Struggling with Homosexuality Looking for Support

[Elhannon]

Hello, I am an 18 year old Christian who has been a believer since he was five. I have been struggling with homosexuality for about 6 or 7 years now and mostly I am just looking for consistent support and accountability from others, male or female who have or still do struggle with homosexuality. Here is a bit of a background about me.
I was raised in a strong Christian home, with a loving supporting family, and two wonderful parents. I've always struggled with pride and contrariness and I believe that this in some ways led to my homosexuality along with natural sexual inclinations. I think part of me thought that I didn't have to worry about following sexual rules, because I was a good Christian who would never struggle with lust, let alone homosexuality. I'm not really sure when I realized that I was attracted to men; it subtly became part of who I was. Eventually, I started to look at gay porn, then I started masturbating, and a large part of me says that if I was presented with the right opportunity, I would sleep with a guy. Not only would I, but I want to so badly.
I haven't really shared this with anyone except for one friend, except that she recently abandoned Christianity for Humanism and pansexuality. This really set me back since she was my closest friend, and part of my was so scared that if she, who is very similar to me, made this choice how far was I? I would like to tell my family for support and honesty except I don't know if some of my family members would truly talk to me again. They wouldn't disown me or be aggressive, I think that they might just pull back permanently. I am not really able to talk to a pastor as I'm only just settling into a church near my college and don't have a church away from college because of some issues with my previous church.
I should note that although I struggle with homosexuality, I am still sometimes attracted to women, although it's much rarer and never as strong.
Thank you if you read this long post and please pray about being accountable with me or advising me. God bless you and have a good time of day.

 

[Contrar]

I have also struggled with homosexuality for a few years, and as such, I would love to be accountable with you. It still would be best to be accountable to someone you can actually meet with in person, but it looks like you don't have anyone you can trust enough yet. farewell.

 

[lordworshipper]

I've prayed and prayed to stop being attracted to men, but I'm still struggling. It's hard. I'd be careful who you tell, alot of people aren't going to be understanding in most churches. I'll say that its not caused by pride or anything, its a part of who you are.

At least you're attracted to women as well, I'm not. I never was.

You're 18? You've had these attractions for 7 years? That's just about the entirety of your post-puberty life. You were probably born attracted to men and women, but didn't notice it until you started to reach puberty.

If you want to go for women instead of men, just tell yourself that. Say to yourself that you want to have a wife and kids. That may not work.

 

[Divus]

Overcoming homosexual feelings as a Christian will always be hard. I would avoid telling anyone in Church because they never seem to understand. From my two gay friends I have noticed something; the absence of a male figure. The first of my friends only has female friends and he rarely see's his father. My other friend's father died just after his birth and his brothers were in jail. The only people he had around him were females. I'm not doubting homosexual feelings are natural but I'm sure there is a binding force from environments. Back on topic - For now I would say to keep your feelings on these forums, people are here to help. Family and friends don't understand as well. It's hard but you just have to soldier through and remember that God loves you and he wouldn't burden you with something you cannot handle! You can always message me if you want to talk God-bless.

- Divus

 

[Girder of Loins]

So are you feeling guilty, or convicted? Do you feel the need to change your sexual attraction, or change how you express it? I would suggest as a first step to combat your masturbation and porn struggles.

 

[Guitaroman]

You sound alot like me bro, hang in there and we'll pray for each other.

 

[boundtofall]

Sounds so much like me! I have been searching and praying for an answer to this for a very long time. Every pastor and every Christian I know and every church I've gone to believe that homosexuality or in my case bisexuality is sinful. I find myself asking so...so many times how can God punish me for a feeling i cannot control? While in my search I found some verses that were very interesting. Please see this site www dot ukapologetics dot net/trans dot htm titled Transexuals in the Church? A Christian Approach to Transexuality titled Transexuals in the Church? A Christian Approach to Transexuality. Please remember that I am NOT telling you it is ok to be gay just trying to find answers like you and perhaps we can help each other out. I am also going to create a new post asking for help as my situation differs a little from yours. I hope you come and read it.

 

[rafalle777]

Hey all, what must I do to be saved?
Please pray for me
I do really wish for a change

 

[bookit]

Admitting your feelings and desires is the first step to healing (1Jo 1:9). You are in the right track. The only way you are going to survive this is through faith and dedication towards God (Mar 12:30-31). Stay away from the porn as it is very seductive and will poison your soul (Mat 6:22-23). Please feel free to IM me.

 

[Guitaroman]

Hey all, what must I do to be saved?
Please pray for me
I do really wish for a change

As do I, I still find myself attracted to some males but at least I do find myself attracted to females as well. Maybe we should help each other with tips and prayer on what to do to combat our desires.

 

[Chris86Amerie]

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I read the Bible a few times and it does mention men exchange lusts for one another and they ended up with the dewl pentaly for the errors or something. Can't exactly remember what page that was but it said something like that in the Bible. I feel certain people become that way from the genes in your family tree correct? I really don't know sorry. Just know that God loves everyone and I hope you find a solution to your sins. God Bless

 

[Esmy]

A lot of people don't understand the struggle of someone who has attraction to the same sex. I have lived a homosexual life for so many years. There is a way to overcome homosexuality, but you have to be willing to let go of a lot of stuff. There is nothing impossible for GOD. I found that the reason I kept falling into masturbation and with other guys was because I had too much time in my hand. The Word says, in 1 Thessalonians 5:17, "Pray without ceasing". Meaning always have a communication with GOD. It does not mean that you are going to be on your knees praying, but you would have to meditate in the Lord all day. I can help you overcome homosexuality, but first you need to understand what is going on within yourself. Because many people say that it is a demon, but the bible says something else. First thing is understand your struggle then learn how to overcome that struggle. Don't ask GOD to take it away because that does not help. You need to ask God to help you renew your mind. All struggles comes from the mind. To overcome homosexuality you need The Word, Prayer and Support. Then GOD will give you the victory. I am willing to help you all.

 

[xmack21x]

im 21 and im struggle too ..its so so hard.