See, that's the problem. There's always someone who wants to "organize". Someone always wants to make decisions for everyone else. And there will always be someone who feels that the decisions made in his or her behalf are unfair.
There is a difference between organizing and being a dictator. Even here on this forum we have organization. There are various categories set up, there are rules about who can post where and about which topics. We have moderators who administer the site's ongoing progress and help when problems come up.
Are you saying all of that is a problem? Do you think this forum would be better off with no rules, no accountability and no staff to keep it all going? Do you see any contradiction in your reasoning?
I've seen a commune break up because one young mother...an excellent cook who seemed to do a great deal of cooking for the group...had a habit of eating cookie dough. Not a lot, mind you...but enough to really tick off another woman, who seemed to think that her eating a couple of handfuls of dough as she made the cookies would somehow deprive her of her fair share of cookies. Naturally, someone else tried to "organize" by setting up a kitchen schedule...and immediately there was arguing. Not everyone wanted to share kitchen chores, and the young mother who had loved cooking for the group, got her feelings rather badly hurt. She and her husband took their kids and left, and after that, the rest of the group just fell apart.
Wow, she left the community because someone suggested that the kitchen chores be shared? She left because someone didn't think it good for her to eat fistfuls of cookie dough as she was cooking? She left because there was "arguing"? Is that really a reason to give up on the example Jesus set for us in communal living? If someone disagrees with our right to eat handfuls of cookie dough then we leave? Does that really sound reasonable to you?
It also sounds like this young mother who "loved cooking for the group" probably had a pride problem about her cooking. It sounds like she thought of herself as the boss of the kitchen and when someone else came in with suggestions about her eating habits or organizing jobs in the kitchen, she didn't like it. I've seen that happen before. When people are good at working in the kitchen they start to feel as though they are the one responsible for what happens in the kitchen. If anyone else suggests changes which she disagrees with, then she feels she has the right to reject those changes simply because she is the one who does all the cooking for everyone. I've seen this happen with both males and females.
Also, if the whole group falls apart because one person leaves, then were they really following Jesus, or were they following that person? It certainly does sound like this young mother was the leader of the group if it feel apart after she left. Did she ever make any efforts to teach the group that they should not follow her, but instead follow Jesus? If so, what methods did she use to communicate that vital lesson. And if not, why not?
Now, the group was happy before that with the young Mom doing most of the cooking, and other members doing other things that they enjoyed and were good at. Nobody "organized" anything...people just naturally worked together for the good of all...There were a few couples with kids, and some single people, but there was the feeling that we were all part of one family...it was glorious, right up to the argument over cookie dough.
No group of people will be able to work together without some kind of organization. What you are describing is anarchy and although it sounds spiritual and idealistic, it simply does not work. People must work together if they want to succeed at any kind of group goal and it is impossible to work together unless there is some kind of organized way for each member to be a part of what is happening.
This means they must have meetings to discuss various issues. Yes, people should be encouraged to do what they like to do, but they need to talk about what goals they want to achieve and how they can best achieve those goals. Otherwise it's not really a community. It's just a group of people all doing their own thing who just happen to live together. That is not a community.
The funny thing is, I am reminded of that lady every holiday season. See, I went on and married and had kids of my own, and got to be a pretty decent cook myself. And guess what? Cookie dough is pretty darn good stuff!
Sure, most people enjoy sweet foods at times. But the question is, is your right to eat fistfuls of cookie dough really more important than working together with other Christians? If someone expresses a concern about how much sweets you are eating, is that a good reason to become upset and forsake the assembling together of yourselves?
If someone suggests that the cooking duty be shared by several people, rather than just one (or maybe two) people who want to do all the cooking, is that really a good reason to become angry and leave? Doesn't that suggest a deeper problem in the person who becomes so angry that she feels it's worth forsaking the community. Why not just let other people share the cooking duties? What's the problem with that?