That's what you call "blinded by love".
Is that the same thing as being blind in one eye and can't see out of the other?
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Is that the same thing as being blind in one eye and can't see out of the other?
BBM what are shame checks?
...oops... SAME checks ... there is nothing wrong with doing your homework
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In my view I think you have answered your own question, with the verse you have posted. I believe online dating is much to risky. I have a sister who just can not stay away from it. I fear for her safety and she has gotten caught up in some bad situations. Before you get into a relationship, make sure that you know it is what God has for you. Remember he knows whats best for you and has that special someone just for you. Seek him and it shall be given unto you. As for the background check, It seams they feel insecure some them selves. Just my thought.
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I'm not ready to jump into online dating....but your last comment "It seems they feel insecure some themselves." What do you mean? The person doing the background check is insecure or the person that would get mad about it? Sorry...I'm just not following...Thanks.
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I don't think its insecure to want to do a background check. I think its a prudent thing to do when one is thinking about a legal commitment to an other company or person. When I buy a house, I do due diligent to make sure I'm buying what is being sold to me. When a person is interested in making a lift time commitment to another person that will also effect their finances it only makes sense to check that they are representing themselves correctly. There are Christians that don't. Tho I think most people are quite honest, some only tell part of the story. Why even I've been accused of doing that!
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Well heck ya I'm insecure about strange men! This is a very bad world we live in today and I don't want to be one of the missing women that are either found dead or never found so....I could care less about being considered insecure. I care more about being safe and yet a simple background check does not really divulge everything needed to know about strange man or men I do not know. And if they have nothing to hide they should not be offended. I don't think they should consider the women insecure either, but that's JMO.
I find it interesting that someone would say that someone else who is doing their due diligence in researching someone or someplace is insecure and yet one area people seem to get lost and join without ever researching the history is religion lol. If more people would research how certain religions came into being, they would probably not join.
I find it interesting that someone would say that someone else who is doing their due diligence in researching someone or someplace is insecure and yet one area people seem to get lost and join without ever researching the history is religion lol. If more people would research how certain religions came into being, they would probably not join.
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Seems to me the only person who is insecure is that one that doesn't want a background check due to shady background. It is best to just tell your new girlfriend everything so she can make up her mind (I'm looking at you, Tiger Woods!)
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dayhiker
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I really think the ladies need to fess up how many romance novels they have read to their new BF. That's the only way I know of to find out how bad I'm going to let her down!
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I really think the ladies need to fess up how many romance novels they have read to their new BF. That's the only way I know of to find out how bad I'm going to let her down!
what if she doesn't read romance novels? then what huh?
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Porn gave men an unrealistic expectation about women.
Romance novels gave women an unrealistic expectation about men.
Romance novels gave women an unrealistic expectation about men.
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I believe in trust, but with caution. I think if I were dating today I would be wary, only because it seems everyday you hear of another tragedy on the news.
However, I would not do a background check on the man. I would hopefully have gotten to know him through church or friends and would take things very slow. He wouldn't be able to come to my home alone. I would rather go to church functions together etc. If the relationship progressed further and I felt there were some red flags, I may ask him if he has anything in his past he would want to tell me about. If he said no and my prayers and thoughts led me to believe there was a falsehood there, I would end the relationship.
However, I would not do a background check on the man. I would hopefully have gotten to know him through church or friends and would take things very slow. He wouldn't be able to come to my home alone. I would rather go to church functions together etc. If the relationship progressed further and I felt there were some red flags, I may ask him if he has anything in his past he would want to tell me about. If he said no and my prayers and thoughts led me to believe there was a falsehood there, I would end the relationship.
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Ok, what about if someone you were dating did a background check on you? What would you think about that?
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That's what I did too. We had a 6 year courtship. We met each other's families, we finished each other's sentences
We were meant to be....until we got married and moved in together. That's when I discovered his porn stash and his freaky-deakyness (including his debt). This was all before our first anniversary (which we were separated for).
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Its ,y view that of someone really wants to hide something, they will. Its only a direct question that has a chance of this type of person telling the dirt. That's if they aren't a good lier.
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I guess I wouldn't care. I have nothing to hide. I sure would appreciate if he asked me first though.
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OK and just curious again....if he did ask you first.....what would you think of him? would it change any opinion you had of him because he wants to check you out? I'm not being snarky I'm really curious.
What's funny is once I heard you can google your name and see what comes up....well if I google my name there is a nude model with the same name from somewhere in England. Her and I have the same hair color but I'm not a nude model and I don't have the body she has (darn it
) so then I would wonder if they would think that used to be me or ???? LOL
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OK and just curious again....if he did ask you first.....what would you think of him? would it change any opinion you had of him because he wants to check you out? I'm not being snarky I'm really curious.
I guess I would initially feel a bit offended. It would all depend on how long I knew him..How well I knew him, etc. I guess though if he asked, I would say, its fine, go ahead.
What's funny is once I heard you can google your name and see what comes up....well if I google my name there is a nude model with the same name from somewhere in England. Her and I have the same hair color but I'm not a nude model and I don't have the body she has (darn it
Now that's just a perfect example of what can go wrong when someone looks into your past. Kinda scary huh? It made me chuckle when you said that about the nude model...but it's not really funny is it?
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Now I am only 27
But I have been through over 35 surgeries with my husband
One heart attack
Countless seizures
He is on so many medications I lost count ( unless I check my purse for the list)
He is diabetic,blind and amputee, he has lost all his teeth, and now his kidneys are failing
He is only 34
My one promise to him if he were to pass away and I was to remarry is this....I want a health exam, with lab results done. So I can know what I am getting into if anything should pop up. Not saying if he was ore diabetic I would run, or had heart problems I would skip town. But I feel , and so does my husband, feel as if I should know what I am getting into and if it something I can handle and accept then go for it.
I have three children who have gone through this with me. I am tired.
Sounds lame when I write it down, but it makes sense to me.
Background checks are about the same, in weird sense.
But I have been through over 35 surgeries with my husband
One heart attack
Countless seizures
He is on so many medications I lost count ( unless I check my purse for the list)
He is diabetic,blind and amputee, he has lost all his teeth, and now his kidneys are failing
He is only 34
My one promise to him if he were to pass away and I was to remarry is this....I want a health exam, with lab results done. So I can know what I am getting into if anything should pop up. Not saying if he was ore diabetic I would run, or had heart problems I would skip town. But I feel , and so does my husband, feel as if I should know what I am getting into and if it something I can handle and accept then go for it.
I have three children who have gone through this with me. I am tired.
Sounds lame when I write it down, but it makes sense to me.
Background checks are about the same, in weird sense.
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