One thing that I thing that has to be noted as a very important difference though, in how Christ led, was that Christ WAS indeed wiser than his disciples. He had access to all wisdom. In the case of husband and wife, both have access to the mind of Christ, and neither has some specia; knowledge that the other doesn't have access to, and I think that is where some issues come into play. If a man acts like he knows more than a woman, and comes accross to her like a teacher, that is really condescending, unless it genuinely is a subject he knows more about. Being a man, doesn't give him that extra wisdom or knowledge, just by his being a man. Tbh, there are very specific things, that do have to be taken into account, in regards to time period. For instance, In the Jewish culture, where the Gospel came from, men had been the only ones allowed to learn the scriptures, so it made sense that they would have to be the ones to teach their wives. The New Testament church was radical in a lot of ways, including that women were now sitting beside their husbands in a church assembly. This was new, and of course men would have to teach them, and women who were just learning the scriptures would have been wrong to teach the men who had much more experience in studying the scriptures. It was also quite common for grown men to literally marry children. Again, that makes the man teaching the woman, more logical. However, when the boldness of the Holy Spirit fell upon male and female alike, and women were now proclaimed to be coheirs,(this had not been proclaimed before) things were in the movement of change. Furthermore in the individual cases of women being really knowledgeable in the scriptures, they were teaching even men, like in the case of Priscilla and Aquilla. She was coteaching, and in fact her name is mentioned first, which might well indicate that she was leading the teaching, but at any rate, she was teaching another man.