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The Ring Thing

Tuffguy

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Who cares man? Do what you want to do and use your best common sense. You know the girl.

I can't think of one reason why a girl wouldn't want to be surprised w/a ring. If shes the type that wouldn't like a surprise like that then i'd like to cross her off my list. LOL

I would hope that any girl that i pick to marry would be flattered beyond belief even if the ring was a fruit loop.
 
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Tuffguy is right


On another note, what about wedding ring sets? I don't understand that concept. Could someone please inform me? Is one of the rings the engagement ring and then the other one is the one you get at the actual ceremony and they sort of fit together? That's what it seems to be, but some people just get an engagement ring and then wedding ring later. So what do you do with the engagement ring once you get the wedding ring? I'm a little confused!
 
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Living4Him03 said:
On another note, what about wedding ring sets? I don't understand that concept. Could someone please inform me? Is one of the rings the engagement ring and then the other one is the one you get at the actual ceremony and they sort of fit together? That's what it seems to be, but some people just get an engagement ring and then wedding ring later. So what do you do with the engagement ring once you get the wedding ring? I'm a little confused!
Traditionally, an engagment ring was the fancier ring and the wedding band a simpler ring, and after the wedding they were both worn together. Many women took their rings to the jewelers and had the rings soldered together.

So, a set would be like, a diamond solitaire engagement ring, with a simpler wedding band (perhaps with diamond chips?) that fit nicely together as one.
 
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If I picked out a ring for my sweetheart, and I had spent hours searching for and selecting the ring I thought he/she would love, and presented it to them only to hear, "I really hate this, can I get another?" I would be so heart broken. If I take the time to buy a very expensive gift, that would just hurt. SO, if you think your perspective spouse is not going to appreciate your efforts, either your with the wrong person, or you need to ensure that you go shopping together.

On a side note, when my husband proposed to me, he had no money (he had been sick in the hospital) He proposed to me as I was standing at his bedside, and he asked me to marry him and put one of his own silver rings on my hand. At that point, it wouldn't have mattered if that ring was a pop-top from a Pepsi can. To me it was the most beautiful thing in the world, and I wore it like it was. And you know what? We have great stories to tell about that. I would never have dreamed of dashing him down by telling him that HIS gift to me wasn't good enough.
We finally got our set last year. The one we both wanted, and could finally afford. And that's another story altogether, lol. :)
 
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I'd want to be surprised.... and I would hope that my boyfriend would know me well enough to know I prefer white gold to yellow gold. But I wouldnt care if it was a diamond or not...

My ex bought be a yellow gold ring... because it "had" to be gold, otherwise it was breaking some kind of rule.
 
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...the guys can answer my question too...

But, how do you know the ring size of the woman you are going to ask if you want to keep it a secret? I mean, I don't understand how you can get a ring without the proper ring size. Is there some kind of hidden rule I don't know about? LOL, sorry if this is a dumb question but I have always wondered this.
 
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Wild_Fan4Christ said:
...the guys can answer my question too...

But, how do you know the ring size of the woman you are going to ask if you want to keep it a secret? I mean, I don't understand how you can get a ring without the proper ring size. Is there some kind of hidden rule I don't know about? LOL, sorry if this is a dumb question but I have always wondered this.

rings can be resized after purchase
 
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Wild_Fan4Christ said:
...the guys can answer my question too...

But, how do you know the ring size of the woman you are going to ask if you want to keep it a secret? I mean, I don't understand how you can get a ring without the proper ring size. Is there some kind of hidden rule I don't know about? LOL, sorry if this is a dumb question but I have always wondered this.
One thing... ask her mom/best friend what size ring she wears. Average size is 7 I believe. I've also heard that a girls ring size is equal to her shoe size. I don't know how reliable that fact is though.

Or another thing... when she's not looking, go into her jewelery box, and take a ring that she doesn't wear (she probably wont notice, if she doesn't wear it), and take it to a jeweler or wherever you are buying the ring from, and have them match the size.
 
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ashes2beauty said:
...I've also heard that a girls ring size is equal to her shoe size. I don't know how reliable that fact is though...

Hmm... I've never heard that, but it could be a good way to guess. I wear a size 8 shoe, and I think my ring size is 7.5 or something. Not sure, though, b/c I haven't had occasion to size that finger. ;)
 
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Wild_Fan4Christ said:
...the guys can answer my question too...

But, how do you know the ring size of the woman you are going to ask if you want to keep it a secret? I mean, I don't understand how you can get a ring without the proper ring size. Is there some kind of hidden rule I don't know about? LOL, sorry if this is a dumb question but I have always wondered this.
I've heard of a couple of guys who would get the ring size for another gift (such as an Birthday or Christmas).
 
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unimportantbuthisnameis said:
I've heard of a couple of guys who would get the ring size for another gift (such as an Birthday or Christmas).

Clever! :thumbsup: Except you have to be careful, because there is usually a slight different in size between the right and left ring fingers.

Wow, I guess those of us who want to be surprised really make it hard on you guys! I'm sorry. :( But it's still really romantic if you've gone to all that trouble for us.
 
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