Turnoffs!

[Pink Angel]

dorks of the world unite...cool people are boring.

turn offs: cool people. nerds and dorks are best.

 

[Keri]

Turnoff:

Guys who are afraid to be dorky. Guys that HAVE to be macho and cool all the time and who are afraid to let loose.

 

[Pink Angel]

Turnoff:

Guys who let what other people think of them change who they truely are, and guys who base ALL their decisions on how other people will view them for the descision.

I like a leader not a follower

 

[Leah]

No, it's not okay when a Christian girl gives carnal and downplaying comments about "weak guys" or 'ick' comments about people with certain features. And I don't care if my response is a 'turn-off' to you since I always keep it my principle to not start giving 'ick' comments about any kind of girls with any kind of physical looks in the online world, just because I would not call a girl 'unattractive' in real life, either.

What are some things that are turnoffs in the opposite sex.

It can be personality based, habits, or physical or all three.

What are your turnoffs?

Arrogant
Smoking
Spends more time getting ready than most women.

Are you trying to make me angry, Suo??

First of all, the OP asked her question and I answered it accordingly. Notice the bold and underlined statement, Suo? And what did you do? You got offended and started arguing with me without cause!

I did nothing wrong and for you to sit there and act as if I'm the jerk with a problem is a load of crap. And based on your reaction, I'm just supposed to accept anything from a man and be saitisfied with that. If I'm wrong, then tell me.

Guess what else, had I just posted three or even five things that turn me off when it comes to men, you probably wouldn't have even got all offended and never would have said anything, right Suo?! But I didnt and said what I like and what I don't. That upsets you?

Now, whether or not you're willing to accept what I posted here and I my recent one is entirely up to you. But don't you ever throw your false accussations at me again. I don't deserve that and I didn't come in here to argue with you or anyone else up in here.

So back off and leave me alone.



Btw, rather than jumping to conclusions about being carnal and whatnot, why not be civilized and just ASK me what I meant.

 

[Leah]

I like a leader not a follower

Agreed.

 

[Pink Angel]

kum-ba-ya my Lord, Kum-ba-ya

Kum-ba-ya my Lord, Kum-ba-ya

Kum-ba-ya My Lord, Kum-ba-ya

Oooh Lord Kum-ba-ya

 

[Leah]

kum-ba-ya my Lord, Kum-ba-ya

Kum-ba-ya my Lord, Kum-ba-ya

Kum-ba-ya My Lord, Kum-ba-ya

Oooh Lord Kum-ba-ya

I'll be alright, PinkAngel.

*Imana sings with you.
Ku-ba-yaaaa my Lord, Kum-ba-yaaaa*

 

[Pink Angel]

lol yes!! its working!!!

 

[Leah]

lol yes!! its working!!!

 

[yourinnervoice]

Someone's sleeping my Lord, Kum-ba-ya
Someone's sleeping my Lord, Kum-ba-ya
Someone's sleeping my Lord, Kum-ba-ya
Oh Lord, Kum-ba-ya
Oh Lord, Kum-ba-ya

 

[dawnsday]

lol yes!! its working!!!

kumbaya is in my head now. kumbaya has been in my head since your first post. i am now sitting at work, humming kumbaya. at a desk in my office acting like a hippie tree hugger...and it's ALL YOUR FAULT!!!!!

this is war i tell you: this is the song that doesn't end, it goes on and on my friend....some people started singing it, not knowing what it was, and they'll continue singing it forever just because.....


ha! take that.

TURN OFFS: BAD CAMPFIRE MUSIC!

 

[yourinnervoice]

kumbaya is in my head now. kumbaya has been in my head since your first post. i am now sitting at work, humming kumbaya. at a desk in my office acting like a hippie tree hugger...and it's ALL YOUR FAULT!!!!!

this is war i tell you: this is the song that doesn't end, it goes on and on my friend....some people started singing it, not knowing what it was, and they'll continue singing it forever just because.....


ha! take that.

TURN OFFS: BAD CAMPFIRE MUSIC!

Talk about annoying songs - Go here!
http://www.christianforums.com/t5637080-silly-fun-annoying-songs[open].html

LOL!

 

[Suomipoika]

Are you trying to make me angry, Suo??

First of all, the OP asked her question and I answered it accordingly. Notice the bold and underlined statement, Suo? And what did you do? You got offended and started arguing with me without cause!

I did nothing wrong and for you to sit there and act as if I'm the jerk with a problem is a load of crap. And based on your reaction, I'm just supposed to accept anything from a man and be saitisfied with that. If I'm wrong, then tell me.

Guess what else, had I just posted three or even five things that turn me off when it comes to men, you probably wouldn't have even got all offended and never would have said anything, right Suo?! But I didnt and said what I like and what I don't. That upsets you?

Now, whether or not you're willing to accept what I posted here and I my recent one is entirely up to you. But don't you ever throw your false accussations at me again. I don't deserve that and I didn't come in here to argue with you or anyone else up in here.

So back off and leave me alone.



Btw, rather than jumping to conclusions about being carnal and whatnot, why not be civilized and just ASK me what I meant.

Ok, I think I'll explain myself a little..

First of all, I'm not mad at anyone, not you Imana nor anyone else here. The smoke's cleared here...

These days, I'm the kind of person who isn't nervous about social occasions, I could say I even enjoy being in front of an audience. But that's not what I've always been like. I suffered a little bit of teasing back ten and more years ago, and one really decisive factor for the increase in my self-confidence - now that I think back on it - was Christian girls. Yes. There were some really nice and encouraging girls in the youth group that I entered ten years ago, I made friends and had a couple of teenage crushes in the process. Anyway, I got the picture that these Christian girls are people you can easily trust as friends and who accept welcome every kind of guy and girl in the group.

I can be self-critical and analytical, and I have made this following kind of analysis of myself: due to these very positive experiences about Christian girls during a time that was sort of critical in my life, I view Christian girls in a certain way today. It might be that I'm subconsciously going through a scenario in my mind: what if I had had a 'turn-down' experience with Christian girls during those years, instead of being accepted, encouraged and invited into the group with others?

I think that this personal background that I have and that "what if" scenario that I just went through causes me to 'react' very easily when I perceive any kind of conduct or comments by Christian girls that I could possibly interpret as having a negative effect on a 'weak' guy - or myself ten years ago. What if I had been told that "you don't look strong enough" or "I don't like your hair colour" or "you seem too insecure to me" back then? I mean, now that I think about it, it's not really my confidence that gets a blow when I hear/read something like that today, I think it's something very subconscious in a way that I just explained.

So, I developed a concept of Christian girls as 'friends who are easy to talk to', and since then I have never had problems being friends with girls. I think it is because of this that every time I hear or read something that gives me an impression that (some) Christian girls, after all, have their "worldly girl's life" where they talk about guys in the "euwww... did you see that guy? oh, he's such a dork! ohhh... but that guy looks so weak..." way, I face a disillusionment, like facing an anomaly and not knowing what to make of it ("what I consider as a Christian girl is not like that, is not like that, is not like that! [covering my ears..]") .

So that's my story, that's why I 'react' easily when I think I see or hear something from Christian girls that I interpret as belittling toward 'weak' etc. guys, like "euuw, we Christian girls soooo don't like guys with a low confidence"). Contrasting that kind of notions today with my own personal history, something within me just wants to shout "they weren't like that toward me when I was more 'needy' and 'weak' than I'm today, they can't be like that toward others today, either!"

All this apart from what a person's true intentions are when writing their 'lists' in a thread like this. (I definetily don't consider you a mean person after this, Imana). I would make myself sound ridicilous if I said that I personally would imagine myself being able to be in a happy relationship with any given girl in the world. Haha, no! I just don't agree to write a list of 'unattractive' features, because my own conscience is very sensitive in this sense. I would pretty much end up feeling bad about it if I used words like 'ugly' or 'unattractive' of any human person, in general. But that doesn't mean I would enter a relationship with just anyone.

Hope this was helpful?

 

[Leah]

But Suo, you knew all of that even before I posted in here about the OP. So why did you not come to grips with that first and then post accordingly? All this strife could have been avoided.

I know this is going to sound mean, but your past has nothing to do with me and I would very much like it if you would not hold me accountable for all that you've gone through.

Ok?

 

[Pink Angel]

kumbaya is in my head now. kumbaya has been in my head since your first post. i am now sitting at work, humming kumbaya. at a desk in my office acting like a hippie tree hugger...and it's ALL YOUR FAULT!!!!!

this is war i tell you: this is the song that doesn't end, it goes on and on my friend....some people started singing it, not knowing what it was, and they'll continue singing it forever just because.....


ha! take that.

TURN OFFS: BAD CAMPFIRE MUSIC!

ROFL so i guess im just a walking turn off

 

[Suomipoika]

But Suo, you knew all of that even before I posted in here about the OP. So why did you not come to grips with that first and then post accordingly? All this strife could have been avoided.

I know this is going to sound mean, but your past has nothing to do with me and I would very much like it if you would not hold me accountable for all that you've gone through.

Ok?

See, it doesn't work as simple as that. Well, I could stay out of the whole forum if I wanted to, but somehow I end up coming back here (the singles ministry) every now and then. If I see 'worldly' girls giving these "euuuw" comments about 'weak' or 'low-confidence' guys, I don't care that much. But when I see Christian girls acting this way (as I interpret it), something within me 'reacts'. And all the people, guys and girls, on this forum are Christian guys and girls.

My past has nothing to do with you directly, that's for sure. But you're an adult Christian woman, 4 years older than me. You could try to act like a Christian 'sister' when I openly talk about my life. We Christians should be one big family after all, and aim at encouraging and edifying each other. I admit, the reaction I produced at first (calling you rude and naming 'turn-offs') wasn't very edifying, but in my opinion, neither are any kind comments that convey the "euuuw, I sooo don't like that kind of girls/guys" message.

And as for what I basically think about the OP, you should go back to page 3 and read.

And by the way, don't take me as a negative person at all. I can be goofy, I can be very talkative (not always), I can impersonate eight Simpsons characters in a minute if you like, and the kind of smile in my picture is what I often wear when talking to people, but I also feel good about discussin in depth something with real substance like we are doing right now.

And I don't feel embarassed about having to explain myself in detail here now and derailing the thread, this is just online world and I think this is an opprtunity for all of us to learn something. I'll begin with myself. Sorry, Imana, for my hasty reaction toward you. I believe you are a great person.

 

[Pink Angel]

dont make me sing the kum-ba-ya song again lol....

Imana I do see where you are coming from, in another thread i stating that the bad thing about online forums and posting is you can not read a persons tone so if in the wrong mind set things can be taken harshley and in a bad way. I think that Suo is stepping up to his misunderstood post. These forums are here to help others understand others more, (this is from personal experiance) its hard to post on here with a close mind (not saying you are closeminded...i promise im not....remember kum-ba-ya??? lol ) We are here as a forum to lend an open ear...or I guess in this case an open eye....har di har har jokes are fun!!

Suo, kudos to you for stepping up, and I see your side of the story now that i read about your past and if i were in your shoes i would probably feel the same way, you do make a good point that christian girls/guys should judge who is ew and who isnt, but at the same time it is human nature to do so and everyone has standards on who and what they want in a guy/girl. Especially girls bc every girl has their "dream guy" so when reading this thread one thing to keep in mind is ot make sure to not take anything personal. This all in general....that just bc imana may not like blonde hair guys doesnt mean she automatically hates you....we all ove you suo!!

lol so i hope that has helped some how.....now lets sing....ready? 1...........2..................3..............Kum-ba-ya .............haha jk im not gonna sing it lol ya'll get the clue

 

[Pink Angel]

now lets all play nice

 

[Leah]

See, it doesn't work as simple as that. Well, I could stay out of the whole forum if I wanted to, but somehow I end up coming back here (the singles ministry) every now and then. If I see 'worldly' girls giving these "euuuw" comments about 'weak' or 'low-confidence' guys, I don't care that much. But when I see Christian girls acting this way (as I interpret it), something within me 'reacts'. And all the people, guys and girls, on this forum are Christian guys and girls.

My past has nothing to do with you directly, that's for sure. But you're an adult Christian woman, 4 years older than me. You could try to act like a Christian 'sister' when I openly talk about my life. We Christians should be one big family after all, and aim at encouraging and edifying each other. I admit, the reaction I produced at first (calling you rude and naming 'turn-offs') wasn't very edifying, but in my opinion, neither are any kind comments that convey the "euuuw, I sooo don't like that kind of girls/guys" message.

And as for what I basically think about the OP, you should go back to page 3 and read.

And by the way, don't take me as a negative person at all. I can be goofy, I can be very talkative (not always), I can impersonate eight Simpsons characters in a minute if you like, and the kind of smile in my picture is what I often wear when talking to people, but I also feel good about discussin in depth something with real substance like we are doing right now.

And I don't feel embarassed about having to explain myself in detail here now and derailing the thread, this is just online world and I think this is an opprtunity for all of us to learn something. I'll begin with myself. Sorry, Imana, for my hasty reaction toward you. I believe you are a great person.

To be honest with you, I'm having difficulty accepting your apology because I hate unneccessary hostility. But according to you, because you're sharing your feelings and experiences with me, I'm supposed to just act like nothing happened and be jolly happy again? Before you expect people to do that, it might be a good idea for you to think before you post (since this is a forum).

Normally, I don't let people get to me on this forum. But in this case, it's hard to let go and be a sister to you. But I know why that is and it's something only God can help me with.

So, I think it's best to take a step back from this discussion with you.

 

[Leah]

dont make me sing the kum-ba-ya song again lol....

*chuckling* You're cute.

Imana I do see where you are coming from, in another thread i stating that the bad thing about online forums and posting is you can not read a persons tone so if in the wrong mind set things can be taken harshley and in a bad way. I think that Suo is stepping up to his misunderstood post. These forums are here to help others understand others more, (this is from personal experiance) its hard to post on here with a close mind (not saying you are closeminded...i promise im not....remember kum-ba-ya??? lol ) We are here as a forum to lend an open ear...or I guess in this case an open eye....har di har har jokes are fun!!

Suo, kudos to you for stepping up, and I see your side of the story now that i read about your past and if i were in your shoes i would probably feel the same way, you do make a good point that christian girls/guys should judge who is ew and who isnt, but at the same time it is human nature to do so and everyone has standards on who and what they want in a guy/girl. Especially girls bc every girl has their "dream guy" so when reading this thread one thing to keep in mind is ot make sure to not take anything personal. This all in general....that just bc imana may not like blonde hair guys doesnt mean she automatically hates you....we all ove you suo!!

lol so i hope that has helped some how.....now lets sing....ready? 1...........2..................3..............Kum-ba-ya .............haha jk im not gonna sing it lol ya'll get the clue

Thank you.

And I would like to pinpoint that I like men. I just don't like blonde hair.

Ok, Imana is shutting up now.