Well I found my faith in God but there is a sin i struggle with. Lust and fortification. I have a small porn addiction although not too severe. Lately I've been able to stop for the most part thanks to god's help but I still struggle. Me and my girlfriend have committed sexual acts before such as foreplay and I have huge urges for it again. I tried to cut masturbation because it causes lust but I couldn't even think about God because the urges were so built up and alls i could do was lust. I am 14 and the teen hormones don't help at all, when my girlfriend comes over i get so horny that I get blue balls from the pressure build up. I don't know how I can truly stop and it's so very hard, and 4 more years before being able to get married feels far too long, and the bible says let everyman have his own wife but of course with our laws we can't marry for years after we start to sexually mature. Anyways i don't know how to hold back please some advice :c
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Struggling with fornification and Lust
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14 is a bit too young in my books to be into an intimate relationship. You both have a lot of maturing to do before making any decision about a lifelong commitment.
I assume she is pretty willing too?
I suggest call a halt to the relationship for now (painful, but not fatal), learn to live with your sex drive in a healthy way, get into learning, living and being a guy who will make a great partner for someone one day, and develop good social relationships with others your age.
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I assume she is pretty willing too?
I suggest call a halt to the relationship for now (painful, but not fatal), learn to live with your sex drive in a healthy way, get into learning, living and being a guy who will make a great partner for someone one day, and develop good social relationships with others your age.
John
NZ
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sigh....
i think one advice i can give you is do not dwell on it, believe me , the more you think about it , the harder it is, when you think you are getting lustful thoughts, tried to get busy.
my husband seem to think cold showers works for men quite well too
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14 is really young so abstain from porn as much as you can.
You need to discipline yourself to better habits and it needs to start now.
If you breakdown and fall off the wagon
do not beat yourself up simply restart your path to abstinance.
I think if you truly do feel this upset about the situation and your want to be
'clean' in Gods way then it should be easier to speak with your gf.
Maybe she is struggling with this as well and feels the same.
i wish you success as the road is long and the day is good!
You need to discipline yourself to better habits and it needs to start now.
If you breakdown and fall off the wagon
do not beat yourself up simply restart your path to abstinance.
I think if you truly do feel this upset about the situation and your want to be
'clean' in Gods way then it should be easier to speak with your gf.
Maybe she is struggling with this as well and feels the same.
i wish you success as the road is long and the day is good!
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