Trying to be Positive

[ParentofChildren]

What are things you do to encourage your spouse? Three things I do to encourage my wife:

> Try to thank her for every meal she makes.

> Volunteer or help on occasion with her normal chores

> Complete her typing and handout creation(She is a school teacher)

Thoughts?

 

[ValleyGal]

I had to think about this, and could not pinpoint anything. At least nothing that is obvious. I thought about chores, but we don't have delegated chores; we both do jobs as we see the need. I thought about gratitude, and it's such an integrated part of our marriage that I can't say I use it to encourage him. So I don't know....anyway, I asked him. He said that day to day I just help him stay on track by not letting circumstances overwhelm him. I don't sweat the small stuff OR the big stuff (unless it's life-changing). I spur him on to positive outcomes.

I like how he encourages me, though. He is honest with me, never makes me feel badly about myself, honours my emotions, forgives easily, asks for forgiveness easily, and is careful to stay in a reconciled state. He listens when I talk, and responds positively when I need to feel connected with him. He takes good care of me when I'm sick, and he believes in me when I don't believe in myself.

 

[Autumnleaf]

I tell her, "You can do it!", after that she usually tells me to do it.

 

[ProudMomxmany]

Like ValleyGal, I can't pinpoint 3 things either. But, after all these years, our lives are so intertwined that it's almost to the point where I don't know where I end and he begins.