Turnoffs!

[penNpaper]

Woah! Someone thought I was useful!

hehe I think both sides of the fence agree on that turn off too.

Really I think Jesus taught that do not focus on the opinions of others. Really it is all in the eye of the beholder. On the inside your spirit and wisdom are what make you special. Not the size of your waist. There are people who take outter appearance as a big factor in their partners. That just fine, as I look at it their lost.

Do I get angry or upset over it. Not really because as Paul taught me. Anger and jealiousy are tools of the sinful nature and lead me to death.

Ultimately the teachings help you remain on the positive side of things. Positivity is what pulls us thru in all trouble times in our life. Otherwise we give up and die.

Wow..you got some powerful words there AWIP (I know lame abv. usage)

A special spirit and personality is always what I look as the best features as towards my life partner which the Lord shall bless me one day..Because if you focus on those important things then you are going to accept that person inside their soul and spirit as well as their physical appearance..no matter what anyone thinks otherwise..

A good example of this is my parents..

My parents met kind-a like online but before the term online dating was even spoken..they were two computer operators in two seperate hotels that transfer information..it is cool that the first two ever operators got hooked-up or fallen in love..it is sweet..

They met in 1981, married in 1982, and got drewy in 1984..

My mother was previous divorced, not a Christian, had two children and the Lord blessed their marriage..even though my mother tried to scare my father that she was too fat, bald, my father would still love her no matter what the cost..

I am currently following in my father as well as my Heavenly Father footsteps..he is preparing me atm..

Regards,
ChristianDrew

 

[ImperialPhantom]

Keri, do try to avoid flaming me and pretending you aren't. Either be forthright or say nothing. Dishonesty and passive aggression are quite unbecoming of you, wouldn't you say?

 

[Keri]

IP, see above disclaimer.

Anyway, I know you think everything is a personal attack against you but it's not. I was trying to help a brother that seemed to be getting into it with you and I was trying to help him see that he won't win with you. HONESTLY, I don't like what you say about 99% of the time, but I DO ADMIRE the fact that you have such a strong-willed spirit and you don't give up. Maybe you should think of getting into law. You'd be a ruthless attorney.

Somehow I think you're going to think of THAT as a threat and get upset but oh well. It wasn't meant to be.

Back to ignoring you now.

Turnoff: Guys who make assumptions without finding out the facts.

 

[LostUntilSaved]

A person who puts down other people.

 

[ImperialPhantom]

Keri, when are you going to learn? I'm IMPOSSIBLE to ignore

 

[LostUntilSaved]

A guy who is a sexist pig

 

[Godfollower2189]

^I second that

along with Drinking any form of alcohol, smoking, bad hygiene, long hair and guys that are lazy

 

[LostUntilSaved]

^I second that

along with Drinking any form of alcohol, smoking, bad hygiene, long hair and guys that are lazy

I agree. A guy who's breath smells like alcohol is a turn off. It's a bigger turn off if he's drunk. It's the biggest turn off if he's drunk and making a fool of himselif.

I remember a guy who liked me, he wore the same thing everyday, he had long hair that he didn't comb, he had sleepys in his eyes, he had dirt under his nails, and his teeth had plaque. he grossed me out.

 

[JPPT1974]

Or worse, someone that hasn't bathed or showered in like forever as well as not brushed their hair or teeth. Yuck!

 

[Flashlight]

An extensive criminal record

 

[Keri]

Keri, when are you going to learn? I'm IMPOSSIBLE to ignore

Haha! You might be right! Sometimes you are. Other times it's quite easy.

 

[Suomipoika]

I am one of those ones that IP is talking about, the "too fat" girls. But I do not remain silent, nor do I stay in the backgound. I am actually very opinionated and do voice what I want to say...

You didn't fully get my point, then. You might 'recognize' yourself in someone's 'descriptions', but that doesn't cause a blow to your self esteem, because you have developed a strong and healthy self esteem. Instead, it might cause a blow to someone else's self esteem, and those people are often the silent ones who wish to be noticed by others in a positive way. I can sense this setting very clearly in a classroom when I teach.

Born and raised in Cali and I know how your breed of men are... I've grown up with plenty of guys just like you.

Whether the person be from California or from Zimbabwe, if they think it's just 'innocent' to call people 'buttless' or something of that sort, I feel they're in need of just a little lesson. Of course, without resorting to any sort of personal bashing.

 

[Niels]

You didn't fully get my point, then. You might 'recognize' yourself in someone's 'descriptions', but that doesn't cause a blow to your self esteem, because you have developed a strong and healthy self esteem. Instead, it might cause a blow to someone else's self esteem, and those people are often the silent ones who wish to be noticed by others in a positive way. I can sense this setting very clearly in a classroom when I teach.



Whether the person be from California or from Zimbabwe, if they think it's just 'innocent' to call people 'buttless' or something of that sort, I feel they're in need of just a little lesson. Of course, without resorting to any sort of personal bashing.

Well said, Suomipoika.

What it comes down to is maturity. A mature individual takes the feelings of others into consideration when expressing themselves. It is childish and potentially hurtful to refer to others as 'buttless' etc.

 

[Godfollower2189]

Tattoos and piercings- I'm not saying there wrong, I just personally don't like them.

 

[dluvs2trvl]

This one has probably already been said so I may be repeating it...but, it is a huge turn-off to me when I'm dating a guy and he flirts constantly with other women...I don't mean just friendly, Hi how are you...I mean overtly flirting...

Totally turns me off...

 

[ImperialPhantom]

Well said, Suomipoika.

What it comes down to is maturity. A mature individual takes the feelings of others into consideration when expressing themselves. It is childish and potentially hurtful to refer to others as 'buttless' etc.

It's pretty childish to make indirect personal attacks too. Besides, you have to make the argument for everything anyone has said here. Everything anyone's said here can offend someone whom these traits apply to.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

 

[Niels]

It's pretty childish to make indirect personal attacks too. Besides, you have to make the argument for everything anyone has said here. Everything anyone's said here can offend someone whom these traits apply to.

If you can't tell difference, then maybe you should take some time to figure out what it is that you're missing. Seriously. If you can grow in this area, it will only be to your advantage. Some people will never get it... but I would be truly surprised if you don't. You seem like a sharp guy. Think about it.

I stand by my previous post.

 

[dluvs2trvl]

LOL!!! Could you pass me some popcorn!?!

 

[Suomipoika]

Well said, Suomipoika.

What it comes down to is maturity. A mature individual takes the feelings of others into consideration when expressing themselves. It is childish and potentially hurtful to refer to others as 'buttless' etc.

I'd have to say: just don't set me as any kind of over-all idol of maturity. During the past couple of weeks, I've at least fallen into thinking negatively of my neighbor, saying thoughtless things while feeling angry, being lazy... the list could go on. And some of those things I've fallen into here on the CF. But still, I really couldn't take it seriously when I was indirectly referred to as the 'fool' of Proverbs 26.

And yes, let's not dwell on some single expressions that someone has used here.