Struggling with Gender Issues

[GentleTobias]

Hi everyone,

I'm new to this forum. I wanted to join because I saw a couple people who also struggle with the same issue that I constantly deal with day after day. I have been dealing with gender issues all my life. I feel like a woman trapped in a man's body. I just want to be myself. I only have my christian counselor to open up to and he doesn't have much experience with this issue. I really wish I was born a girl physically. I have been struggling with being myself and wanting to honor God. I'm not sure what God wants me to do at this point. I'm really confused. If anyone is willing to pray for me I would really appreciate it. Feel free to message me especially if you are going through the same thing or just would like to talk.

Thanks.

 

[Criada]

I don't have any helpful advice I'm afraid, but I'm praying for you brother.
Remember, God loves you unconditionally, and He has a plan for you.

 

[jennimatts]

Welcome to the forum.

I will be praying for you.

 

[GentleTobias]

Thank you for the prayer and encouragement.

 

[PerfectinProgress]

Don't let Satan cloud your mind. God does not make any mistakes when making anyone. During my time of confusion, I thought that my life would've been better as a girl. As a teen, the girls in my school got way more attention and people seemed to like them more. I wanted that, I wanted to be loved. After weekly sessions with my Bible teacher, we figured out that this desire kicks in (for me) whenever I feel insecure about myself. More importantly, I felt insecure about the man that God made me to be. I don't know if this is the case for you, but this desire to want to be a woman has to start somewhere or be triggered by something.
If you were to pursue a life as a woman, you would have to tear down the design that God gave you from the start. Don't do that. When God was making you at the time, He chose not to make another "macho" man. He needed a (sensitive, emotional, caring, etc) man. He saw the need for you as male. So don't destroy what He made. Find strength in God's plan for your life.

 

[GentleTobias]

Being transgender is a real issue. It's not just the fact that I think girls have it better or that I just want to be one. I am one inside. I have gone through countless therapy sessions with a Christian counselor trying to look at it from multiple angles. I have tried repressing it and when I did that my mental health got worse. I have gone to God with this numerous times and still I struggle. I literally am female inside and not once my entire life have I felt male. Masculinity has never fit. I've had my own parents tell me that who I am is wrong. That I need to act this way and that etc. I don't have all the answers but God does and I'm trying to seek him in this. God doesn't make mistakes but this world is also a fallen one. Thank you for the reply and I'm glad that you were able to resolve your issues. God bless

 

[Brianlear]

<staff edit> There must be a reason/purpose for it. If I was your father, I'd accept you just as you are. Maybe your role is to be like a bridge between the sexes or something. <staff edit> Perhaps you exist to show people the fact that God is beyond, and above gender. Have you tried orienting yourself like this?

 

[StephanieSomer]

Don't let Satan cloud your mind. God does not make any mistakes when making anyone.

Exactly!
And He has made people with cleft palates, heart disfigurements, extra or nonexistent appendages, conjoined twins, etc.....
However, along with all these different kinds of people He created, He has also provided us with the means to treat most of the things commonly referred to as "deformity" to allow these people to experience the love and care of other people who come alongside them to help them acheive a semblance of normalcy in this life.
I agree wholeheartedly that God creates NO mistakes. Although for many decades I felt I WAS a mistake and prayed, fasted, requested prayer, and saw counselors to escape what I honestly felt was an affliction, I finally found grace to believe God had created me just as He wanted me. When I accepted that as His plan I found out how marvelous He actually had created me. I realized the true blessing of being transsexual and the many abilities I possess. I now celebrate that which I formerly rejected and sought to escape. It is my intense hope and desire that my brothers and sisters in Christ will prayerfully study what the Word honestly has to say about us, instead of simply repeating what they are told, inserting Scripture into a societal judgement against us in an attempt to degrade God's creation.
GentleTobias, if I can be of any assistance to you, please don't hesitate to PM me.