The lonely club

[tapero]

Hi, I wish there was a lonely forum on the board, so I thought I'd start a thread. Not to be depressing but just to share. lol

I'm 51 home all the time on disability and it gets pretty lonely. Not many people to call on the phone, know only a few in the area. Sleep a lot. That sort of thing.

I hang out at CF most of the time. Otherwise I'm on biblegateway.com. I don't have hobbies, and the tv is boring. lol so anyway, that's my contributon to the lonely club. Oh and someone here made that beautiful butterfly for me. What talent.

 

[flaglady]

Hi there, tapero. Know exactly what you mean. I have - and shortly will have no more - a little job which I love. It's only 20 hours a week in my swiftly diminishing nursing career. But I love it so much and now they're making me retire! It's not only the money but I love the feeling of having to get up and go somewhere and then to be useful.

So many of my colleagues keep saying "Oh, but you'll have all that time for your church and your garden and shopping, etc" but they don't understand - I already do those things and besides, it doesn't give you that buzz of being useful to other people.

I put a post in my blog the other day, no 73 - do read it, if nothing else, it'll give you a giggle.

But do feel free to e-mail or pm me if you want a chat. I spend quite a bit of time on-line.

Blessings
Jo

 

[tapero]

Dear Jo,

I was so pleased that you posted. You brightened my day. I wish they wouldn't make you retire when you don't want to.

I looked at your post and cracked up! That's what I'm like except with a keyboard on my stomach, and bon bons on the side. (Just kidding.) No bon bons.

I'd love to be friends with you. I'm on all the time.

I will send you a pm.

God bless you, Tapero

 

[C.F.W. Walther]

OK---I'm a guy and to me it's all about fighting.

In '98 I had a bad industrial accident at work. I was in rehab for one year and would wake up in the middle of the night screaming with muscle spasms. In '99 I got disability. I wrecked my cycle in '04 and cryshed my right arm. tore my rotor cup and busted some ribs. In '06 I had a heart attack. Now I don't know but I consider myself blessed by God to be able to get up in the morning and still do daily chores and just about anything I want. I've spent 2 1/2 years out of the last 6 years in rehab. Now I'm not braging or saying I've had it worse than other people because I don't know that. There are a lot of people worse off than I am and I thanks God I am mobile and can get around and do things. Praise GOd from whom all blessings flow and count my blessings. As I said it's all about fighting with God on my side.

 

[tapero]

Dear Radidio, I'm so glad you posted. After reading your post I suppose I thought to myself I've given up the fight. I thank God for your recoveries. You sure have been through a lot and I like how you thank God to be able to do as much as you can. I hope I can regain the fight. I'm working on it. You're post was encouraging. Thank you for sharing that.

 

[angelwind]

I probably fit in the lonely club...have been isolated for ovr 2 years now with various problems...but I have improved some...

Have had a hard time of it lately keeping up with the fight like Radidio said...man...it gets tuff after a while...but the fighting attitude does give one strength somehow. I'm sort of laid to the side right now...LOL

 

[tapero]

I think I know what you mean Angelwind. I'm locked in a box and can't get out. Christ is with me, sustaining me, but I can't get out of the box. Thanks for sharing.

 

[miggles]

Hi Tapero. My I call you Tap? Welcome to the Nest, Tap!

 

[tapero]

Wow!!!!!!!!!! Thank you! Yes, you may call me tap. lol Nice to meet you. I'm feeling less lonely already. Tapero

 

[angelwind]

I think I know what you mean Angelwind. I'm locked in a box and can't get out. Christ is with me, sustaining me, but I can't get out of the box. Thanks for sharing.

I feel like that a lot...the Lord has used this time to bring me a lot of healing in other ways...my faith really gets tested and refined...really attacked at times too...it is very difficult to have long term disabilities...never understood this before. Am still learning...still going thru the fire so to speak.

 

[tapero]

I feel like that a lot...the Lord has used this time to bring me a lot of healing in other ways...my faith really gets tested and refined...really attacked at times too...it is very difficult to have long term disabilities...never understood this before. Am still learning...still going thru the fire so to speak.

God has healed me too in several areas. I think the rest has a lot to do with it also for me. Resting a lot, no stress. Well, there's stress, but minmized. I think too there's an awful lot of guilt from being home, and so I doubt myself sometimes. I pray that God carry you as you go through the fire. Do you find that most people don't understand to boot, which makes it harder and lonlier cause you have to keep so much inside? That's how I find it, though I have decent boundaries I think. So lonely, so lonely. I'm glad you wrote. God bless, Tapero

 

[C.F.W. Walther]

Do you find that most people don't understand to boot, which makes it harder and lonlier cause you have to keep so much inside?

I know the feeling. They figure if your walking, talking and moving that you should function like anyone else. My wife is that way. Even though I tell her of my past (and present) problems she still thinks I can do anything and then when I can't I get the "silent" treatment. It's agravating having to reiterating that I can't function 100% but she doesn't seem to understand that. I guess since we've only been married since Oct 1st and she didn't go through the other "accidents", just the heart attack. Rather frustrating. I have to pace myself. I'll work for a half hour then have to sit down and rest for about 5-10 minutes. Then I can proceed. I'm usually "maxed out" after 2-4 hours.


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[leytonstones]

I am very happy to be in email /im contact with anyone who would like to chat .

Tapero, I would love to send you a postcard from the UK. Please pm me if you would like to receive one.

Blessings

leytonstones

 

[angelwind]

God has healed me too in several areas. I think the rest has a lot to do with it also for me. Resting a lot, no stress. Well, there's stress, but minmized. I think too there's an awful lot of guilt from being home, and so I doubt myself sometimes. I pray that God carry you as you go through the fire. Do you find that most people don't understand to boot, which makes it harder and lonlier cause you have to keep so much inside? That's how I find it, though I have decent boundaries I think. So lonely, so lonely. I'm glad you wrote. God bless, Tapero

I do feel like a lot of people don't understand...I can't go to church anymore, and have no family who "really" want to talk about Jesus...I had a lot of strength to face this once...now not so much, or so it seems to me...have also doubted myself lately...isolation is a definite afflicition...most don't even have a clue what it is like...sometimes, the more I talk about it the worse it gets...yet it does come out...here online...

Now today, I can tell I have a bad attitude...soooo I am waiting it out in the Lord...LOL

I have a lot of guilt from playing at CF...just wonder how legalistic I really am sometimes...

 

[angelwind]

I know the feeling. They figure if your walking, talking and moving that you should function like anyone else. My wife is that way. Even though I tell her of my past (and present) problems she still thinks I can do anything and then when I can't I get the "silent" treatment. It's agravating having to reiterating that I can't function 100% but she doesn't seem to understand that. I guess since we've only been married since Oct 1st and she didn't go through the other "accidents", just the heart attack. Rather frustrating. I have to pace myself. I'll work for a half hour then have to sit down and rest for about 5-10 minutes. Then I can proceed. I'm usually "maxed out" after 2-4 hours.


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My husband is very understanding about my limitations...to look at me, you would think nothing was wrong...but I am weak in body...and very sensitive to what I eat...touch, breathe...once a reaction starts it does not go away...so things add up.

I am better in a way...yet weaker and more infirm...just keep getting older...LOL

Today I am going to try to improve my attitude...the good side of this is I am much more sympathetic to people who are ill...or have any kind of physical struggle...the world doesn't sit around much for them.

Also found I can talk to and relate to people so much better...people of all ages...that is "if" I get out with them once in a while.

 

[C.F.W. Walther]

2 Corinthians 12:9
And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.

All we can do is rest on God's promises that allthough we are weak yet he is strong in us and that he will use us mightly for his kingdom.

Last year when I was still dong prison ministry I would pick up a lady and take her to the prison to see the inmates. I would do this only when Mel coundn't pick her up and she wouldn't miss a chance to go even though she was 96 years old and had to have a walker and a wheelchair to get her to the chapel. The guys adored their "mother" and would flock around the piano when she player the old hymns.

God bless her..............................


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[angelwind]

2 Corinthians 12:9
And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.

All we can do is rest on God's promises that allthough we are weak yet he is strong in us and that he will use us mightly for his kingdom.

Last year when I was still dong prison ministry I would pick up a lady and take her to the prison to see the inmates. I would do this only when Mel coundn't pick her up and she wouldn't miss a chance to go even though she was 96 years old and had to have a walker and a wheelchair to get her to the chapel. The guys adored their "mother" and would flock around the piano when she player the old hymns.

God bless her..............................


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Oh my goodness...that is the power of love for sure...love never fails...but it does not make the headlines much.

 

[AngelDove1]

Hi all you HB
(Home Bodies,not making light of it)

Good to see everyone coming together and shearing.
Sorry to hear bout the pain everyone has gone through.

I also have been on disability for 6 yrs now.

radidio,I can relate to your last post.
My pain is on the inside also.I look healthy from the outside.

I was told by my Dr. that what I have is fibromyalgia/fatigue syndrom.
Attacks the muscles.
When I over do things or stress it can get painful.
I have learned how to pase myself also.

I thank God for CF and other christian site I go to.

Love all you guys thanks for being a part of my beautiful day.

God favor you all with super great caring friends.

 

[C.F.W. Walther]

I had a friend that had FB for years and was slowly dibilitating her. She was so miserable that she finally went to see another doctor and he just told her to get off a certain medication and she is her old self again within months.

Still has FB but nowhere near the synptoms.


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[AngelDove1]

thats cool Radidio..
I don't take Meds for it either.
I do alot of stretch exercise,drink lots of water,
and veggies.Most of all think and talk positive,its importent.

The spiritual part in my life plays a huge role in my recovery.