John Calvin's Institutes of Religion is the defining document of Calvinism. If you have never read it right through (as I have), you would have absolutely no idea of what Calvinism actually is. What you are believing is an extremist view, and not what Calvin taught at all.
Did you know that right up to the 1960s, people thought that New Zealanders wore grass skirts like natives, had dirt roads, and still had hitching rails for horses in the streets! Problem is, they were believing stuff that were the basis of rumour, instead of actually coming here and seeing what New Zealand is really like!
This is the same with many who spout of whole lot of nonsense about Calvinism. They take one minor aspect of it, which is a mystery anyway, forget the rest, and say that Calvinism is false!
Tell that to George Whitefield, a strict Calvinist, who started the type of evangelism that Billy Graham was famous for, and won thousands to Christ. Read his sermons and see whether his brand of Calvinism fits in with your uninformed theory!
Going back to the 1600s, John Flavell, a strict Puritan Calvinist, evangelised and urged many to turn to Christ. He was famous for his soul-winning ministry. Also, Joseph Alleine, who wrote An Alarm To The Unconverted, was tireless in his efforts to win souls for Christ, and was imprisoned for it. Charles Spurgeon, probably the greatest soul-winner of the 19th Century, a strong defender of Calvinism. Read his sermons, and see whether they fit in with your views.
You see, with the overwhelming amount of evidence from real Calvinists who won thousands upon thousands to Christ through their preaching and evangelism, your extremist views go down like a lead zeppelin!