TMI on FB

[DZoolander]

...and from surprising places.

Like FB stuff goes, I get a random friend request from some girl I knew back in school. I peruse over her profile after accepting her to see what she's been up to over the past 30 years - and send a quick "Hey, good to see you've done well! Beautiful family!" type of comment. Whatever - it's the polite thing to do, right?

Turns out she's married a pastor, has like 5 kids, etc. Nice.

So she starts messaging me... Probably 10 minutes into the casual conversation - starts telling me how busy he is - and how they "never get a chance to...get busy...anymore. If you know what I mean".

Well - ummm - TMI.

Won't be talking to her again.

 

[JCLover779]

LOL. Keep that one at a distance.

 

[DZoolander]

lol yep

 

[mkgal1]

Wow. Have some dignity, woman.....yikes.

 

[seeingeyes]

I get a random friend request from some girl I knew back in school.

Why I'm not on fb. lol

 

[DZoolander]

Why I'm not on fb. lol

MOST of the time it's pretty innocuous - but every now and then you get the oddball. lol

 

[seeingeyes]

MOST of the time it's pretty innocuous - but every now and then you get the oddball. lol

My thought is that if I haven't talked to you for 20 years, there's probably a reason.

 

[WolfGate]

I generally like catching up with old friends on facebook. But yeah, if that one happened, I'm running far and fast.

 

[ChristianGolfer]

I supposed that's to be expected when you're really, really, really, ridiculously good looking.

 

[sdmsanjose]

I finally joined face book. I solved a lot of problems like EZ had because i used a false name that only my family knows.

Just tonight I had my cousin say that after several months he finally figured it out that it was me. besides my wife is a friend on facebook so everything that i get she sees.

Also I gave the least amount of information when I signed up and even used some false stuff. Besides if those girls did not show any interest in me in high school what makes them think that either of us are as attractive as we were in high school. I am more than 40 pounds heavier with lots of wrinkles and I bet she is too! If she was not interested in me in High school she sure must be hard up now. What does that tell you?

 

[DZoolander]

Lol maybe I'm naive - but I really never understand the motives behind that type of exchange of info. I'm a person that shares no info like that, good or bad, to anyone. The only times I've ever discussed anything remotely about my sex life is when I was courting someone to find out if we're on the same page/in the same position (ie single).

But then there's the side of me that thinks "well, not everyone is like that. Some people are uncouth." Maybe that's it? lol

 

[NothingIsImpossible]

When I first joined years ago sometime after FB became known (and MySpace was dying)... it had some recommendations for me. Mostly old friends and family. I never really bothered though because if I want someone on my FB page I'll add them. Until I met my wife I had maybe 20 people on it. I like FB only for the reason of staying in contact with those who live very far away.

 

[seeingeyes]

Lol maybe I'm naive - but I really never understand the motives behind that type of exchange of info. I'm a person that shares no info like that, good or bad, to anyone. The only times I've ever discussed anything remotely about my sex life is when I was courting someone to find out if we're on the same page/in the same position (ie single).

But then there's the side of me that thinks "well, not everyone is like that. Some people are uncouth." Maybe that's it? lol

I'm pretty darn "uncouth" myself, but "Hi! So glad to see you after all these years. My husband and I don't have enough sex!", is either fishing for a date or downright mindblind.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

Wow...

 

[Odetta]

I added a friend once that I new from elementary school, but had lost contact by 6th grade. I really like reconnecting with folks. So recently I posted about how my 13 yo aspergers kid got impatient and irritated with 4 girls who came to the door Halloween night and were flirting with him, asking him repeatedly go with them. I jokingly asked how to do I teach my boy to be a "player". A parent of one of the girls said "don't" with a smilie. It was a cute post. Until aforementioned friend mentioned pl@yboy mag. Totally killed the playful vibe.

 

[seeingeyes]

I added a friend once that I new from elementary school, but had lost contact by 6th grade. I really like reconnecting with folks. So recently I posted about how my 13 yo aspergers kid got impatient and irritated with 4 girls who came to the door Halloween night and were flirting with him, asking him repeatedly go with them. I jokingly asked how to do I teach my boy to be a "player". A parent of one of the girls said "don't" with a smilie. It was a cute post. Until aforementioned friend mentioned pl@yboy mag. Totally killed the playful vibe.

Be careful what you wish for!

 

[Hetta]

...and from surprising places.

Like FB stuff goes, I get a random friend request from some girl I knew back in school. I peruse over her profile after accepting her to see what she's been up to over the past 30 years - and send a quick "Hey, good to see you've done well! Beautiful family!" type of comment. Whatever - it's the polite thing to do, right?

Turns out she's married a pastor, has like 5 kids, etc. Nice.

So she starts messaging me... Probably 10 minutes into the casual conversation - starts telling me how busy he is - and how they "never get a chance to...get busy...anymore. If you know what I mean".

Well - ummm - TMI.

Won't be talking to her again.

You wouldn't consider just saying to her "Hey, I know you didn't mean it this way, but saying those things to a man who isn't your husband can come across as seeming that you're looking for someone get busy with. I know you're not that kind of woman, but someone else might not know that and I know that you'd hate to get into any kind of scrape."

An old boyfriend of mine contacted me a few years ago and started engaging in some private communications that made me uncomfortable. (I had done nothing to encourage him btw.) I asked him if he would talk that way if his wife or my husband were reading the messages and he said admitted he wouldn't. I said that if he wouldn't let his wife read things he was saying to me, what did that say about the content? He stopped then. Maybe he was saying the same thing to other women, I don't know, but I figured that at least I made it clear to him that what he was doing was inappropriate.

 

[mkgal1]

You wouldn't consider just saying to her "Hey, I know you didn't mean it this way, but saying those things to a man who isn't your husband can come across as seeming that you're looking for someone get busy with. I know you're not that kind of woman, but someone else might not know that and I know that you'd hate to get into any kind of scrape."

An old boyfriend of mine contacted me a few years ago and started engaging in some private communications that made me uncomfortable. (I had done nothing to encourage him btw.) I asked him if he would talk that way if his wife or my husband were reading the messages and he said admitted he wouldn't. I said that if he wouldn't let his wife read things he was saying to me, what did that say about the content? He stopped then. Maybe he was saying the same thing to other women, I don't know, but I figured that at least I made it clear to him that what he was doing was inappropriate.

That may be a good plan (to respond that way). Maybe she is just awkwardly too sincere (and even if it's intentional....the point would be made about her inappropriateness).

 

[bp88]

LOL. Keep that one at a distance.

Seconded.

 

[Niffer]

I've had that happen a few times, sometimes it can be an drama-seeking person, but when its a member of the opposite sex, red flags go WAY up!
Have you even responded to that message? Or are you just going to ignore it?