I would say that perception is inaccurate. Noisy kids annoy me, a lot in mass. I cannot concentrate on prayer or the homily. I really wish people would utilize the babysitting services offered at the large parish I attend.
Not that I make light of your personal situation. My husband struggles intensely with distraction at Mass. His inability to focus is why our children have stayed home. In fact, noisy kids annoy me too... especially if I can't hear what's being said during the mass.
But, as a parent who attends mass without my own children, I can say that other people's children distract me about .001% of the time whereas my own children distract me quite a bit more. Furthermore, I KNOW that the majority of people feel the same, because they say so. Catholics of all ages and abilities are welcome at Mass. I used to sit in the cry room next to a father and son who had Turet's Syndrome. Talk about a distraction! That father took his son every week to the *quiet* 7am Mass and sat with the nursing mothers so as not to distract the congregation
But I wasn't talking about noisy kids that need to be removed from their pew, rather I was refering to very young children who are being children... a little wiggly, a little chatty, but otherwise behaving age-appropriately. Two year olds can be taught to whisper. They can't sit very still, but they can stay within boundries.
In my experience, most noisy kids ARE removed from the mass... rare is it for a parent to allow the disruption to continue on and on. My comments were directed toward this parent of two twins, who feels as though the entire congregation is focused on every little sound or bump her children make. They aren't.
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