Hi, I am facing a big dilemma. I've been chosen to be a godfather to the child of a close family member. From the perspective of our relationship, I would love to maintain a good contact with both the young man and his parents, help in taking care of him, convey love, be a support, be a friend.
On the other hand, the role of the "godfather" itself is closely related to religion and the Church. And, unfortunately, this is where the problem arises. It seems to me that at the moment I am not a good person for being a religious support and Christian guide for the child. I myself am at the stage where the term "looking for answers" probably fits the most. I don't feel my faith to be robust.
For many years I was quite close to the Church. Over the years it began to fade away (not faith itself, but more the urge to practice the Catholic practices[as was a Catholic at that time]).
Unfortunately, I've had (and still have) problems beyond my control (OCD disorders), which quite strongly shifted and changed my perspective of prayer, faith (practicing), religion and God. A lot of the doctrines and practices of the Catholic Church began to seem questionable to me. At some point, I was just more Christian than Catholic.
But for some time I've been on the verge of faith and lack of it. I stopped perceiving many things in a spiritual way, but more biological, natural and scientific. At the moment, I don't know where I am. I don't know what it will look like in, let's say, 10 years. With my current approach: if he would like to go to church, I will take him there. If he needed something to be explained to him related to religion - I would try to explain if I could.
However, I would not like to force him to do anything against his will. It would also be hard for me to support something that just doesn't seem appropriate to me, that I don't believe in or disagree with.
For this moment I don't feel like I would be able to be a Christian guide for him. Most of those things that are usually practiced by the Catholic culture, and which such a young person is supposed to be guided through, do seem to be questionable to me (or even I just lost the faith in those).
I'm a bit sorry that I take it so seriously - maybe too seriously. A lot of people do not care too much and simply treat the role of godparents as strengthening the human relationship with the child, rather than any leading through religion. Maybe someone has some experience with this topic and can share it? Thank you.
On the other hand, the role of the "godfather" itself is closely related to religion and the Church. And, unfortunately, this is where the problem arises. It seems to me that at the moment I am not a good person for being a religious support and Christian guide for the child. I myself am at the stage where the term "looking for answers" probably fits the most. I don't feel my faith to be robust.
For many years I was quite close to the Church. Over the years it began to fade away (not faith itself, but more the urge to practice the Catholic practices[as was a Catholic at that time]).
Unfortunately, I've had (and still have) problems beyond my control (OCD disorders), which quite strongly shifted and changed my perspective of prayer, faith (practicing), religion and God. A lot of the doctrines and practices of the Catholic Church began to seem questionable to me. At some point, I was just more Christian than Catholic.
But for some time I've been on the verge of faith and lack of it. I stopped perceiving many things in a spiritual way, but more biological, natural and scientific. At the moment, I don't know where I am. I don't know what it will look like in, let's say, 10 years. With my current approach: if he would like to go to church, I will take him there. If he needed something to be explained to him related to religion - I would try to explain if I could.
However, I would not like to force him to do anything against his will. It would also be hard for me to support something that just doesn't seem appropriate to me, that I don't believe in or disagree with.
For this moment I don't feel like I would be able to be a Christian guide for him. Most of those things that are usually practiced by the Catholic culture, and which such a young person is supposed to be guided through, do seem to be questionable to me (or even I just lost the faith in those).
I'm a bit sorry that I take it so seriously - maybe too seriously. A lot of people do not care too much and simply treat the role of godparents as strengthening the human relationship with the child, rather than any leading through religion. Maybe someone has some experience with this topic and can share it? Thank you.