Can you show one that says it isn't?
Yes. Though, let me first preface this by saying that the burden of proof is not on me, for I’m not the one arguing from silence. That is, God’s Word talks a lot about judgment to salvation and damnation, and whenever it does, it exclusively talks about these two outcomes. So this is to get at an exegetical point: Whenever we want to learn what the Bible says on any given topic, we should allow the texts that deal with the topic to govern the texts that don't.
Having said this, the Bible does express that repentance is not possible after death nor in the resurrection, and in no vague terms:
(1) Repentance is not possible after death — cf. Christ's story of Lazarus and the rich man in Luke 16:19-31. Specifically, it says, talking about heaven and hell:
"Besides all this, between us and you a great chasm has been fixed, in order that those who would pass from here to you may not do so, and none may cross from there to us."
(2) Repentance is not possible after death nor in the resurrection — cf. The description of God's rest and who enters it in Hebrews 3:7-19. Specifically, it says:
"And with whom was he provoked for forty years? Was it not with those who sinned, whose bodies fell in the wilderness? And to whom did he swear that they would not enter his rest, but to those who were disobedient? So we see that they were unable to enter because of unbelief." That is, they died in unbelief and were blotted out and are unable to enter God's rest.
So, in sum, not only does the Bible never speak of repentance in the resurrection, it speaks against it.
I think the person who hates and reects out Lord is relative scarce. For the most part non-Christians are those who follow some ofhter religion, or none, and who give out Lord little or no thought. I always hold up one my Korean great grandfathers who they tell me rejected Christanity as just another strange foreign religion. He didn't hate our Lord, he gave HIm no thought at all.
Net-net is that I think that attributing malice toward God to all unbelievers is simply yet another attempt to make the idea of eternal conscious torment a little less barbarous. If we're roasting fairly nice folks because they were a bit hard-headed then it doesn't sound either loving or just, it just sounds vicious.
What does Jesus express in the parable of the sower regarding how people reject Him? He gives examples of how people reject Him in different ways. You can read it for yourself in Matthew 13, but just as a summary: Some people reject God by being enticed by evil, some reject Him out of fear and selfishness, some reject Him out of their love, comfort and trust in the world. Or, again, see how people reject Him in His parable of the wedding feast in Matthew 22, where He says of those who reject Him:
"They paid no attention and went off, one to his farm, another to his business, while the rest seized his servants, treated them shamefully, and killed them."
In short, those who reject God reject Him by siding with the devil, the world, and their own sinful nature. And if we understand sin as some arbitrary list of stuff we can't do, we are gravely mistaken. For to sin is to rebel against God. It is to reject God and attempt to crown ourselves our own "lord". For in sinning, we say to God:
"You don't know what's good, I know what's good. I will not listen to you, I will listen to myself. You are not my God, I am my own lord." And if we reject God, He who is good and the source of all that is good, we not only reject God, but that which is good, which is to embrace evil, which is to be evil. This is why our Lord plainly says of us:
"You are evil." This is why He calls us to repentance.
Those who reject God and His grace reject Him by what evil they do, say, and think, and what good they fail to do. That is, before God, we are all guilty of sin. Before God, no one is righteous — not even one. We are all guilty, every one of us, even if we have a weak understanding of sin and its severity and consequences. For clear passages on this, I can recommend reading Romans 1-3 and then further for God's good promises through Jesus.
Now, I can quickly mention here that living in Japan and having family members who have no regard or thought about Christ is lamentable. Yet, I recognise that God is merciful and that His judgments are good, for He is good. That is, the heart of God is manifest in His Son, Jesus Christ, so we don't have to worry about God judging unfairly, because no one is more gracious and just than God, who died for sinners.
Can I encourage you to read about God’s judgment of Satan in 2 Peter 2? There is no indication of redemption there. That would be a reading into the text.
I believe that one means eternal life, and one means eterla death, in the sense of being made to have never existed, eternally erased from time and space. Bothe merciful and just. "For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life". Infernalists believe that the wages of sin is eternal life nder torture. Not what it says at all. "Oh, but "death" doesn't really mean death, it really means torture." Baloney.
Yeah, God's Word describes hell and condemnation in a variety of words. Let me be clear: We don't know what it is, but based on the imagery were are given by God, we can know it to be terrible. God warns us against it, calling it a place of shame and everlasting contempt (Daniel 12:2), a place of torment (Luke 16:23-25), outer darkness with weeping and gnashing of teeth (Matthew 8:12), a lake of fire and sulphur where there is torment day and night for ever and ever (Revelation 20:10), a place where the worm does not die and the fire is not quenched (Isaiah 66:24, Mark 9:48), a place where both body and soul is destroyed (Matthew 10:28), and a place without God's mercy (James 2:13).
So, in a word, what is described as a lake of fire is also called the second death.
Revelation 20:14:
"Then Death and Hades were thrown into the lake of fire. This is the second death, the lake of fire."
Revelation 21:8:
"But as for the cowardly, the faithless, the detestable, as for murderers, the sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars, their portion will be in the lake that burns with fire and sulphur, which is the second death."
How many actually reject grace, as simply not having embraced it? This is simply making ECT sound less barbarous again. "Oh, but they chose to be tormented!" Nobody actually believes that.
This post is getting rather long and I already touched on this above — However, to expand a little on it in answer to your objection let me offer you a simple thought:
Suppose a man commits a few crimes every day, thinking that it either has no consequence or that he can get away with it, only to one day suddenly be faced prison charges. Now, it's not as if the man compared prison with freedom and said to himself:
"You know what? I choose prison! I don't want freedom." No sensible person would think that, as you say yourself. Rather, every time he committed a crime, he chose prison. Do you see the difference? Now, the nature of sin is far more complex than this, but what I wanted to illustrate here, in very simple terms, is that when we sin, we do in fact merit for ourselves condemnation, and that is our by our own sinful choice and will.
To wrap up this post, it can be helpful to reverse our thinking when we contemplate the reality of sin and damnation. That is, instead of considering damnation as an unreasonable consequence of sin, we should instead ask ourselves: How terrible is sin that merits such a terrible consequence? And the more we reflect on this, that is, the weight and corruption of sin, the more we see the great sacrifice of Christ, who bore the sin of the whole world on His shoulders and was nailed to the cross and forsaken by the Father; and His strength in overcoming sin, death, and hell!
In a word, though sin is great, God's mercy is greater. Yet, if we reject Christ, what mercy is there? Acts 4:11-12 reads:
"Jesus is the stone that was rejected by you, the builders, which has become the cornerstone. And there is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved." And God promises in Mark 16:16:
"Whoever believes and is baptised will be saved, but whoever does not believe will be condemned."