This may not be the correct forum for this... I apologize if I've mis-posted!
Very recently I've realized the reason I find myself feeling lonely and without any people to really turn to when I need a good friend, is because I've developed some pretty serious trust issues.
I never thought about it before, but when I look back at the last few years, I've been betrayed by people many, many times - Christians included. I've been very hurt by these people. Most I had known for quite some time (anywhere from 2-10 years) before said betrayal, which I think only makes matters worse. It almost seems like I have this instinct now not to trust anyone, because apparently it really doesn't matter how well you know a person, or how long - they can turn on you at any time.
I know all of this sounds incredibly bitter and cynical, and that's why I'm reaching out about this. I really want to change this part of myself. I miss having those close friendships. I know that betrayal in life is inevitable, and actually pretty much guaranteed once you let other less than perfect people into your own less than perfect life, but there's got to be a way to grow and overcome those instances that doesn't involve shying away from everyone.
I guess I just would like to hear from any of you who have experienced similar situations, and how you got through it. I've been praying hard about this for a while now, and I believe God is calling and challenging me to trust people again. But it's so hard. I start to reach out, start to reveal a personal bit of information, start to do anything, and I just freeze and back out...
Thanks for any advice.
Very recently I've realized the reason I find myself feeling lonely and without any people to really turn to when I need a good friend, is because I've developed some pretty serious trust issues.
I never thought about it before, but when I look back at the last few years, I've been betrayed by people many, many times - Christians included. I've been very hurt by these people. Most I had known for quite some time (anywhere from 2-10 years) before said betrayal, which I think only makes matters worse. It almost seems like I have this instinct now not to trust anyone, because apparently it really doesn't matter how well you know a person, or how long - they can turn on you at any time.
I know all of this sounds incredibly bitter and cynical, and that's why I'm reaching out about this. I really want to change this part of myself. I miss having those close friendships. I know that betrayal in life is inevitable, and actually pretty much guaranteed once you let other less than perfect people into your own less than perfect life, but there's got to be a way to grow and overcome those instances that doesn't involve shying away from everyone.
I guess I just would like to hear from any of you who have experienced similar situations, and how you got through it. I've been praying hard about this for a while now, and I believe God is calling and challenging me to trust people again. But it's so hard. I start to reach out, start to reveal a personal bit of information, start to do anything, and I just freeze and back out...
Thanks for any advice.