stuggle with wanting any phys. relationship

[meandonlyme]

i have a hard time not being scared of any part of a phys. realtionship with my girlfriend.
we've dated for almost 3 months now and i am still scared ...not that we are doing anything "bad" but i have been abused in my past and it hurts still and i feel so bad that it effects me when i try to be with her when she touches me when she kisses me i dont want to hurt her and i dont want to let this hurt us im scared

 

[GodIsTheOnlyOne]

how will you get hurt by you ****ing the **** out of her pussay? not getting it here, so youll get hurt if you use her like a blowup doll.. IMO violate that girl twice a day

 

[goliwog]

Hey man I can relate to that , Your problem is based on timing and wisdom

"To everything there is a season and a time for every purpose under heaven.. ecc3v1" "A time to embrace a time to reframe (v5)"


If you feal uncomfortable there are always alternatives. for example My girl friend feals kissing is sinful (although I do not) and so we have come to an agree ment instead of kissing we rub noses ... (eskimos do this also because its to cold) But yer just oray to God to supply you with enough wisdom to know what time you need to complete what purpose

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Well, talk to her. Tell her what is going on with you.

 

[meandonlyme]

i know i know ...we have talked about it and we have sat and see the problems and we know what we can and cant do. but even the things we do are scary to me the point that scares me is that i might hurt her ..past part comes in to play here...but we have talked it all out and we think that i need to face my fears to get over them which seems good and i know she wants a phys. realtionship aswell and i would feel really bad about not doing anything with her since she wants to ... buts just hard and scary im slowing beeing more comfortable with her and with the things we do so ..im just venting thank you all for the replys