now on. This is one way to turn around doubt! He will answer!