The Lonely Hearts Thread!

[sparkydave]

I can consider myself one of the lonely hearts. Met my ex-wife nearly 8 years ago, and dated for 2 years before I popped the question. We met through eHarmony, and while we were different in many ways, we complemented each other greatly. Unfortunately, I don't think her heart was into marriage, we didn't even make it to our first anniversary before she said she wanted to move out to the country to pursue the business that she started, and in her own words "It's just completely unrealistic to expect two people to stay together forever, because people are constantly changing". I took it pretty hard but she insisted she wanted to remain friends.

Two years ago I thought I was ready to try again, and met somebody who I clicked with right away, but turns out she was on the fast track to making babies ASAP and was pushing hard for a marriage commitment only a few weeks after we met . She was also a little too fixated on materialism and what I would buy for her. After I called it quits, the stream of childish e-mails and text messages (including one she sent from her WORK e-mail!) confirmed that she was lacking in maturity. Even her mom joined in calling me lower than a snake's belly by e-mail, among other things. Just counting my blessings on that one. A little bird told me she was engaged 4 months after we broke up. Uy, I pray for them, I REALLY pray for them!

As of late I miss having a companion. Many of my friends have said that I'm thoughtful and compassionate, though shy and quiet. Some friends and even some folks at church keep hinting at folks they would like to fix me up with, but I'm a little reluctant. Guess I'll have to figure out how to open my heart to someone without fear of having it broken again. I've been going through Celebrate Recovery at my church, and it's been helping.

 

[lindilindi]

I can consider myself one of the lonely hearts. Met my ex-wife nearly 8 years ago, and dated for 2 years before I popped the question. We met through eHarmony, and while we were different in many ways, we complemented each other greatly. Unfortunately, I don't think her heart was into marriage, we didn't even make it to our first anniversary before she said she wanted to move out to the country to pursue the business that she started, and in her own words "It's just completely unrealistic to expect two people to stay together forever, because people are constantly changing". I took it pretty hard but she insisted she wanted to remain friends.

Two years ago I thought I was ready to try again, and met somebody who I clicked with right away, but turns out she was on the fast track to making babies ASAP and was pushing hard for a marriage commitment only a few weeks after we met . She was also a little too fixated on materialism and what I would buy for her. After I called it quits, the stream of childish e-mails and text messages (including one she sent from her WORK e-mail!) confirmed that she was lacking in maturity. Even her mom joined in calling me lower than a snake's belly by e-mail, among other things. Just counting my blessings on that one. A little bird told me she was engaged 4 months after we broke up. Uy, I pray for them, I REALLY pray for them!

As of late I miss having a companion. Many of my friends have said that I'm thoughtful and compassionate, though shy and quiet. Some friends and even some folks at church keep hinting at folks they would like to fix me up with, but I'm a little reluctant. Guess I'll have to figure out how to open my heart to someone without fear of having it broken again. I've been going through Celebrate Recovery at my church, and it's been helping.

My brother God is a God of time. His timing is always right. In the fullness of time you will meet the right woman for you. God will heal, mend your broken heart and put everlasting joy in it. He will wipe the tears from your eyes. Put your trust in HIM, have faith because He is Faithful. He keeps his promises and His word will stand forever.

 

[rubyinprogress]

I am going through a divorce right now. Married 16 years. Don't want a divorce, but don't want myself or son verbally/emotionally abused either. I filed for a legal separation because he wasn't getting counseling and things were getting worse. He changed it to a divorce. I am lonely, but not wanting a new relationship. I just want some friends and fellowship. I really just have forgotten how to go out and have fun. I used to have lots of friends and someplace to go, something to do every weekend. He didn't like going out. Last night I went to a movie with a friend. Where do you meet groups people, not just dating sites. I am looking for picnics and barbecues and day trips to Northern Arizona when it is 110 in Phoenix. I have been cut off from friends for so long I am trying to figure out what to do for fun.

 

[dayhiker]

Hi rudy,
I can hear the loneliness. Message Michelle on this web site and talk to her.

Go back to your old friends and reconnect. Be honest, saying something like my husband required us to stay home and to honor him I did. Even tho most people know that will happen when a person gets married, it can cause emotional pain. So I'd say I'm sorry and maybe talk about lessons learned from that. Find out what the friends current situation is and if she had time to add you back into her friend list.

One web site that might work well, is meetup.com. The individual meetups are centered around interests. Some are for dating, some are for activities or social. Find the ones that interest you and start attending. Ladies tend to feel very comfortable in these groups.

 

[rubyinprogress]

Hi rudy,
I can hear the loneliness. Message Michelle on this web site and talk to her.

Go back to your old friends and reconnect. Be honest, saying something like my husband required us to stay home and to honor him I did. Even tho most people know that will happen when a person gets married, it can cause emotional pain. So I'd say I'm sorry and maybe talk about lessons learned from that. Find out what the friends current situation is and if she had time to add you back into her friend list.

One web site that might work well, is meetup.com. The individual meetups are centered around interests. Some are for dating, some are for activities or social. Find the ones that interest you and start attending. Ladies tend to feel very comfortable in these groups.

Thanks, I don't know who Michelle is, but I have talked to several of my old friends. A bunch of us got married the same year and we all kinda got involved with life, kids, etc. My one friend who is still single I have stayed in touch with but she is working and going to school and doesn't have time right now. Her life should calm down about the time I am working and going to school Plus he and I moved 50 miles away and I don't want to move back because my son is in high school and that would be hard on him. I found a large church not too far away with an active singles group. I am going to check that out. Keep my regular church but get involved with that for social events, maybe a Bible study.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Bible studies are a great way to "do life" with other christians in a smaller setting than church. Our singles activities are usually once a month and I mostly end up having to work at my 2nd job so I don't go. The times I have gone though, there are people that come from other churches, maybe cuz they don't have that group at their church or IDK why, but and as dayhiker said meetup.org is another way to meet groups of people.

 

[dayhiker]

I also was wondering how far you two are from each other? You which you might want to post thru the private messages.

 

[rubyinprogress]

I did pm just a few minutes ago. Thanks.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I also was wondering how far you two are from each other? You which you might want to post thru the private messages.

she's right next door to me (kind of). I'm on the edge of one city and she's in the next city.

 

[dayhiker]

kewl ... glad I could introduce you two. If you get married I want the credit!

darn that's twice in two posts I've messed up on! lol

OH, I just had a great idea. Michelle, do you want to be my straight man? I'll pay you really good money? grin

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

kewl ... glad I could introduce you two. If you get married I want the credit!

darn that's twice in two posts I've messed up on! lol

OH, I just had a great idea. Michelle, do you want to be my straight man? I'll pay you really good money? grin

I don't even know what you are saying? First off the one you introduced me to is a female, and your question? I don't even know where you are going with that....

 

[dayhiker]

I was just having some fun ... looks like something was last in the translation ... sorry.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I was just having some fun ... looks like something was last in the translation ... sorry.

Ha ha yeah something is always "last" in the translation with you buddy LOL

 

[dayhiker]

lol ... now an a looks like an o ... grin

 

[exitstageright]

Post here if you are lonely!

I just finalized my divorce from my cheating wife at the end of January. And behold, I have no one to be with on Valentines Day.


Am I sad? Yes, to some degree I am. Am I happy? Actually, I am more happy than I am sad.


Because I know the Good Father in Heaven will take care of me.




So, for all you lonely hearts out there, cheer up, and witness that you are not alone. Our Father takes care of his children.


I would rather be lonely this Valentines day only to know that Yahweh is preparing my future wife. It isn't good for man, or woman, to be alone.

When I first heard this hit song by Supertramp,"Take The Long Way Home",in 1979,little did I know that I was listening to the future of my romantic life.
These lyrics vividly decsibes my romantic life in the past 15 years.

So you think you're a Romeo
playing a part in a picture-show
Take the long way home
Take the long way home

Cos you're the joke of the neighborhood
Why should you care if you're feeling good
Take the long way home
Take the long way home

But there are times that you feel you're part of the scenery
all the greenery is comin' down, boy
And then your wife seems to think you're part of the
furniture oh, it's peculiar, she used to be so nice.

When lonely days turn to lonely nights
you take a trip to the city lights
And take the long way home
Take the long way home

You never see what you want to see
Forever playing to the gallery
You take the long way home
Take the long way home

And when you're up on the stage, it's so unbelievable,
unforgettable, how they adore you,
But then your wife seems to think you're losing your sanity,
oh, calamity, is there no way out?

Does it feel that you life's become a catastrophe?
Oh, it has to be for you to grow, boy.
When you look through the years and see what you could
have been oh, what might have been,
if you'd had more time.

So, when the day comes to settle down,
Who's to blame if you're not around?
You took the long way home
You took the long way home...........

Do any of you have a song that you can strongly identify with? One example would be that song,"All my exes live in Texas"

 

[dayhiker]

I only think of songs and if I can relate when I hear them. So I can't think of one off the top of my head.

exit.. have you hear of Human Awareness Institute (HAI). That might be an interesting weekend for you. I just finished level 1. An amazing experience.

 

[NOTWHATIWAS]

Your apology is accepted. However,I took no offense,as I have lately found myself doing that with my friends. They seem to aapreciate that fact that I can match an appropriate song to their situation.

On Christian Mingle, I reqested to meet women from 45 to 61 years old,since I am now 58 years old. About 98% of them are in their 50's.
I read all the time about women in their 50's complaining that single men MY age only want to date younger women. I am requesting to meet mature women and these mature women overlook me! As Mr. Spock would say,"I fail to see any logic in that!"

Over 50 and praying for you.

 

[Goodbook]

I wouldnt put too much stock in valentines day.

I had a friend once who worked in the florist industry, and he said he hated valentines day with a passion. The day after, nobody wants to buy those roses. Lol.

 

[spider28x]

u know i been single for some time now , yea at first it was very depressing and hoplesness . but now days i feel alot better cuz i learn that while im single i can live . i mean yea im single and i want a god fearing woman but i learn to not worry of finding her but just be myself , be who i really am and i want her to be who she really is . as god love me for me i want to love her for her . but as im not with her rite now i can take this time to do things to make me happy. before i use to sit all day worrying about finding her. all that did was casue stress n n depressing . sometimes it seem that if i dnt be my self then i can find a woman and thinking bout that made me this who am i really ? what are my likes and dislikes what r my hobbies and more questions . thinking of all this and more made me realize im not alone as i thought i mean there are ppl out there who i fit perfect with and if i stop being me and start becoming whati not then my chance with the rite person will fade .

i learn that there a season for everything i mean everything . when i learn this i begin to look at my self n my life where it was going .

i just want to say be ur self always and seek for ur true love . we know what we like and what make us happy in a partner . so we should wait for them to enter our life while we perpare our self for our life n theirs

 

[NOTWHATIWAS]

Well..... I am trying to do that. My church disbanded our sinlges' group. One church,about 20 miles away,used to have a dance every third Saturday of the month. Now we have a dance on the third Saturday every three months. That church wants to have Saturday evenings for the youth,those young punks! JUST KIDDING!

But,it does seems nowadays that singles over 40 are being neglected by our local churches. Most of these Pastors were married in their 20's,probably married their high school sweethearts, living in an ALMOST fairy tale situation,and have NO clue what it is like to be single again in your forties.[/QU

I think it would be awesome if more churches brought back church dances. It would be a great alternative to online dating sites.