Upgrading Wedding Rings

[WolfGate]

We never, never, never considered this idea. And since our income is over 5x what it was when we got engaged, obviously we could afford to do so. For us (not judging others), there are other priorities for our disposable income.

 

[PegasusOnFire]

Ok, I had to show pictures, sorry. Right now I am 6 months pregnant and my wedding ring/engagement ring only fits on my pinky, so I went on eBay and bought a cheap wedding band with a single, FAKE, diamond on it so that people would know that I am married. Seeing as I can't wear the rings my husband bought me.

At first my husband didn't like the idea of me wearing a ring other than my original wedding ring, until I explained to him my reasoning. I personally love my wedding ring and engagement ring, as they were the ones that my husband picked out for me. Believe it or not we had more money before we were married, than we do now. I can't wait until baby is born so that I can wear the rings that my husband got me, instead of the one I am wearing now.

 

[Flipper]

A friend of mine is so scared that the diamonds will fall off her wedding band, that she actually wears cheaper costume jewelry rings on her finger, so people will know she's married. I think I've seen her wear her actual wedding band once. My mother in law is the same way, along with my mom - they both wear plain gold bands and keep their wedding bands in a secure place only to wear on special occassions like anniversaries. The diamond actually fell out of my mom's once so I can understand that.

To each his/her own.

 

[Flipper]

Ok, I had to show pictures, sorry. Right now I am 6 months pregnant and my wedding ring/engagement ring only fits on my pinky, so I went on eBay and bought a cheap wedding band with a single, FAKE, diamond on it so that people would know that I am married. Seeing as I can't wear the rings my husband bought me.

At first my husband didn't like the idea of me wearing a ring other than my original wedding ring, until I explained to him my reasoning. I personally love my wedding ring and engagement ring, as they were the ones that my husband picked out for me. Believe it or not we had more money before we were married, than we do now. I can't wait until baby is born so that I can wear the rings that my husband got me, instead of the one I am wearing now.

A lot of women will put their wedding ring on a chain and wear it around their neck when they are pregnant.

 

[andiesmama]

I wouldn't upgrade my rings. I have a solitaire engagement ring, and my wedding band is a simple gold band that was my grandmother's wedding band....she left it to me when she died.

I would like an anniversary ring/band to wear on my right hand....like someone here said...I LOOOOVE diamonds!!! hehe

 

[katelyn]

A lot of women will put their wedding ring on a chain and wear it around their neck when they are pregnant.

I thought about doing that, but I'm too afraid that the chain would break and I would lose my ring. So right now I'm just not wearing my wedding ring most of the time.

Believe it or not we had more money before we were married, than we do now. I can't wait until baby is born so that I can wear the rings that my husband got me.

I am in the same situation. After we got married, my husband went to graduate school and now he's starting a company so we were better off financially before. I am happy with my rings and I can't imagine ever wanting to upgrade. Another important thing is that my husband is happy with my ring. He picked out the size, and it makes him feel good that he was able to buy me a ring that was bigger than I was expecting.

 

[PegasusOnFire]

I thought about doing that, but I'm too afraid that the chain would break and I would lose my ring. So right now I'm just not wearing my wedding ring most of the time.


I am in the same situation. After we got married, my husband went to graduate school and now he's starting a company so we were better off financially before. I am happy with my rings and I can't imagine ever wanting to upgrade. Another important thing is that my husband is happy with my ring. He picked out the size, and it makes him feel good that he was able to buy me a ring that was bigger than I was expecting.

I am the same way about the chain, it seems that every chain I get, no matter how thick, gets broken.

My engagement ring was a total surprise to me, I wasn't expecting it, seeing as he was going back to Japan 2 weeks later.

 

[Oblivious]

sorry, Why's post just sounded like a defense in a debate, I was really confused! It sounded like a retaliation to the people saying they enjoy the sentiment of their original ring..

No need to apologize. I thought you posted in the wrong thread or something.

I was just super confused.

That's usually the state I'm in!

 

[Gabriel]

I bought my wife's engagement ring before I even met her. I was in an antique shop and saw a beautiful engagement ring that was made in the early 1920s. I felt compelled to buy it even though I wasn't dating anyone. I made a deal with the shop owner to hold it and let me pay it off week by week. I met Jamie about 2 months before it was paid off and I proposed the day I made the last payment. No matter how big or expensive another ring would be, there is no way it would be an upgrade.

 

[YahwehLove]

Before I became engaged, I had no idea that people did this. I guess I was a bit naive (but as a teenage guy, you don't pay much attention to this stuff anyway).

I always assumed that the wedding rings that you saw on people who've been married 10, 15, 20 years etc, were the rings that they got married with.

When engaged, I learned that women sometimes start off with a regular engagement ring and wedding ring, and then (if they can afford it), they either upgrade the band, or replace the diamond(s) in it.

When I first learned this, I was floored. I thought it was the most shallow thing that somebody could do. Then I started inquiring with the women at work and I was surprised to learn that about 9 out of 10 of the women I asked had actually done this.

Some of them laughed at me when I asked. They said stuff like, "I got married when I was 19... that was 30 years ago. Do you think hubby could've afforded THIS back then?"

So then, it didn't seem all that unreasonable anymore.

How many of you have done this or plan on doing it?

Sadly, I'm not too proud of my wife's engagement ring. It doesn't suck or anything, but I think that it could use a bit more 'bling'. It was all that I could afford at the time. I plan on giving her an "upgrade" one day... the only problem is that she talks about it more than I think about it and I find it a bit annoying. But that's another topic.

I just got her her band and were getting the engagement ring currently.
Backwards I know, long story.

I got her a platinum band and her engagement ring is white gold with about 7 decent diamonds in a wide channel set.

I took her to look at it and her little eyes just lit up like a beacon.
A while back when we were talking, she saw I was having a few issues and she told me that she didnt need a ring or shed use a cheap ring and that it didnt matter to her.

That made me want to go all out for her. as much as I can.
By the time we're done, the 2 will be about $1100.
For me, thats a LOT of cash.

But it was her attitude.
when I saw how sweet she was and offering to just take a cheap ring and that it didnt matter, i fell in love with her even more.
She is so wonderful and I just want to do all that i can for her.

I think this is a personal thing beteen you and her and the Lord.
Obviously the rings dont really mean anything in the relationship.

I dont think its a waste of money or a sin or that its materialistic at all to want to do wonderful things for your friend and companion.
It might be if shes insisting on things and not happy without them, but if you are the one to initiate it, then its just a wonderful way of showing her you care.

for us, later on, Ive already considered that we would upgrade.
She probly wont want to upgrade them, but if she was ok with it, then I would want to at some point.
Altho her rings are very plain, but very pretty.

 

[LynnMcG]

I do not intend to "upgrade" my wedding or engagement ring. My engagement ring is SMALL, very, very small. I don't wear it because it's set really high and it's sharp. I scratched my daughter when she was small, and stopped wearing it then. I have two wedding rings - one from when we eloped and the second from our official church wedding 6 weeks later. Both are very sentimental to me. I would LOVE, LOVE, LOVE an anniversary band for our 10th next year and my sweetie knows this.

I have NEVER complained about my engagement ring to my husband or asked for an upgrade. I wouldn't hurt him like that. He was so thrilled when he bought it, why would I want to hurt his feelings?!!

 

[mystic184]

My wife and I have upgraded both of our rings. We got the new ones because her original ring kept losing diamonds and the customer service for that particular store was horrible. We went to a different store and traded our old rings in for new. I wasn't planning on changing mine but she did not feel comfortable canging hers if I did not. It wasn't a vanity thing, (although the new rings are a bit larger), more of a satisfaction of the quality of our original rings and the quality of service we recieved from the store we bought it from.

 

[murron]

I don't expect we'll be upgrading my wedding ring or hubby's. When we got married, we actually had money - we couldn't upgrade now if we had to. The funny thing about our ring purchase was that hubby didn't know about the standard that says the engagement ring should be equivilant to 3 month's salary. Helzberg didn't have a diamond worth that much, so hubby bought 3/4 K solitaire and a ring wrap with two 1/2K and 2 3/4k diamonds in it. I've often joked that if I hocked my wedding rings we could replace my car or get some house repairs done...He doesn't think it's as funny as I think it is.

He wears a plain gold band that I bought for him, to work. But he has one that matches mine, 14k gold with an inset of platinum that holds 5 diamonds in it.

I have to say, I look back on it and think "wow, what were we thinking???!!!???" but...I love my wedding rings and just can't see ever trying to upgrade them. The cool thing though is that I've never had them sodereded together - which means when the time comes to pass them on to our children, both of our sons will have a ring (one will get the wrap, one will get the solitaire) to pass on to their future wives - our daughter will either get the band that goes with my set, or get hubby's "dress" wedding band to give to her husband.

 

[Lena75]

I love my rings, too. But I love my hubby more! I have 3 rings on my left hand now. 14 karat gold plain wedding band, my .25 diamond engagement ring and my 10th anniversary band set with 12 tiny diamonds. We're not upgrading. I don't see the point in it. Hubby wears his ring every chance he gets (not allowed to wear it at work).

 

[Redguard]

The funny thing about our ring purchase was that hubby didn't know about the standard that says the engagement ring should be equivilant to 3 month's salary.

Yeah... I've had this argument presented to me.

Don't we live in such a horrible world?

Ladies... THIS is the pressure that we, as men, have to deal with.

 

[murron]

Yeah... I've had this argument presented to me.

Don't we live in such a horrible world?

Ladies... THIS is the pressure that we, as men, have to deal with.

Hubby was actually really shocked when the lady at Helzberg told him this, rofl. Then he was ticked because they didn't have a ring that met that standard for him! To his way of thinking, if they're gonna push that kind of standard they should be able to supply the demand FIRST. He's so cute when he gets mildly annoyed.

 

[GirlieGirl]

Don't we live in such a horrible world?

Ladies... THIS is the pressure that we, as men, have to deal with.

Lord support our dear brother in this terrible world. Help him to stand up to the pressure that Debeers marketing execs (Debeirs? Debiers?...) have placed on his shoulders.

 

[fruitrach]

These are my rings.

We went and chose my engagement ring together after we'd been engaged for 3 months. (We got engaged after 6 days so we weren't really planning it!) I just knew I wanted something flat and simple. I don't know how clearly you can see it in that picture but basically the diamond is set into a gap in the gold like this (the O is the diamond):

GOLD]O[GOLD

The diamond is from a family heirloom belonging to Dan's mum. It had 5 diamonds in it so that's one for her, and one for each of her children. It's only 9 carat gold but I don't care. His parents bought it because we didn't (don't!) have any money.

My wedding ring is a very simple 18 carat gold band from Cambodia. My sister-in-law-to-be went there a few months before we got married and bought it back for us. I think it cost the equivalent of £10 - she gave it to us as a wedding present. She'd have got one for Dan too but they don't make them big enough there!

I love my rings and don't intend to change them, ever. I wouldn't mind a ring for my right hand though and a bit of me would like to have a ring that Dan has actually paid for himself but I'm happy to be patient

I bought Dan's wedding ring when we got married. I didn't have much money and rings his size were expensive so the one we got was kinda thin and started hurting his finger not long after we bought it.

Last year, we went to a Christian festival and one of the stalls was offering silversmithing classes so I went to them and made him a new wedding ring as a surprise. He loves it. I don't mind that he doesn't wear his original wedding ring - it's just a symbol and actually, the second one means more as I made it.

 

[MaryAlaina]

I'm probably the wrong one to ask this question. But hubby and I knew we were going to get married before he asked me officially. He went out alone and picked out a center stone, then we went shopping together for the setting. He did not like the kinds that I liked, so I ended up getting one that he liked that I was not crazy about. (I didn't hate it, just didn't really love it.) He promised to upgrade and did, but I'm also a jewelry fanatic, so I have about 5 or 6 diamond rings that I rotate and wear as my engagement/wedding ring.

 

[MaryAlaina]

P.S. I also ended up resetting my original engagement diamond (1 ct) into a different setting that I liked much better.