- Jan 19, 2018
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I am looking for help. I was raised in a Christian (Calvinist) home. My father was a pastor. I have always believed that the Bible is true and that Jesus is the Way of salvation. But I have never really connected with Christ or with the Father. It has always been very difficult for me to feel love for them. (It does not help that my father was very harsh, and Calvinist theology is no help to me either). I have been reading a lot of Orthodox blogs and such, because there seems to be a greater emphasis on God as love. But I am still struggling very much. I live in constant fear that God is not with me and does not love me, and that I will not "make it". I do not know what to do. I plead with God every day to give me a new heart, to fill me with the Holy Spirit (if I do not have it - it is hard to say), and to help me to love Him. It seems that He does not answer. When I read the Bible, pretty much all I see is wrath, judgment, and condemnation. I know that many Orthodox have a different conception of God's wrath than Protestants and Catholics do, and I like that, but it still seems to me that God acts very unkindly and unmercifully - especially in the OT, but also in that He will allow people to suffer torment in hell, and also things in the NT like what happened to Ananias and Sapphira and Peter's harsh words to Simon the Sorcerer. Even Christ Himself does not really touch my heart - perhaps I am too "used" to the truth, or just have so many negative associations. I always feel guilty and worry that it may be too late for me, because I knew the truth from childhood yet I did not respect my father (I have since mended my relationship with him), often found fault with God (still struggling with this), and many times in my life gave into temptation and pushed God out of my mind. I worry that God does not want me. I worry that I have too much pride. I just want to be in a right relationship with my Creator, I want to adore Christ and walk with Him - but I do not know how to change my thoughts and affections to this end. I am very willing to submit and obey, but that is not enough. I think if there were no hell I might just throw in the towel. But I cannot. Neither can I be saved if it is only to escape hell. Whoever does not love the Lord will be anathema. Can anyone help?