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Negative...never said that I condone it as I in agreement with you on the nurturing aspect of living together.
I didn’t think you did.
I found it odd that he'd discourage marriage, but I think he's basing his comments on what he's come to witnessed in today's culture where divorce is rampant and relationships are so disposable.
I think he’s speaking as a loving parent in that context. He wouldn’t want you to experience the same. I haven’t told my daughter not to marry. But I’ve had to alter a few things in relation to today’s climate that don’t align with my personal beliefs.
While I support her desire for entrepreneurship in relation to her calling. There is a practical element involved. It’s very difficult for most men to provide for their family’s on one income. And its probable her contribution will be required.
I told her if she desired to be at home she shouldn’t expect he’ll be able to carry the weight alone. Having things in place will make her more attractive and less burdensome. That isn’t pretty but its the truth.
Like having your cake and eat it too. They take on this "You meet my selfish lifestyle, or its my way or the highway!"
I mentioned the same in a comment recently but I deleted it later on. I think we all have a dichotomy of sorts. The Holy Spirit said my ability to wait is part of it. I don’t have a burning ache for a companion that would compel me to compromise the primary thing I’m seeking.
For some, singleness is a refining fire. But for me its a lengthy holiday which exacerbates my comfort. So He desires me to marry for the positive benefits it brings for me and the other person.
I think the profiles you’re referencing are idealistic and true. Most reflect the relationship the person craves but hasn’t found. And the more you add to the list the more difficult it becomes.
As believers we attest we want the same. But it doesn’t stop there. If it did; few would walk alone. So instead of the companion who loves the Lord you’re looking for a good cook, mother, and someone who shares your interests in ideal packaging. And that may take years to find. ;-)
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