Struggling With Lust.

[Bearer of Christ]

This is so awkward, posting this info on a forum.

I've been dealing with sex (particularly of the auto-erotic kind) for quite a while now, and am in need of some help.

I know most of the arguments ("Onan spilt his seed so God opened up a can of Wrath on him," "Onan is completely irrelevant," "It feels good and it's natural," "Just because it feels good and natural doesn't mean that God wants us to," etc.) I really don't care about the arguments for or against it. I've decided that, ever since I started masturbating, my life has never felt so empty, so I've decided to avoid it if at all possible.

However, even while I am trying to avoid it, I am still drawn to sins of the flesh. I ask the Lord to help purge me of temptation, which offers some help, but it is often shortlived. And this hypersexed culture we live in doesn't help so just removing myself from the situation isn't feasable and even then, the image continues to linger even if I distract myself with other thoughts. How can I effectively become less concerned with sex and be able to curb these urges when they begin?

 

[Windmill]

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[mikey12561]

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After review thread was moved to here and is no open. Thanks Recovery Team for the Help
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[Bellicus]

The bible never mention masturbation, so I won't tell anyone that it is a sin. However it is my personal belief that it is something that have to do with the sinful human nature, and not something that really benefit the Christian life. But that can be said about many things in life too. I think the most important thing is to not dwell to much in it and not make it a god in our life that is above God.

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What helps for me is to live close to God, a life in the Spirit.

What makes it worse is to try to get away from it by my own power.

I never experienced to find something that made me stop wanting sex though.

 

[Mack7]

Greetings and may God bless all who read. Bearer, it is good to remember to first, keep praying to God for strength. Thanking and receiving His divine help in faith. Secondly, I would start replacing the negative thoughts with the fact that God is always present and there to lead and guide you. Stay in the Word of God as often as possible.

Any movies, t.v. shows, magazines, etc. that would contribute to your being tempted is going to take effort on your part to turn away. God will grant you the strength to overcome. Keep praying, be persistent, BELIEVE. Remember what is written in Psalms 119:5-7, "Thou hast commanded us to keep thy precepts diligently. O that my ways WERE DIRECTED to keep thy statutes! Then shall I not be ashamed, when I have respect unto all thy commandments." Amen?

Notice the caps in the scripture. God will direct you in the right path if you just keep seeking and trusting in Him. May the Lord continue to bless and keep you Bearer.

 

[GodsSalvation]

sorry

 

[Bearer of Christ]

My apologies for not following up on the topic. Been pretty busy and all.

Thank you Mack for helping me out on this and reminding me that, even if the effect of asking God for strength is shortlived, that He is always with me, and there when I need him.

God bless,
Christopher.

 

[Johnnz]

Maybe when you are over 70 your sex drive will have bated somewhat.
Seriously though, you won't become asexual - no sexual dive or interest. What is needed is a good understanding of what normal, healthy sexual development is and then work through what behaviours you want to avoid as a Christian. Living with a mature sex drive as a single person is not always that comfortable, but thing are far worse if you add perpetual guilt and unnecessary conflict into the mix.

John
NZ