You may be a Morrowist, but I was speaking to the Calvinists specifically. They do not offer the other options that you believe are possibilities, but rather believe there are normal humans (not literally Satan's spawn), to whom God simply does not offer the ability to respond to the Holy Spirit. And somehow, they find no problem with (or push down somewhere to a place I don't have) the "fact" that God essentially created most of humanity for nothing more than eternal torment.
This is a common swipe at Calvinism, but the truth is, such a statement or dilemma is not unique to Calvinism. Actually anyone who isn't an open theist is faced with the same dilemma (that God created people for nothing more than hell)
Even the strictest anti-Calvinists/Arminians/synergists of all stripes believe that God is omniscient. They believe that God knew from eternity past that if he created "Bob", Bob would remain in unbelief and end up in hell. Yet with this knowledge, God still went ahead and decided to create bob anyways. Why did God create someone he knows for certain will end up in hell? Since God foreknows that Bob will reject the gospel, and has always known that from eternity past, that means during Bob's life, there is no possible way that Bob can suddenly repent and turn to Jesus and be saved, because God's foreknowledge of what Bob will do cannot be wrong. In other words, what God knows to be true is binding. Before God created Bob, he knew Bob would end up in hell, yet He still decided to create him anyways, effectually sealing Bob's fate.
I don't know why you think this is exclusive truth to Calvinism. Anyone who thinks these things through to their logical conclusion and anyone who isn't an open theist (someone that denies God's omniscience) can arrive at the same dilemma.
Why didn't God create only those people he foreknew would receive and believe the gospel? That way, God would have nothing but an entire race of willing believers. Nobody would be in hell.
So please, stop using this silly argument against Calvinism. It's not a dilemma exclusive to Calvinism. It's something every single person can be accused of believing simply for adhering to the doctrine of God's omniscience.
Therefore, scott, if you believe God is omniscient and knows the future, including the fate of people he creates, then I can point the finger at you (using your own argument) and say "you believe something sick and twisted".
They do not offer the other options that you believe are possibilities, but rather believe there are normal humans (not literally Satan's spawn), to whom God simply does not offer the ability to respond to the Holy Spirit. And somehow, they find no problem with...
That being said, I find fault in your reasoning here. Since God's gifting us the ability to respond to the Spirit is 100% purely a function of grace, that means God is not obligated to give it. Grace cannot be owed or demanded. It is freely given, voluntarily, out of unowed mercy. The only way you can find fault with God not giving grace is if you believe grace is owed to begin with. In doing so, you destroy the very meaning of grace.
In other words, there is nothing wrong with God not giving grace. Grace is what God does freely because he is kind. He doesn't have to do it. He can send you to hell at a moment's notice and be perfectly justified, since you're a sinner. he didn't have to send the gospel to you, or even gift you with the ability to respond positively to it. Your arguments are hardly an objection to Calvinism, but sound more like an objection to the plain meaning of the graciousness of salvation.
Therefore, there is hardly anything wrong to accuse Calvinists of in making statements like "they believe that God doesn't give grace to some people!! How could they believe such a thing!?!?" <--statements like this imply you believe grace is
owed to men, which is 100x worse, sick, and twisted, in my opinion.