The Other Woman Pays Lover’s Wife For 20-Year Affair

[ZiSunka]

Kathie O'Keefe, a former lounge singer turned political activist, spent two "happy" decades with another woman's husband and now she's being ordered to pay up...


http://abcnews.go.com/sections/GMA/GoodMorningAmerica/GMA021119MistressMoney.html

All I can say is

 

[seebs]

I dunno; the downside is, this might create the idea that, once you've paid your dues, you're done. The lady still says "I didn't do anything wrong, he did"... As if the guy's wrong actions didn't involve her.

 

[Christopher Paul]

Talk about "what goes around, comes around..."

"When her former lover, Jack McCarthy, died 16 months ago at age 78, O'Keefe made a claim against the estate of the wealthy real estate broker.
O'Keefe, 69, wanted a watch and ring he had given her, and the $200,000 she said he promised her.

Not only was O'Keefe turned down, but McCarthy's wife of 30 years, Margaret, turned the tables and sued.

Now, according to a court ruling in favor of Margaret McCarthy, O'Keefe owes $200,000, to her dead lover's family."

 

[ZiSunka]

Originally posted by seebs
I dunno; the downside is, this might create the idea that, once you've paid your dues, you're done. The lady still says "I didn't do anything wrong, he did"... As if the guy's wrong actions didn't involve her.

On a human level, yes. But on a spiritual level, she can never repay her own debt. And she can never receive Christ's payment for her sin debt unless she admits that she did something wrong. And if she has to make these payments every month, it will force her to confront her sin and her need for forgiveness all the time for the rest of her life.

 

[Miss Shelby]

That'll learn her!

Michelle

 

[smurfy2day]

That's great!

I'd LOVE to see more cases like this one!

 

[Mother Vashti]

It's good that she got her come up'ns.
But why didn't the adulterous have to do the same?

 

[AnnMercy2]

I want to know how she can not see what she did was wrong. She had an affair with a married man and says that there was nothing wrong with what she did. What part of "thou shalt not commit adultry" doesn't she understand. I pray that she realizes what she did was wrong and asks God for forgivness. I pray that she come to know the Lord before it is too late. And unless the man asked for forgivness and asked Jesus into his heart, he is now paying his own dues for his sin. I pray the lady doesn't suffer the same fate.

Anna

 

[Morat]

Well, you eat cow after all. And the Vedas make their position on eating cow pretty darn clear.

I pray that you'll stop your sinning before it's too late.

 

[seebs]

Well, I would argue that you have to be exceptionally dim not to see anything wrong in walking up to a widow still in mourning and saying "Hi, I was boffing your spouse on the side for 20 years, give me some of his stuff". I mean, even if we assume that she was somehow faultless in the affair... She sure screwed up after that.

 

[Morat]

Well, sure. I'm just pointing out that religious commandments don't mean squat to people who don't believe in that religion.

Now, it's more likely all three were Christians than not (this happened in America, right?), so Ann probably had a point. But not necessarily.

 

[alphatronics]

Originally posted by AnnMercy2
I want to know how she can not see what she did was wrong. She had an affair with a married man and says that there was nothing wrong with what she did. What part of "thou shalt not commit adultry" doesn't she understand. I pray that she realizes what she did was wrong and asks God for forgivness. I pray that she come to know the Lord before it is too late. And unless the man asked for forgivness and asked Jesus into his heart, he is now paying his own dues for his sin. I pray the lady doesn't suffer the same fate.

Anna

In order to have a successful affair, there need to be at least two people involved. You seem to be concentrating on only one of them.

 

[Loved One]

Originally posted by alphatronics
In order to have a successful affair, there need to be at least two people involved. You seem to be concentrating on only one of them.

 

Yes, and in this case possibly three.  This affair went on for two decades.  How could the wife not know?

 

[AnnMercy2]

Originally posted by alphatronics
In order to have a successful affair, there need to be at least two people involved. You seem to be concentrating on only one of them.

Ya lost me on this one How am I only concentrating on only one of them? I incuded both in my post. And at this point I would concentrate on praying for the woman because she is still alive and can still make a choice. I can't do anything for the man, I can only hope that he accepted Christ into his heart before he died. And yes, like I insinuated in my first post, I do hope and pray that he asked for forgivness for his sins and if not then he is suffering a fate worse than death.

I don't know how the wife could not have known, but the article didn't say. I sure hope that she wasn't having an affair too just because her husband did. But I don't know that and can't say too much about it.

Anywho, the only thing I can do now is pray for the still living parties involved.

In Christ,
Anna

 

[JohnR7]

"It doesn't matter to me if it's $200,000 or $2 million," she said. "I didn't do anything wrong. It was Jack who broke the law and I don't think I should be punished for the sins of a dead man," she said.

Interesting, she did not "do anything wrong", but her boyfriend was a sinner.

Proverbs 30:20 (niv)
    "This is the way of an adulteress:
        She eats and wipes her mouth
        and says, 'I've done nothing wrong.'
 


 

 

[Morat]

She said she didn't do anything wrong, in the context of breaking the law. Which was quite clear from her statement "It was Jack who broke the law, not me".

Admittedly, the use of the phrase "sins of a dead man" is confusing, but she is clearly referring to the legal crime of breaking a marital contract.

Thus, quoting Proverbs doesn't mean squat in relationship to her point. Perhaps if you were to quote case law, you might have a point.

 

[ZiSunka]

Originally posted by alphatronics
In order to have a successful affair, there need to be at least two people involved. You seem to be concentrating on only one of them.

Cuz he's dead, silly. It's too late for him to repent or to repay his wife and kids for money he spent on the other woman!

 

[ZiSunka]

Originally posted by Morat
She said she didn't do anything wrong, in the context of breaking the law. Which was quite clear from her statement "It was Jack who broke the law, not me".

Admittedly, the use of the phrase "sins of a dead man" is confusing, but she is clearly referring to the legal crime of breaking a marital contract.

Thus, quoting Proverbs doesn't mean squat in relationship to her point. Perhaps if you were to quote case law, you might have a point.

But as it was mentioned before, it takes two to commit adultery. She is just as guilty as he was. And her guilt was not just that she slept with a married man, but that she accepted gifts from him, which was stealing from the wife and children since the gifts were purchased with community property without the wife's consent.

 

[Angel75]

it is unfortunate he is dead, and it wasn't a divorce, so he could pay through the nose too.
Just gotta say it sickens me how she could have had so little class as to demand money from his estate. glad to see her paying Kharma is a wonderful thing.

 

[Morat]

But as it was mentioned before, it takes two to commit adultery. She is just as guilty as he was. And her guilt was not just that she slept with a married man, but that she accepted gifts from him, which was stealing from the wife and children since the gifts were purchased with community property without the wife's consent.

I'd love to see prior case law on this.