I think some people misunderstood so let me clarify and expound. I am not talking about about a random stranger, but rather a person that I am probably already good friends with, but have only recently (say a few weeks or a few months) began to feel "more" for. Rather than flirt for months, I'd just be up front and tell them.
I used "Hey I like you, wanna do something sometime?" so to make my point, it's actually go something like this:
"Hey, we've been friends a while, but recently I've realized that I really like you. I'm not into the whole "flirting" thing, and I don't want to send any mixed signals, so I'll say it straight. I really like you, not just as a friend, but as a woman. If you'd like, I'd like to do something with you. Dinner, a movie, whatever. As long as it's you."
Or something along those lines. I would actually tell her that I'm not good with flirting, and that I don't want her to get mixed signals.
I did this once with a friend of mine, and she was greatly appreciative that I just told her instead of being "flirtatious". It didn't work out because she was going to college in another state, and she just happened to be interested in someone else at the time, however because I was straight with her, she wasn't confused and we remained friends. I didn't mess with her head. And because of it, we had one of the greatest conversations about college, Christianity, and about life in general that I've ever had.
I would never ask a stranger out like that, though. I am the kind of person who has to be friends with a woman for a while before I began to look at them as more. I don't consider friendly sillyness/goofing/banter as flirtation.
I used "Hey I like you, wanna do something sometime?" so to make my point, it's actually go something like this:
"Hey, we've been friends a while, but recently I've realized that I really like you. I'm not into the whole "flirting" thing, and I don't want to send any mixed signals, so I'll say it straight. I really like you, not just as a friend, but as a woman. If you'd like, I'd like to do something with you. Dinner, a movie, whatever. As long as it's you."
Or something along those lines. I would actually tell her that I'm not good with flirting, and that I don't want her to get mixed signals.
I did this once with a friend of mine, and she was greatly appreciative that I just told her instead of being "flirtatious". It didn't work out because she was going to college in another state, and she just happened to be interested in someone else at the time, however because I was straight with her, she wasn't confused and we remained friends. I didn't mess with her head. And because of it, we had one of the greatest conversations about college, Christianity, and about life in general that I've ever had.
I would never ask a stranger out like that, though. I am the kind of person who has to be friends with a woman for a while before I began to look at them as more. I don't consider friendly sillyness/goofing/banter as flirtation.
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