Think I'll sit down here for a bit... (9)

[River of Zion]

I had therapy, went out a little bit ago and planted 36 strawberry plants.

My sister had the baby friday, the daddy of the baby shows up and started trouble said he was going to fight for custody, my mother is being ugly with everyone, not being very Christian about it, like giving the finger to the couple that were planning on adopting the baby. She called me ranting and raving, trying to put different situations in front of me, I kept trying to change the subject because you can't talk to her so she hung up on me. Talked to my brother yesterday said she called him and said she wanted the baby back now. The baby is at my brothers house right now, the baby is under DHR care like the other two are cause of my sister being on drugs under her care. She's staying clean right now but for how long I don't know. Maybe dealing with DHR will keep her clean but having to deal with my mother I don't know how long she'll be able to take it. I've tried getting her back to church and stuff and dealing with the situation for the past 5 yrs or so. I don't know what to do anymore but stay away and pray for everyone.

The situation sounds so painful ctay. You might be smart in stepping back and praying. Keeping boundaries in family is hard enough, but where emotions are high, old hurts run into new hurts, and everyone is wound up tighter than kite string, keeping boundaries is even tougher.

Lord I lift this situation up to You. You know each and everyone of these individuals and the intense pain and overwhelming emotional zeal they are experiencing. Please blessed Spirit of the Living God pour upon them and bring the security, clear mindedness, opened ears, peace, and Your healing, annointing balm for healing. Establish Your boundaries Lord God giving all involved rest from the situation. Cloak ctay in Your solitude, warmth, and safety. Hold her close in the strength of Your arms.
Amen.

 

[Flipper]

I had therapy, went out a little bit ago and planted 36 strawberry plants.

My sister had the baby friday, the daddy of the baby shows up and started trouble said he was going to fight for custody, my mother is being ugly with everyone, not being very Christian about it, like giving the finger to the couple that were planning on adopting the baby. She called me ranting and raving, trying to put different situations in front of me, I kept trying to change the subject because you can't talk to her so she hung up on me. Talked to my brother yesterday said she called him and said she wanted the baby back now. The baby is at my brothers house right now, the baby is under DHR care like the other two are cause of my sister being on drugs under her care. She's staying clean right now but for how long I don't know. Maybe dealing with DHR will keep her clean but having to deal with my mother I don't know how long she'll be able to take it. I've tried getting her back to church and stuff and dealing with the situation for the past 5 yrs or so. I don't know what to do anymore but stay away and pray for everyone.

Continuing to pray for everyone involved, ALONG WITH the family who thought they were going to adopt the baby.

 

[brinny]

I just called my mother about 30 minutes ago, she hung up on me, guess I won't be calling her for awhile.

aww ctay ...praying for you and your family dear heart ((((((hug)))))

 

[brinny]

I had therapy, went out a little bit ago and planted 36 strawberry plants.

My sister had the baby friday, the daddy of the baby shows up and started trouble said he was going to fight for custody, my mother is being ugly with everyone, not being very Christian about it, like giving the finger to the couple that were planning on adopting the baby. She called me ranting and raving, trying to put different situations in front of me, I kept trying to change the subject because you can't talk to her so she hung up on me. Talked to my brother yesterday said she called him and said she wanted the baby back now. The baby is at my brothers house right now, the baby is under DHR care like the other two are cause of my sister being on drugs under her care. She's staying clean right now but for how long I don't know. Maybe dealing with DHR will keep her clean but having to deal with my mother I don't know how long she'll be able to take it. I've tried getting her back to church and stuff and dealing with the situation for the past 5 yrs or so. I don't know what to do anymore but stay away and pray for everyone.

lifting you dear heart, and everyone to Abba ((((((hug))))))

 

[porterross]

I had therapy, went out a little bit ago and planted 36 strawberry plants.

My sister had the baby friday, the daddy of the baby shows up and started trouble said he was going to fight for custody, my mother is being ugly with everyone, not being very Christian about it, like giving the finger to the couple that were planning on adopting the baby. She called me ranting and raving, trying to put different situations in front of me, I kept trying to change the subject because you can't talk to her so she hung up on me. Talked to my brother yesterday said she called him and said she wanted the baby back now. The baby is at my brothers house right now, the baby is under DHR care like the other two are cause of my sister being on drugs under her care. She's staying clean right now but for how long I don't know. Maybe dealing with DHR will keep her clean but having to deal with my mother I don't know how long she'll be able to take it. I've tried getting her back to church and stuff and dealing with the situation for the past 5 yrs or so. I don't know what to do anymore but stay away and pray for everyone.

What a trying time or all involved.

How are the perspective adoptive parents coping with not having the baby at this point? What recourse do they have to try to force the issue for the sake of the baby? Does your brother really want to raise the baby? If so, does he realize that without adopting him, he has little no legal rights in contrast to your sister?

I feel for everyone, but my heart really goes out to the couple who planned to adopt the baby. They must be gutted.

 

[DaRev]

the daddy of the baby shows up and started trouble said he was going to fight for custody,

Keep in mind that I'm viewing this from afar...

But if the mother is unable to care for the child, then the father is the natural "next in line" before any adoption should be considered. He is as much the parent of that child as his mother is.

 

[ctay]

Ok talked to my brother last night, they had to go to court, the father contesting the adoption and he failed his drug test so he wouldn't be getting him anytime soon. anyway he said he'd talk to the couple that wants to adopt. I don't know if he ever did yet. The couple has been taking care of the baby at my brothers house and its been tearing them up too. The couple wanting to adopt its my sister in law's brother and his wife, they are good christian people.

 

[brinny]

praying ctay ((((hug))))

 

[ctay]

I took these today

 

[brinny]

wait a minute...is that 1st one a llama? haha i love it....and look at that personality in its face and the tilt of its head hee hee ctay you are a joy

 

[ctay]

Its either an alpaca or a llama, its a baby too, it was soooo cute.

 

[ctay]

Here's mama and baby

 

[brinny]

Here's mama and baby

awwwww cute

 

[ctay]

FCF Photography

 

[Flipper]

What a trying time or all involved.

How are the perspective adoptive parents coping with not having the baby at this point? What recourse do they have to try to force the issue for the sake of the baby? Does your brother really want to raise the baby? If so, does he realize that without adopting him, he has little no legal rights in contrast to your sister?

I feel for everyone, but my heart really goes out to the couple who planned to adopt the baby. They must be gutted.

Ditto Ditto Ditto! Sorry to interject a selfish thought, but this is exactly why we are going outside of the country for our kids. Our laws favor the biological parents more than the best interests of the child.

Continuing to pray for everyone involved and everyone affected by this.

 

[Studeclunker]

Hey look! It's Mama-Lama and Lambie-Lama too!

Actually, that's an inside joke around here. See... in Weaverville one of the most popular coffee shoppes is a hippie cafe' called Mama Lama.

 

[Flipper]

Here's mama and baby

Awwwwww - how cute. I had to go to someone's house to notarize some documents yesterday and one of their neighbors had miniture goats in their backyard. I had to go look. They were cute too.

 

[Studeclunker]

Oh, I dunno... I kinda like the full-sized version. Well, the babies anyway.

Then of course are Matilda-The-Hun's brood:

 

[Flipper]

Maybe what I saw were babies. I don't know. I was in the "hood" and was overcome with cuteness - that's usually an oxymoron.

 

[LutheranChick]

Miniature goats- just as much trouble (if not more) as their full-sized counterparts! Let's just say the thought of owning them is much better than the actual experience- at least it was for me

Ctay, do you have to do anything special to upload your pics here? I tried and kept getting an error message in the uploading window (Internet Explorer cannot display this page) after it started to upload. I don't know if it's the size of the pics (MB) or my internet.