university/college - confusing

[shout2thelord]

im in my second year at uni but it still seems really wierd like when im here it feels like home doesnt exist and when im home it feels like uni doesnt exist.

i dont go home at weekends only holidays which is 3 times a year and the summer goes on forever!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I dont really know too many people in my hometown either and the ones i do always seem to be going to nite clubs or with boyfriends.

Its really strange cos i dont actually feel like i belong in either place. as soon as u get settled in one place ur moving again!

was just wondering if anyone else felt the same.

 

[arab4christ]

Hello shout2thelord,

Would u believe Im stuck in the very same position. I know what you are talking about, and it is very confusing for sure...I do hope that you enjoy your uni experience and just think of this as another learning lesson for us young adults. May the Lord guide us at all times...Take care

a4c

 

[Janie]

Hi!

I actually felt that way for most of college life too   But as time went on both home and school felt like home, just in different ways.  I just graduated a couple months ago and moved back home..it was sure hard adjusting because after 4 years you begin to feel like school is your second home...and most of my closest friends remained near school. I think the key is just to enjoy the precious time you have during college...it's something you cant get back once it's over  

God bless

 

[shout2thelord]

yes well home doesnt feel like home at all and i feel more at home here. and i really wouldnt want to move home again after. im just tired at the min i guess. ty.

God bless

 

[Christ Ambazda]

Hi Shout2 the Lord
I am feeling the same thing @ the moment as well. Feel like i dont fit in n living aways from the family...i feel so lonely...but i guess that soon i will get used to it...neways

 

[shout2thelord]

lucklily im not lonely cos i have a great church here - i miss them wen i go home. I guess its just a little strange i guess ill get used to it by them time i leave.

 

[muuc27]

Shout,

What you are feeling is VERY natural. It is hard to find a place to belong when at uni. I found exactly the same though I have had a little longer to get used to it as I was at boarding scholl beofre I got to uni.

Have you found a good church?
Which uni are you at?

If you want to chat to me shoot! No question is to deep and if it is I will find someone who can answer it.

Praying you feel more at home somewhere soon!

 

[Religious Crisis]

Sometimes, but I dislike going home(my house) because there is nothing to do. I become board very easy.

 

[shout2thelord]

Yeh i have an awesome church here that is where i gave my life back 2 Jesus last yr and got baptised there to. I am lucky that i have an awesome family in christ there.
I guess i will get used to it eventually m,aybe if i had more contact with people at home it would help. though things are a bit crazy with my family. God is helping to unify us though. Its sumthin that really hit me that needed to change wen i gave my life back 2 God.

I know theres still a lot to deal with.

 

[Blessed-one]

before i went to uni, i always have this impression that you'll get lots of friends there, but when i do get into uni, it's completely different. I see people in huge groups, people in small groups, individuals who just don't seems to fit in anywhere, and loners who have the nack to get together like metal attracted to magnet.
Fortunatley, God provided me with a great friend, though there's only one, i don't think it'll be that easy to find someone that you can be with so closely when you only get to know her for less than 6 months. I think the important thing is to be grateful with what you have. For what you don't have, you may have avoided a whole lot of trouble.

 

[en|gma]

heya....i would suggest that you join an on-campus ministry or organization so u meet other Christian students. It will be a great time as u go through college

 

[shout2thelord]

well we have something called christian union. well it is quite stressful. there is about 10 of us. I have 2 be very patient with most there who are involved with a lot of wordly stuff. you have to be strong if u dont wanna get sucked into that stuff there. Last nite went well though. i think i got thru it without offending anyone. They asked us to pray an see what God gave us - well i felt like one of the OT prophets with the stuff i had to share. I shared sum stuff from my own life at the end which i hoped they would relate too and not make it seem like it was just me judging but hey silence after i stopped.

 

[Blessed-one]

don't get discouraged. Time may change things.....

the christian fellowship i go to at my uni... well, it isn't as big but it's ok, however, this fellowship is not as united. man.. even one of the preachers we invited for a talk told us publicly that compared to all the other uni fellowships, our is the most disorganised. He sure did the wake up call good.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

*hug*
That can be frustrating where you're at. I've found the most effective thing is love and encouragement. I understand that you don't intend to be judgmental and it's hard to make people understand that. You will learn a lot where you are at though even though it's hard. I made a huge mistake once. A friend of ours daughter, who I adore, was having trouble with self-control concerning her boyfriend. Well, she kept having trouble so I laid into her with a pretty strong rebuke. That went every way but the right way. I was 100 percent unsuccessful in anything I had intended. We hardly talk anymore and it happened over a year ago. But when a similar situation arose recently, what I learned from that helped me not screw everything up again.
So I guess what I'm trying to say is do what you feel in your heart is right. If something goes awry, it's a lesson learned.
Did any of that make sense? Cause I totally don't know where all of that just came from.

 

[shout2thelord]

yeh i get what your saying. im just trying to learn this because wen people do it to you it can feel horrible if you dont speak with love. Well i got thru the whole of last weeks without an argument so thats good.
Though i know sometimes Gods gonna give me stuff to say and its gonna offend no matter how i say it. But praying before i go definately helps.